The first impression you give a woman can determine if you’ll get to sleep with her or not. It is important to be yourself when you first meet women.
There are two mistakes that men usually make at this point. Either they hide what they’re really like, or they pile on too much information about themselves. The first is a mistake because holding back what you’re really like doesn’t give her enough information on who you really are. The second is a mistake because telling too much about yourself doesn’t leave anything for her to find out later, taking the mystery and intrigue out of the interaction.
When they are first getting to know you, women want to figure out if you’re someone they’d want to date. Women will enjoy the initial intrigue of not knowing you yet. You are still somewhat mysterious and exciting to them. If you are too focused on making a good impression, a woman will probably know— and lose interest quickly. When you expose your true personality though, you give off the impression that whatever you are saying or doing isn’t fake. She’ll recognize that you aren’t trying too hard to make a good first impression.
When you act like yourself, you’re saying to her, “Hey this is me. Take it or leave it.”
Acting like yourself when you first meet a woman helps her feel as if she knows you better. This will make her feel more comfortable around you because she feels like you are being the real you. If she is more comfortable around you, she is more likely to have sex with you sooner rather than later. At this point, you should give her enough information so that she doesn’t see your first impression as a front.
Being honest about who you really are also helps you get exactly what you want. It gives the woman a chance to decide if you’re the type of guy she wants. This saves both of you time and energy.
Maybe you want to date around and have casual sex, for example. If you say so, she might be feeling the same way, and you’ll know this could work. If she’s not, then you’ll know it won’t. Either way, you avoid the pretense and misunderstandings that break up so many relationships. You won’t have to deal with all the drama that occurs from you and her wanting different things. (For more on attracting the exact woman you want, check out How to Have Sex with Two Women a Day.)
While it’s good to be honest, you don’t want to tell a woman everything about yourself. When you’re first meeting her, she doesn’t need to know all the details about your private life. She might be turned off to learn that you spend entire weekends playing video games, that your ex-girlfriend broke your heart, or that you always jerk off to internet porn sites before bed. She might be bored to hear about the fishing trips your dad used to take you on, or the play-by-play developments of a game you watched. You don’t want to give her too much information.
When you’re first meeting a woman, make sure you being yourself but avoid talking her into boredom. Expose enough about who you really are for her to feel comfortable and know you’re the kind of guy she’d like to know better. By doing this, you’ll be able to spend time with more women who are into you and who you are into also.