Men need to stop apologizing for their sexuality.
A lot of guys actually feel guilty about thinking and acting like men. When men find themselves staring at a woman’s breasts or fantasizing about running a hand between her legs, they usually feel bad about it. They also tend to feel guilty about having a one-night-stand, or using a woman’s affections just for the sex. Many men have been convinced that these thoughts and urges are disrespectful, when it’s actually just a natural part of their biological makeup. Feeling guilty about being a man can stop you from having a great sex life.
It’s not surprising that men feel guilty. From a young age, women have been telling you how immoral, disrespectful, care- less, and stupid men are. “Men don’t know how to think with their heads.” “If he had any respect for women, he’d control himself better.” “Men are dogs.” When you reach adulthood, you’ve internalized this information. In an attempt to live up to the female standards of how a ‘good’ man should behave, you find yourself trying desperately to suppress urges and feelings. Then, if and when you do act on them, you feel that you have failed at being a ‘good’ man.
The reason women say there is something wrong with being a man is because they don’t understand what being a man is like. If they did, they wouldn’t try to make you feel guilty for all of the sexual thoughts and urges that come up for you. You aren’t doing these things to be a jerk or because you are a sex- crazed maniac. You’re not even trying to hurt anyone. Women say these things because they don’t understand the male experience, and because they don’t want to feel degraded.
But the seduction that comes out of that desire does attract her to you. Suppressing these feelings will make her think you’re not interested at all. You won’t be giving off the right type of energy if you’re feeling guilty about it, and you definitely won’t be able to seduce her.
What men (and women!) need to realize, is that thinking and acting like a man does not mean you’re a bad person. You need to accept your manly thoughts and urges, and start acting on them more. That doesn’t mean chasing down a woman with a big booty to comment, “Nice ass.” And it doesn’t mean walking up to a woman in a tight shirt and grabbing a breast. It just means that you shouldn’t be afraid to express yourself sexually to a woman and you shouldn’t feel bad about it either. A woman would rather you show you’re attracted to her than behave like you aren’t.
So go ahead. Act like a man.