Women are great. I love women, and I know that you love women too; that’s probably why you’re reading this book. But what you have to realize is that getting with a woman isn’t everything. It doesn’t define who you are.
Some men think that in order to have a happy and fulfilling life, they need to be involved with a woman. I’ve met so many men who defined their self worth on the women that they were dating. Their happiness seemed to rely on the relationships that they were in. When they weren’t seeing any women, they would feel worthless and depressed. They weren’t able to feel self-sufficient, since their enjoyment of life depended on their interactions with women.
Sometimes things don’t work out exactly how you might have wanted them to with some of the people you date. Women will come and go. If you based your enjoyment of life on the company of these women, then you’re at their mercy. As much as you might love and appreciate their company, you don’t want to become dependent on them. Not only will that harm you and your ability to be happy independently, but also it will be unhealthy for your relationships.
As important as your relationships might be, you need to have your own life. Your happiness doesn’t come from the women you date; it has to come from within. Focus on the other things you like to do. Have some hobbies that you continue to pursue even while you’re dating women.
Focus your time on other parts of life that make you feel happy and fulfilled.