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DAD WISHES HE WERE YOU
Many times dad sits down, ponders over his past, and wishes he had the same opportunities that you now have. He wishes he were you. Dad thinks that he could have been better person if he was in your shoe. He cherishes your position. Dad sometimes is jealous of you. Imagine the position you have and dad wants it. You are wondering what dad would do with it. You are number one. Dad knows he is desires the very best he cannot be. He certainly does not have time on his side to pursue those lofty goals. He wishes he were in your position. Since he cannot, he is pouring all the wishes on you.
Dad does not want you to be like him. He would like you to find you. He would love you to thread the part Joel Osteen trod which though under pressure to fit into his father’s role by everyone around him chose to create his original path thus pastoring a church five thousand times the church his dad pastored. If Joel’s dad were alive, he sure would have been envious of his son.
Dad had many ambitions when he was quite little. Circumstances though did not allow him. He was faced with enormous challenges that did not let those dreams through. But the dream still lives. The dream never died it kept on living and through to you. Now you picking up dad’s big dream and he says son, daughter, I am wishing I had the opportunity you are having now but since I do not I gave you all the best support you can have.
Do you know David and his son Solomon were quite like your dad and you? Yes they were. David had wanted to build a house for God but his wish could not come true. God did not find David good enough to build it. But the dream did not die at David. Not at all. The dream was passed on to Solomon. David was wishing he would be the one to house God, but alas, his son Solomon was given the permission. You know what happened. David had to provide the special materials they would be using. Solomon found ease in knowing his dad David had made the major supplies for the building of the house of God.
Your dad looks back to his past and hopes he could sometimes correct those mistakes he had made. He feels some regrets too, that he did not heed to some words of advice he had been given when he was like you. He wishes he could correct them. Dad does not want you to make the same mistake he made. He thinks you have to learn from his mistakes. He is doing that part so that you do not find yourself in the same trap he found himself. He wants you to recognize his effort is to ensure you are not caught up in the rat race. As much as dad cherishes his position, he acknowledges that he could have to come into your shoes to understand how intricate issues are in this dispensation. He knows time has changed since he was a little boy and he continuously acknowledges this fact. But he still would love you to appreciate the fact that issues of life are still as thorny as it was in his time. Technology may change but his fatherly role is undisputedly unchanging.
Have you heard your dad say “if l had just a little of the opportunity you have I would have…. ”Yes, your dad would have said this once or more. There were not many opportunities like you having now then and dad got through with what he had. Through hunger, pain, strife, accusations etc. dad strived to make do the stronger. You celebrate him but you do not know he once had had a challenging difficult time. Dad knows he could have achieved more and he looks at you and sees more than an achiever ahead. He sees the fame, home, life,etc. that you would achieve and wishes he too could have had them when he was just like you.
Dad is not jealous. He is only hoping you see what he sees. He is trying to let you see from his position. He stands at a vantage point and recognizes that little you will be a great dad and mom too and he sees the kind of person you would be. He marvels at a special you and he says, “What will this child be?” You are the reason he is having sleepless nights. He remembers his dad did the same and his passing across a message. “I know you will be great” .
No matter what comes life’s way remember dad has seen a better you that he would love to be. Dad knows this “that you are not his child but you are a son or daughter of life longing for itself.” He just cannot stop you. He even has a blur vision of your tomorrow for all the best things that he wishes to be in your shoes are only a foretaste of what he could enjoy if opportunity grants him. You dwell in the house of tomorrow even your dad cannot picture. Dad knows this. Dad has lived in his future but yours is beyond his ability to tinker.
Thank God, your position is clear. You are reaching great heights and your dad says, “cheer up son, cheer up daughter, I am right behind you, your total good is my absolute goal, you are the best I know you will be and great man and woman that the future will have to welcome”.