Abstaining from Bed to correct
Even after you politely advised her, she did not change herself, to show your dissatisfaction, your hatred and the necessity of conjugal life and to impress her that you can separate her permanently, keep aloof her from your bed temporarily.
“Abstain her from your bed temporarily”
(Al-Quran 4:34).
When a woman is haughty that the husband is fascinated and he can’t be without her, if her intimacy and femininity is ignored by her husband, she will clearly understand that her husband may give up her. She may correct herself. Thereby divorce will be avoided.
Even the above mentioned two actions do not have any effect on the wife and she still remains adamant, as a third option Islam allows to beat her lightly to correct her.
“Beat them lightly”
(Al-Quran 4:34).
It does not mean to beating with full strength. Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) has prevented beating in the face or wound the women anywhere.
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If her husband beat her, she understands that he is ready for all. So she corrects herself and the divorce is prohibited. Islam permits the husband to beat her in order to correct her. But this also is criticized by others. But in reality non-Muslims beat and torture their wives more severely than the Muslims. The order of Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) prevents Muslim torturing his wife.
Judgment of Jamaath
When all the above mentioned 3 actions fail to correct the women, Muslim Jamaath will intervene to settle the matter between the couples.
“If you afraid there will be separation between couples, let a well-wisher from each side of the couples as messengers try to bring the compromise between the couples. Allah the omniscient knows everything.
(Al-Quran 4:35)
To solve any problem, if the concerned parties alone talk to themselves they can’t come to a compromise. Because, they will approach the problem on the ground of feelings and they will be obstinate in their positions only. It is no exception for the problem arising between couples.
Therefore, the well-wishing relatives who are not directly involved in this problem and who like the couples to join together try to solve the problem. Then the accusations, the likes and dislikes of the couples considered impartially avoiding divorce and arriving at amicable settlement.
Even this fourth option fails, and then there is no meaning for the couples to live together. Then Islam allows ‘Talak’ divorce unwillingly as there is no other go.
The Procedure of ‘Talak’ (Divorce) in 3 times
Even in this situation also, Islam does not prescribe divorce impatiently. Islam prescribes three stages for declaring ‘Talak’ (Divorce). In the first two times of interval, if the couples reconsider their decision of separation and like to join together they can. If they utilized the third time also, then they have to separate themselves permanently. This is the procedure of ‘Talak’ (Divorce) in Islam.