There’s so much to do, it can be mind-numbing.
Don’t worry. I planned and held my first wedding in
two months and my second wedding in three months.
If you have the luxury of a year or more, feel lucky!
We’ll provide you with a brides budget wedding
planner at the end of this book to help plan your dream wedding. You may want to invest in a cheap folder to keep all of your notes in order. Print out the checklists at the end of this book and keep them in that folder along with any receipts and/or quotes that you get!
You need to decide who will pay for the wedding . The typical wedding planner dictates that the bride’s parents pay for the wedding. Today weddings have outgrown that tradition. It should be discussed to avoid any problems on down the line.
My second husband and I both have two sets of parent. We had been living together for 8 years, but were ill equipped to throw our own wedding. We could contribute, sure, but to throw the whole shin-dig would be out of our realm. We asked each parent-couple to contribute $500 and they all agreed wholeheartedly. That gave us a budget of $2,000 which was plenty!
We’re assuming you want a traditional ceremony as opposed to a “theme” wedding. That information alone could compose a whole other ebook. The first decisions to be made include: the date, your attendants, and where the reception will be held.
Normally, couples tie the knot on a Saturday. If you really want to save some cash, consider having your ceremony on a Thursday or Friday. How about having a Sunday service on a holiday weekend? You’ll find that there are many more open dates on these days and you’ll ultimately realize more savings by booking on these less traditional time frames. Many reception locations will offer a discount for an off day. If they don t offer it, ask for it.
Also, you may want to consider an early marriage and an early reception. An 11:00 marriage with a reception immediately following can realize great savings as most guests will have already had lunch before your ceremony and the reception will most likely be over by dinner, so all you’ll have to provide is some light finger foods to tide over those rumbling tummies!
Additional savings may be realized by having your wedding in the months of November through April. These months are less busy for most wedding related services and locations. Again, ask for a discount for being off-season.
You need to decide how many attendants you will
have so you can bestow the honor on them early enough!
They can save the date and help you plan! Traditionally,
the bridesmaids are responsible for their own wedding
attire, but the bride usually has the final say on what they
wear. Be mindful of your attendants’ financial situation
and don’t choose that $500 satin chiffon number.
Remember, you’re trying to throw a wedding on a budget.
Let them save some cash as well! We’ll have some suggestions later on in this book for attendant attire, so keep that in the back of your mind!
Where your reception will be held is another huge decision that has to be made early on in the wedding planning stage. If you want to opt for a traditional reception hall, you’ll have to book early to be sure you can get the venue of your choice.
If you or someone in your family is the member of a benevolent association (The Elks, The Moose, The American Legion), consider these as viable options. They often give discounts to members and you will probably have access to a huge area for your wedding reception as opposed to Aunt Emily’s backyard! Just remember to book
early!
With my first wedding, we married on a
Saturday and held our reception in the church
parish hall. It was a Catholic church and they graciously allowed us the ultimate leniency with liquor, food, etc. Since we were members of the church, we only paid $50 to rent it for the afternoon.
My second husband and I chose to be married on a Saturday at our local church and held the reception at the local American Legion where both my (future) husband and my father were members. We saved a ton by booking the Legion the day after my husband and I decided to marry. Plus, we saved on the headache of trying to find a reception hall!
We’ll have much more on the dream reception later in this book, but remember to book early. Having that out of the way will free up more of your time to concentrate on the little details that can mean so much!
You can also look to find a free place to hold your reception such as a friend’s home, a church’s reception hall, or even the local fire department’s reception hall! You could look into a local park, art gallery, and even your own home.
You’ll need to start on a guest list as soon as possible and begin thinking about invitations.