Many kids gave complained that their dad always expects more from them than their own ability can take them. If you are in these shoes, know that you are not alone. Frank Clerk was also in this shoe when he asserts that a father is a man who expects his son to be as good a man as he meant to be. Many other persons are like you.
It is natural for dad to expect more from you. Dad's dad expected more from him. Your dad does not want you to live in mediocrity. He desires you to outplace and outdo him. He so cherishes your best so he knows he has to find a way to get the best out of you. Dads guiding principles is “aim for the moon and you'd fall amongst stars”. Dad is aiming you towards the moon. He knows you will have some limitation. It is these limitations that he expects will not allow you reach the moon but you will fall among stars, which is his utmost desire. This is true considering the words of Gloria Swanson who according her dad, life is 95% anticipatory.
Dad believes the Pepsi advert " thirst for more". Because you are a star to be, his expectation is to see you shine. It’s just that he fears he is not doing enough. He wants to do more than enough. He is not a magician but he is learning the magic, striving to bring the best out of you. There is always that crave to go along with the crowd. Dad is afraid the crowd effect may get a hold of you and you may fall out amidst the crowd. Dad desires more than just the crowd effect. He wants to poke your head ahead of the crowd. He wants you to lead the crowd.
Dad wants you to be more than a star; he wants you to be the sun. Now you’d say this is impossible. But that is his desire. You are a star. You are the best he wants you to be. This is dad’s wish.
Should you accept less than your actual value? Dad will not accept that. Dad knows your true value more than you do. The fact that he is expecting more means that he knows you are worth more than you value yourself.
Dad believes in
Motivating you. Because you don’t have all the drive you need, your dad provides you with that motivation and propulsion you need. He is steering and encouraging you. He wants you to take responsibility and act fast to achieve that goal.
Ovation. Dad celebrates every feat you’ve achieved and he wants to celebrate more of you. He gives ovation to your special achievements. He stands within the crowd cheering you to achieve more than you envisaged on the stage of life.
Responsibility. Dad wants you to be responsible. Responsibility for your actions is a panacea for great achievements. The best you can be is by taking responsibility for your action. Dad realizes that when he allows you take responsibility, his job of getting more from you becomes easy.
Educating you. Dad is doing his best to educate you. The right education is what dad wants to give you. Dad is spending all that much he is spending to ensure you get the right education. Dad expects more because he is spending more.
Dad expects more. Yes, he has a right to it. Don’t feel bad. He is only taking responsibility and setting the pace for your active participation in your future. Remember you are worth much more than daddy wants you to be. Every moment of dads disappointment can be a very powerful tool an experience Michael Bergin had which made him make this statement.