this place is very dear to me and
symbolizes a very nice and peaceful era
of my life. And while at it my teacher
introduced me to his favorite students; eight lovely high school girls, they
possessed so much talent and
potentials succeeded to impress me a
great deal, so I saw them again, we
exchanged phone numbers and e-mails
and soon we became friends.
It was their final year at high school and
we discussed each one's dream faculty,
one of them – let's call her Betty
dreamed of getting into the faculty of
fine arts which did happen fortunately,
but she was really confused about the
department that she wanted. And because I have a very dear friend – let’s
call her Sue - who’s a lecturer in that
faculty, I naturally advised Betty to talk
to her and gave her Sue’s number.
After a while when I called Sue to ask
her proudly about my little friend she
shocked me by saying:
- Thatgirlisyourfriend?!Idon'twant
It was really astonishing and confusing,
I thought that she will love her; I mean I
loved her myself and we (Sue and I) have
always loved the same things!
Disappointed that I was I asked her
about the reason she felt this way, she
said:
-She talked to me like I'm her
I won't deny that I wasn't very happy by
what happened, she judged Betty only
by the first impression she made over
the phone; this can't be right! But in the
same she did have a point.
Sue isn't the only one; all people need
to be addressed properly with their
titles and all especially by someone they
meet for the first time, your first name
is a part of your personal territory where only friends, old colleagues and
family are allowed. For some people it's
a part of their FCFC and having a total
stranger calling them by it is a kind of
vocal interference. And if that stranger
was much younger than you, and a new
student in your class! Well, that's too
much I'd say!
When you speak to someone for the first
time you need to know exactly your
place; socially I mean. So ask yourself
those three questions before deciding how you’re going to address new
people:
1.Aretheyyounger,olderoraboutthe
Accordingly you decide:
- if they were much younger or inferior
then it’s absolutely alright to call
them by their first names whether they are of the same gender as you
are or not.
- If you’re equals and of the same
gender, then it’s ok too, but if they
were of the opposite gender then it’s
better to address them by their title
until they allow you to use their first
name.
- If they were older or superior to you
then without a question you should
address them by their titles along with
a respectful speech.
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