that we were created with two ears and
only one mouth so we can listen as
twice as we talk!
That's really wise! People are obsessed with talking about
themselves and their ideas, maybe
that's why we find so many writers!
We can go on and on and forget that our
speaker might not have the same
interest in what we’re saying as we do.
This can be a large obstacle in the way
to your speaker's heart, after a while
you may get different kinds of
responses according to people's types.
For example: they might lose interest in
what you’re saying along with their hearing sense, and start talking to
themselves instead; wondering if they
remembered to turn the lights off when
leaving the house, or thinking what
should they get in a friend’s birthday!
Another will take it so personally and
get with you in a steamy competition to
prove who can talk more than the other!
It's not a pretty picture!
A third type will just apologize politely
and leaves swearing not to talk to you
again! I'm not suggesting of course that you
should keep quiet completely until your
speaker is bored to death! Let's just be
moderate about it.
People like to be heard; and hence like
the one who hears them out. A good
listener is normally a good friend, and
when you be a good listener to someone
you've just met, you’re get categorized
as a good friend as a first impression.
But listening isn't an easy job!
Sometimes it's very hard to really "be" in a conversation where you listen more
than you talk. It’s not just to "shut up!"
it’s to listen carefully and give smart
appropriate replies when needed, it’s to
speak your mind propose your opinion
in ease while giving a chance for other
opinions and indifferences. It’s to
interact gracefully and openly without
dominating or following the others. It’s
just to be yourself while allowing others
to be themselves too, and be ready to
accept them with great love and respect
as they are. First Impressions – How to win them all !ChapterXV
