The Anatomy of Success and Failure
Copyright © 2013 John Di Lemme
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About the Author
In September 2001, John Di Lemme founded Di Lemme Development Group, Inc., a company known worldwide for its role in expanding the personal development industry. As President and CEO, John strives for excellence in every area of his business and believes that you must surround yourself with a like-minded team in order to stay on top of your game.
In addition to building a successful company, John has changed lives around the globe as an international motivational speaker that has spoken in over five hundred venues. Over the past thirteen years, he has shared the stage with the best of the best including Rich Devos, Denis Waitley, Jim Rohn, and Les Brown only to name a few. This is truly an amazing feat for someone that was clinically diagnosed as a stutterer at a very young age and told that he would never speak fluently.
John truly believes that everyone needs personal development to reach their full potential in life, and his determination to reach all forms of media with his motivational messages has catapulted his career. John has produced over four hundred fifty products and is an accomplished author of thirteen books including his best-selling book, “47 Secrets of Extreme Customer Service.” As a Strategic Business Coach and Small Business Expert, John’s students include doctors, lawyers, entrepreneurs, consultants, CEOs of million dollar companies, and various other occupations that are thriving in a so-called poor economy. John’s success with his students has made him one of the most highly sought after business coaches in the world.
John’s passion is to teach others how to live a champion life despite the label that society has placed on them. Through his books, audio/video materials, sold-out live seminars, numerous television interviews, intensive training boot camps, weekly tele-classes, Strategic Business Coaching, Closing & Marketing University, Millionaire Affirmation Academy, Small Business Motivational Marketing Daily Tip, and Lifestyle Freedom Club memberships, John has made success a reality for thousands worldwide.
Introduction
When you hear the word “anatomy”, what do you think about? Do you think of the body and what you actually see? How it’s made up, the structures, what’s there? Sometimes even with visible anatomy, if someone has an illness or sickness, they may have to go in for an X-ray or an MRI and dig a little deeper to determine what is wrong. We’re going to dig down deep into the anatomy of success and failure because success and failure are exactly the same. They’re simply results. In the Greek, the word “anatomy” means ‘cutting up – to cut up’. So, we are going to cut up what is deep inside of success and failure.
Most of you reading this book are entrepreneurs and business owners. In my book, 177 Motivational Success Quotes to Live the Championship Life, the very first quote has nothing to do with money. It’s lifestyle freedom. It’s the ability to do what you want to do, when you want to do it with whoever you want to do it with as long as you like to do it. That’s called freedom and freedom is either success or you’re not free because you start to live in failure. As an entrepreneur and business owner it’s very important to recognize that point.
When I asked you the question about what you think of when I say the word ‘anatomy’, you probably thought of the body. You think of the finished product. You think of an adult. In the doctor’s office, they usually have the little skeleton there which is the anatomy of the body. Keep a mental picture of that skeleton that is sitting in the doctor’s office. The anatomy of success and failure is really parallel with the physical world, the mental world, the emotional world because without a vertebra, your body would have a problem. You would have a major issue without blood. There are 111 bones in one foot alone. But if one is broken a little bit, you’re limping.
A lot of times in life, failures are limping and eventually the limp becomes a lifestyle and then you accept the failure. As we dig down deep into success, you really must understand and accept that you have to take responsibility, either for your success or for your failure.
For the last 12 years, I’ve seen people come out to events and be fired up and excited. And then I’ve seen them quit. They get to one of the steps required for success and all of a sudden they think, “No, I can’t do that.” They reject it and then they make an excuse and they quit. No one has ever come back to me in five years and said, “John, I did the complete opposite of what you strategically coached me on and I’m successful.”
Here’s a homework assignment for you before you go any further in this book. I want you to write, “Coach Di Lemme, I’m committed to the five-year process! Today’s date is (fill in the date), and I will stand strong for the next five years. I am fully committed to my success!” Now here’s what I want you to do. I want you to e-mail it to John@LifestyleFreedomClub.com and print one out for yourself.
Put your commitment in front of you so that you see it every day, because there will be a day that you are pushed to choose between success and failure. It’s a continuous reminder of what you are fighting for in life. It will remind you to choose success no matter what you face. If you choose failure, then rip up your commitment with a full understanding that you have given up on success and your ability to achieve it.
It’s very important to have clarity and have a sense of accomplishment in front of you. This is the foundation. It’s like having your birth certificate in front of you. When you keep this in front of you, it will eventually get inside you and you will realize that at one time, you were born a Champion with the absolute right to be a success.
We were all children at one time. Notice the process from birth to five years old. It’s a growth process for the human body. Similarly, there’s a success process. That’s very important to know, because of the five year commitment that you’ve printed out and hung in front of you. When you choose to follow all of the strategies that I’m going to review in depth in this book, success is going to happen. It’s inevitable for you not to grow in the success process just like it’s nearly impossible for a healthy human body not to grow if it’s being feed and nourished in its growth process.
Another definition of anatomy is a detailed analysis. Now, let’s take it a little further. To analyze something means that you are breaking it down into essential elements. For example, if one essential element is missing from a recipe, it’s not going to taste good, right? It would be like leaving the cheese out of the macaroni and cheese. It changes the entire recipe, because it’s missing an essential element.
Unfortunately, most people’s lives are missing the essential elements that make up success. They aren’t willing to take the extra steps needed so that they achieve the level of success that they’ve always dreamed of. They keep trying to take shortcuts in the success process.
Have you ever heard someone say, “Well, you don’t know me. I am stuck in my ways.” Let me tell you about ‘My Way’. It’s a Frank Sinatra song but it’s also an excuse. People say, “I’m stuck in my own way,” which means they are in their own way and can’t move forward. It’s an excuse!
I’m going to give you seven essential elements for success and if you are willing to step aside from doing things your way, then you will progress towards your Why in the success process and fully understand the anatomy of success and failure. But it all comes down to your commitment. Now, let’s get started.