Why Forgive? ................................................................................... 25
Four Steps to Forgiveness ................................................................ 29
Four Steps to Forgiveness Worksheet ............................................. 34
Using Step One ................................................................................ 35
Using Step Two .............................................................................. 36
Using Step Three .............................................................................. 37
Using Step Four ............................................................................. 38
Anxiety, Panic and Depression ........................................................ 40
Guilt and Shame ............................................................................... 44
Pride and Shame............................................................................... 47
Remorse ............................................................................................ 48
Does God Forgive Me?……………………………………………51
The Importance of Self Forgiveness ................................................ 54
How to Forgive Yourself. ................................................................ 56
How to Forgive Yourself Worksheet ............................................... 58
False Forgiveness ............................................................................. 60
Reconciliation .............................................................................. 61
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Tough Forgiveness ........................................................................... 62
Happiness and Success through Forgiveness .................................. 68
Addictions and Compulsions ........................................................... 71
Loneliness and Forgiveness ............................................................. 73
Positive Thinking and the Law of Attraction .................................. 78
Self Worth, Self Esteem and Self Confidence ................................. 80
How to Forgive Infidelity and Adultery .......................................... 82
Separation ......................................................................................... 84
Therapy and Mental Health ............................................................. 86
Is Vengeance Sweet? ....................................................................... 88
Gaslighting and Forgiveness ............................................................ 90
Love, Peace and Freedom: 5 Minutes to Forgiveness ..................... 96
Forgiving our Fate; Forgiving Life .................................................. 98
Next Steps ...................................................................................... 101
Part 3 Laws for You………………….……………………...…….1
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Keep It Under Your Hat…………………………………….105
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You’ll Get Older But Not Necessarily Wiser……………….107
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Accept What Is Done Is Done………..…………….....……109
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Accept Yourself………………………………………..…...111
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Know What Counts and What Doesn’t………………......…113
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Dedicate Your Life to Something…………………...…...…115
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Be Flexible in Your Thinking…………………...……...…..117
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Take an Interest in the Outside World…………………...….121
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Be on the Side of the Angels, Not the Beasts……………….121
10. Only Dead Fish Swim with the Stream………...……......….123
11. Be the Last to Raise Your Voice…..………………………..125
12. Be Your Own Adviser……………..…...…………………..127
13. No Fear, No Surprise, No Hesitation, No Doubt…...………129
14. I Wish I'd 1Done That—and I Will………...……….………131
15. It's OK to Give Up………………………..……………...…133
16. Count to Ten—or Recite "Baa Baa Black Shee……….…….135
17. Change What You Can Change; Let Go of the Rest………...135
18. Aim to Be the Very Best at Everything You Do—
Not Second Best…………………………………..……......137
19. Don’t Expect to Be Perfect ………………………….…..…..139
20. Don’t Be Afraid to Dream……………………………..……141
21. If You’re Going to Jump Off a Bridge, Make Sure You Know How Deep the Water Is……………………..…..143
22. Don't Dwell on the Past…………..……………..……….….145
23. Don’t Live in the Future………………………….…..……149
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24. Get on With Life—It's Whooshing Pas…………………....151
25. Be Consistent………….…………………………….…….153
26. Dress Like Today Is Important………………..……..…….155
27. Have a Belief System ……………………………......……157
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Leave a Little Space for Yourself Each Day……………..…159
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Have a Plan………………..………………………………..161
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Have a Sense of Humor …………………………...………..163
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Choose How You Make Your Bed…………………...…….165
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Life Can Be a Bit Like Advertising…………..…………….167
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Get Used to Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone……........169
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Learn to Ask Questions…………………...……………...…171
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Have Dignity………..………………………….……..……173
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It's OK to Feel Big Emotions.………………………...…….175
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Keep the Faith………………...………………………….....177
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You'll Never Understand Everything…………...………..…178
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Know Where True Happiness Comes From………...…...….180
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Life Is a Pizza…………………...……………………..……182
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Know When to Let Go—When to Walk Away……………..184
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Retaliation Leads to Escalation…………...…………….......186
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Look After Yourself………..……………………...……….188
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Maintain Good Manners in All Things…………………..…190
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Prune Your Stuff Frequently…...…………………………..192
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Remember to Touch Base……..…………………………....194
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Draw the Lines Around Yourself………..……………..…...196
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Shop for Quality, Not Price……………..…………………..198
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It's OK to Worry, or to Know How Not To…….…………..200
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Stay Young…..……………………………………………..202
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Throwing Money at a Problem Doesn't Always Work...……204
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Think for Yourself…………………………..……………...206
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You Are Not in Charge…………..…………………………208
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Have Something in Your Life That Takes You
Out of Yourself…………………...………………...………210
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Only the Good Feel Guilty…..……………………………...212
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If You Can't Say Anything Nice, Don't Say
Anything at All…………………………………..…………214