You want her to like you. You want to impress her. You want her to feel good around you. But then, “She said I’m too NICE? What the f#@%?!”
So many men have told me they were turned down for being the Nice Guy. You’ve probably heard similar stories. “Why,” you’ve wondered, “would a woman turn down a really nice guy?”
A guy might think that a woman will like him more if he caters to her, never disagrees with her, and always tries to impress her. He’ll try not to state his own opinions, thinking that this will make her like him. But the truth is that women don’t like Nice Guys. They know it’s an act. “He’s not being him- self,” they think. “He’s just acting nice.” They usually assume that guys who do this are insecure or have ulterior motives. The fact is that you aren’t a Nice Guy. And you shouldn’t be acting like one.
Don’t take it personally; Nobody is a Nice Guy. What I’m saying is that you probably don’t agree with all her opinions, you don’t like all her favorite spots, and you don’t think everything she says is interesting. You might enjoy and agree on some things. But if you’re playing the Nice Guy, then she won’t know what you actually agree on and what’s part of the act. You’re not giving her a chance to know that you really are nice and interesting in your own way. You probably are a nice guy, but a Nice Guy act doesn’t allow you to express that. It doesn’t show your cool, fun, or naturally nice side.
So basically all you have to do is act like yourself with a woman. At first, it might feel awkward to let her know that you disagree or that you have different preferences. But it will show that you’re someone who speaks his mind and isn’t con- stantly trying to impress her. You’ll appear more confident and more yourself. She’ll be able to see your true nice side, and not be frustrated with the Nice Guy act.