more content.
Note in these statements the willingness to perceive herself as she is, to accept herself
"realistically," to perceive and accept her "bad" attitudes as well as "good" ones. This realism
seems to be accompanied by a sense of freedom and contentment. Miss Vib, whose attitudes
were quoted earlier, wrote out her own feelings about counseling some six weeks after the
interviews were over, and gave the statement to her counselor. She begins:
The happiest outcome of therapy has been a new feeling about myself. As I think
of it, it might be the only outcome. Certainly it is basic to all the changes in my
behavior that have resulted.
In discussing her experience in therapy she states:
I was coming to see myself as a whole. I began to realize that I am one person.
This was an important insight to me. I saw that the former good academic
achievement, job success, ease in social situations, and the present withdrawal,
dejection, apathy and failure were all adaptive behavior, performed by me. This
meant that I had to reorganize my feelings about myself, no longer holding to the
unrealistic notion that the very good adjustment was the expression of the real
"me" and this neurotic behavior was not. I came to feel that I am the same
person, sometimes functioning maturely, and sometimes assuming a neurotic
role in the face of what I had conceived as insurmountable problems. The
acceptance of myself as one person gave me strength in the process of
reorganization. Now I had a substratum, a core of unity on which to work
As she continues her discussion there are such statements as:
I am getting more happiness in being myself. I approve of myself more, and I
have so much less anxiety.
As in the previous example, the outstanding aspects appear to be the realization that all of her
behavior "belonged" to her, that she could accept both the good and bad features about herself
and that doing so gave her a release from anxiety and a feeling of solid happiness. In both
instances there is only incidental reference to the serious "problems" which had been initially
discussed.
Since Miss Mir is undoubtedly above average intelligence and Miss Vib is a person with some
psychological training, it may appear that such results are found only with the sophisticated
individual. To counteract this opinion a quotation may be given from a statement written by a
veteran of limited ability and education who had just completed counseling, and was asked to
write whatever reactions he had to the experience. He says:
As for the consoleing [sic] I have had I can say this, It really makes a man strip
his own mind bare, and when he does he knows then what he realy [sic] is and
what he can do. Or at least thinks he knows himself party well. As for myself, I
know that my ideas were a little too big for what I realy [sic] am, but now I realize
one must try start out at his own level.
Now after four visits, I have a much clearer picture of myself and my future. It
makes me feel a little depressed and disappointed, but on the other hand, it has
taken me out of the dark, the load seems a lot lighter now, that is I can see my
way now, I know what I want to do, I know about what I can do, so now that I can
see my goal, I will be able to work a whole lot easyer [sic], at my own level.
Although the expression is much simpler one notes again the same two elements -- the
acceptance of self as it is, and the feeling of easiness, of lightened burden, which accompanies
it.
As we examine many individual case records and case recordings, it appears to be possible to
bring together the findings in regard to successful therapy by stating another hypothesis in
regard to that portion of the perceptual field which we call the self. It would appear that when all
of the ways in which the individual perceives himself -- all perceptions of the qualities, abilities,
impulses, and attitudes of the person, and all perceptions of himself in relation to others -- are
accepted into the organized conscious concept of the self, then this achievement is
accompanied by feelings of comfort and freedom from tension which are experienced as
psychological adjustment.
This hypothesis would seem to account for the observed fact that the comfortable perception of
self which is achieved is sometimes more positive than before, sometimes more negative.
When the individual permits all his perceptions of himself to be organized into one pattern, the
picture is sometimes more flattering than he has held in the past, sometimes less flattering. It is
always more comfortable.
It may be pointed out also that this tentative hypothesis supplies an operational type of
definition, based on the client's internal frame of reference, for such hitherto vague terms as
"adjustment," "integration," and "acceptance of self." They are defined in terms of perception, in
a way which it should be possible to prove or disprove. When all of the organic perceptual
experiences -- the experiencing of attitudes, impulses, abilities and disabilities, the experiencing
of others and of "reality" -- when all of these perceptions are freely assimilated into an
organized and consistent system, available to consciousness, then psychological adjustment or
integration might be said to exist. The definition of adjustment is thus made an internal affair,
rather than dependent upon an external "reality."
Something of what is meant by this acceptance and assimilation of perceptions about the self
may be illustrated from the case of Miss Nam, a student. Like many other clients she gives
evidence of having experienced attitudes and feelings which are defensively denied because
they are not consistent with the concept or picture she holds of herself. The way in which they
are first fully admitted into consciousness, and then organized into a unified system may be
shown by excerpts from the recorded interviews. She has spoken of the difficulty she has had
in bringing herself to write papers for her university courses.
I just thought of something else which perhaps hinders me, and that is that again
it's two different feelings. When I have to sit down and do (a paper), though I
have a lot of ideas, underneath I think I always have the feeling that I just can't
do it.... I have this feeling of being terrifically confident that I can do something,
without being willing to put the work into it. At other times I'm practically afraid of
what I have to do....
Note that the conscious self has been organized as "having a lot of ideas," being "terrifically
confident" but that "underneath," in other words not freely admitted into consciousness, has
been the experience of feeling "I just can't do it." She continues:
I'm trying to work through this funny relationship between this terrific confidence
and then this almost fear of doing anything.... and I think the kind of feeling that I
can really do things is part of an illusion I have about myself of being, in my
imagination, sure that it will be something good and very good and all that, but
whenever I get down to the actual task of getting started, it's a terrible feeling of
-- well, incapacity, that I won't get it done either the way I want to do it, or even
not being sure how I want to do it.
Again the picture of herself which is present in consciousness is that of a person who is "very
good," but this picture is entirely out of line with the actual organic experience in the situation.
Later in the same interview she expresses very well the fact that her perceptions are not all
organized into one consistent conscious self.
I'm not sure about what kind of a person I am -- well, I realize that all of these are
a part of me, but I'm not quite sure of how to make all of these things fall in line.
In the next interview we have an excellent opportunity to observe the organization of both of
these conflicting perceptions into one pattern, with the resultant sense of freedom from tension
which has been described above,
It's very funny, even as I sit here I realize that I have more confidence in myself,
in the sense that when I used to approach new situations I would have two very
funny things operating at the same time. I had a fantasy that I could do anything,
which was a fantasy which covered over all these other feelings that I really
couldn't do it, or couldn't do it as well as I wanted to, and it's as if now those two
things have merged together, and it is more real, that a situation isn't either
testing myself or proving something to myself or anyone else. It's just in terms of
doing it. And 1 think I have done away both with that fantasy and that fear.... So I
think I can go ahead and approach things -- well, just sensibly.
No longer is it necessary for this client to "cover over" experiences. Instead the picture of
herself as very able, and the experienced feeling of complete inability, have now been brought
together into one integrated pattern of self as a person with real, but imperfect abilities. Once
the self is thus accepted the inner energies making for self-actualization are released and she
attacks her life problems more efficiently.
Observing this type of material frequently in counseling experience would lead to a tentative
hypothesis of maladjustment, which like the other hypothesis suggested, focuses on the
perception of self. It might be proposed that the tensions called psychological maladjustment
exist when the organized concept of self (conscious or available to conscious awareness) is not
in accord with the perceptions actually experienced.
This discrepancy between the concept of self and the actual perceptions seems to be
explicable only in terms of the fact that the self concept resists assimilating into itself any
percept which is inconsistent with its present organization. The feeling that she may not have
the ability to do a paper is inconsistent with Miss Nam's conscious picture of herself as a very
able and confident person, and hence, though fleetingly perceived, is denied organization as a
part of her self, until this comes about in therapy.
The Conditions of Change of Self Perception
If the way in which the self is perceived has as close and significant a relationship to behavior
as has been suggested, then the manner in which this perception may be altered becomes a
question of importance. If a reorganization of self-perceptions brings a change in behavior; if
adjustment and maladjustment depend on the congruence between perceptions as
experienced and the self as perceived, then the factors which permit a reorganization of the
perception of self are significant.
Our observations of psychotherapeutic experience would seem to indicate that absence of any
threat to the self-concept is an important item in the problem. Normally the self resists
incorporating into itself those experiences which are inconsistent with the functioning of self.
But a point overlooked by Lecky and others is that when the self is free from any threat of
attack or likelihood of attack, then it is possible for the self to consider these hitherto rejected
perceptions, to make new differentiations, and to reintegrate the self in such a way as to
include them.
An illustration from the case of Miss Vib may serve to clarify this point. In her statement written
six weeks after the conclusion of counseling Miss Vib thus descr
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