Another
relationship-related subject I’ve been giving thought to... At
this point, probably half of these have been related to relationships
in some way. I wouldn’t blame you if you were starting to get
sick of it.
This one, however, regards something that, to my understanding, isn’t quite as commonly thought about by many people. And that is the “basis” upon which people prefer to build a romantic relationship.
When I say “basis”, I mean the level of acquaintanceship and affection between two individuals. Are they long-time friends? Colleagues at work? Mutual acquaintances of a third party? Complete strangers who just met at the local bar?
As far as the level of acquaintanceship goes, most people, from what I’ve gathered, would situate themselves between friend and stranger in terms of their preference. Personally, I’d narrow it down to the range between friend and acquaintance.
I’ve never been the type to fall in love with just about anyone. Counting out the one case, when I look back at the “crushes” I had, what I felt towards them was varying degrees of physical attraction at best. Counting out the one case, in which I’d already established a friendship with the person by the time she became a love interest to me.
I wouldn’t try to build a romantic relationship with someone I don’t know and appreciate enough, much less with someone I just met. Much like with building friendships, it takes a certain level of deeper connection for me to consider that possibility. But above all, it takes a foundation of trust.