Basic Steps To Resolving Anger
1. Consider the mistaken attitudes and convictions that predispose us to being excessively angry in the first place.
2. Once these mistakes have been corrected, we will be less likely to become extremely angry than we were in the past.
3. Identify factors from your childhood that prevent you from expressing your anger as appropriately as you otherwise might. Factors like fear and denial are impediments to the effective and appropriate management of your anger toward others. They can be removed so that your suppressed anger will not compound itself inside you.
4. Learn appropriate modes of expressing your legitimate anger at others so that you can begin to cope more effectively with anger-provoking situations as they arise in your personal relationships.
5. Heal the anger wounds that may have been left by the potentially devastating emotional impact of anger. If we do not complete this mopping up step, we will cling to the resentment of having been done wrong and will carry the festering residue of our anger and rage in our hearts. One of the most effective means of giving ourselves immediate relief from anger in our personal relationships is to forgive others.
Ultimately, if we want to experience peace, we must rid ourselves of resentment, for resentment, it has been said, is the only acid that eats its own container. Better to love one’s enemies and do well to those who hate you.