Most men feel really excited when they get a woman’s phone number. They think sex will be the next step. “I got her number,” they think. “Now all I have to do is call, set up a time to meet, and pretty soon I’ll be getting into her pants.”
The truth is, getting her number doesn’t guarantee that you’re going to have sex with her. First, there are other ways of getting in contact with girls that you should utilize. Email addresses and social networking sites (like facebook, myspace, etc.) can be very useful in these situations. Don’t focus all of your attention on getting a number.
But the key to converting a phone number into a sexual encounter is in what you do before she gives you the number.
The main thing before getting her number is to make sure she feels comfortable around you. You have to remember that you are in competition with every other guy out there. So you want to stand out. By the end of your interaction, you want her hoping she’ll be able to see you again. To get to this point, you need to build a level of comfort with her. You want her to feel that there is a special connection between you, as if she’s known you for years. (For more on the most effective ways to approach women, check out How to Have Sex with Two Women a Day.)
As you talk with her, give off the impression that you aren’t really trying to get with her. Keep a sort of, “I could take it or leave it” attitude. She’ll assume you might be interested because you approached her, but at the same time you won’t seem desperate for her attention. This makes you seem more confident and more mysterious. At this point you’ve separated yourself from all the other guys that are drooling over her. You’ll seem noticeably different and memorable.
When you are talking to her, your main objective is to ask her questions to get information on what type of girl she is. Then respond with some things you have in common with her. Also remember to respond with things that you disagree on.
For example, maybe the girl you’re talking to says she likes to go dancing and go on picnics. Your response could be something like, “I love dancing. If you play your cards right, I could show you some moves.” Then you add playfully, “I don’t go to picnics though. Do you really like ant-flavored food?”
What’s happening here is that you are connecting with her by letting her know that you have some things in common— which is the dancing. You are also showing her you are your own man with your own opinions— by stating that you’re not that into picnics, even though she is.
By showing that you aren’t into everything she’s into, you come off as more real than most men she’s spoken to this evening. It also makes her feel like she is really getting to know you. If you agreed with everything that she said and liked everything she liked she might think that you are trying to impress her. Make sure you stay away from being the Nice Guy here. The differences in your personality are what separate you from other guys and also makes you more interesting to her.
While you’re getting to know her likes and dislikes, she is getting to know your likes and dislikes too. Now she will start to feel a connection with you. This will put you in a better position to get her number. This connection you have made makes you stick out in her mind too. So when you call her later, she’ll remember you. She’ll also be thinking about the connection you had and how it made her feel. A few more steps, and you’ll be getting into her pants.