As Ashtar has stated, let go of the 3D paradigm, of which ego is a part.
Ivo: The point I was making to you, my love, on this subject is that you have a particular dislike for those whose low self esteem portrays them as superior, those with a need to control and to be better than others.
You pointed out that they are two heads on the same coin and you are correct. Superiority and inferiority are two ends of the same continuum. It has to do with power and ego. Those who wish to dominate and take charge see themselves as more powerful than others.
Those who wish to be recessive, submissive or invisible as you have called it, take the inferior stance to others.
You believe, having been raised to be submissive, that this was what was done to you. It was not. Your parents treated you this way and yes, there is a certain willingness to please and to listen to parents in order to be shown the ropes of life, but do not think that all children listen to their parents. You see many situations where this is not the case.
This is part of the misunderstanding of the submissive: that this was done to you. No, you took it on as a response to life, as a way of protecting yourself. It did not work.
However, my love, as a teenager already you were showing your rebellious side. Already rebelling against what your parents had taught you you are. You knew better already at that time.
Being submissive, inferior is a choice. Being dominant, superior is also a choice. Make better choices.
Also inherent to this ego continuum is a fear of being the opposite. For many years the superior male was cajoled by insults of throwing a baseball like a girl, fighting like a girl, being a cry baby. Yes, much needs to be changed. I shake my head. And some has changed.
For the submissive woman, the fear of being a bitch prevails, and this insult is thrown at her every time she takes a stand for herself.
Not so much now. These things are even changing to the opposite – the women dominate and the man is submissive moreso than was in the past.
However, it is still the wrong choice.
The fact is, one extreme fears the other extreme. Those who pose as superior fear being inferior. Those who pose as inferior fear being superior. It is fear based behaviour and the catalyst for change has been stymied by more fear – the fear of becoming one's opposite.
Move towards behaviour that is fear-less. That behaviour is based in love.
Leave the power over others structure behind.
Me: So how do we do that?
Ivo: Look at your intentions. The intention to malign or bully others is a form of this: to show dominance. The intention to be overly nice to others is a form of this: to be submissive, or to show the inferior, the goal of course, is to placate others who may take offense.
The way to overcome these things is to understand the dynamic as it plays out in your culture and in your age groups and to decide that all are equal. All are equal to oneself. And that there is nothing to fear, only fear itself.
So you are not better than nor worse than anyone else, regardless of the way they may treat you. And you do not have the right to treat them as such either. Regardless of how they treat you.
Do not let others' treatment of you dictate your response. Always choose to respond in the higher way that you prefer to live by.
For example, my dear, when you come across those of superior ego, when you know there is no superiority involved at all, simply pretense – allow the person to be who they wish to show themselves as and pass them over. Send them love. Perhaps this will raise their vibration higher so they can see the error of their ways.
Yes, you are a reactor. You come from a long line of reactors and it is not easy for you to not react when you come across falsehoods. You have spent your life in search of the truth of life, and are not interested in dealing with those who not only are living a lie, but who do it in an annoying fashion. But you must remove the label of annoying. Have compassion for this person as they are living this lie. Base your response in love.
Me: Yes, before I block them.
Ivo: You have no need for the negativity anymore. Yes. Block if you must. You wish to keep your group a place of sanity in an insane world. I commend you for this.
Me: Thank you.
Remember to have compassion for all, even the one who would bully you.
Me: And not because you think they're pathetic either. There's no compassion in that. I just thought of one troll who I found to be pathetic but he's on his own path in life and that's where he is. Who am I to judge?
Ivo: Exactly. You need not associate with these people. If you find yourself drawn to or taken in by their behaviour, then you need the lesson.
You do not, my dear. You are capable of being loving towards all. It is a question of instituting that habit and practising it.
Me: So what you're saying then, Ivo, is that the mirror effect isn't there anymore? I thought it was.
Ivo: In 3d, mirroring was a way of life. As you move into 4d different dynamics apply. Remember that you are moving through a new dimension with new dimensional properties. So what applied in 3d does not effectively apply in 4d.
Me: So people aren't mirroring flaws back to you anymore?
Ivo: This can be the case. But what also becomes the case in 4d is the higher values of the higher dimensions. You are now of a higher vibration and capable of changing yourself without mirroring. You are more energetically aware, for example. You understand when you feel badly or when you feel good. You understand how to manipulate energy. You understand how to improve your mood and can attempt to do so. You see that emotions are energy, and can work with energy. It is not necessary to have them reflected back to you from others. In the case of the lightworkers, you are not learning, you are discarding the erroneous ways of 3d earth. And yes, many were already living in this higher way in 3d earth.
There are many people, such as the empaths, who seek solitude in their lives. They do not need mirroring. They are more energetically astute and understand that they pick up others' energies. They work with energy. Many are connected to higher realms and receive guidance this way as well. The unaware empath, such as you were 10 years ago, still needs mirroring.
Me: I remember when my higher self tried to tell me I'm an empath. I totally didn't get her message. I couldn't figure out why she was showing me the pain these people were in.
Ivo: Yes. It was a fail, as you call it. You were still living in your 3d way.
You always embodied higher values, my dear, and these were mixed with what you learned on 3d earth. Much of what you had to deal with on 3d earth you have already dealt with – the ego. And you are living from a 4d perspective more every day. So you do not need mirroring of your faults back to you. You are aware that there is still some work to be done.
Me: So how do people relate in 4d? If we had had time to live in 4d longer, not “whipping through” it as we are now, 4d essentially being a highway to a higher place.....
Ivo: They relate in love, my dear. Love to love. Not positivity revealing negativity.
Me: So where's the lesson?
Ivo: There are many lessons that love has to teach. 4D is an expression of lower level love. So is 3d but then your 3d experience was manipulated to be a death culture. So not the true experience of 3d.
Me: If 4d is an exchange of love, then what are the higher dimensions?
Ivo: My dear, they are higher expressions of love.
Me: So what is higher ... okay I get it. I got your intuition. We're limited as to how we can express love in 4d because of the parameters, or the qualities of this dimension. And for that matter, because we're still physical. I guess to a certain extent, we still have a choice in 4d: whether to express love or fear, right?
Ivo: Yes, correct. You can still express fear in 4d. At this point in time, your lives are about the ego: rebalancing the ego and learning to express love.
Me: is this what we would have been doing without the manipulation of the death culture, or is that a 3d state?
Ivo: Yes, your paths have been altered from the normal human ascension challenges. There is a mixture in you, in 4d of 5d behaviours and 3d behaviours.
Me: Yes.
Ivo: Your people will have a challenge in 4d to try to overcome their negative ego, integrate their positive ego and step into 5th dimensional behaviours. Quite a transition.
Me: So, really, this is about taking offense then? Can we discuss that, Ivo?
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