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book was

subsequently issued anew with most of its best

portions omitted,

and it is stated by Schroeder (_Liberty of Speech

and Press

Essential to Purity Propaganda_, p. 34) that the

author was

compelled to resign his position as a public school

principal.

Maria Lischnewska's _Geschlechtliche Belehrung der

Kinder_

(reprinted from _Mutterschutz_, 1905, Heft 4 and 5)

is a most

admirable and thorough discussion of the whole

question of sexual

education, though the writer is more interested in

the teacher's

share in this question than in the mother's.

Suggestions to

mothers are contained in Hugo Salus, _Wo kommen die

Kinder her?_,

E. Stiehl, _Eine Mutterpflicht_, and many other

books. Dr. Alfred

Kind strongly recommends Ludwig Gurlitt's _Der

Verkehr mit meinem

Kindern_, more especially in its combination of

sexual education

with artistic education. Many similar books are

referred to by

Bloch, in his _Sexual Life of Our Time_, Ch. xxvi.

I have enumerated the names of these little books

because they

are frequently issued in a semi-private manner, and

are seldom

easy to procure or to hear of. The propagation of

such books

seems to be felt to be almost a disgraceful action,

only to be

performed by stealth. And such a feeling seems not

unnatural when

we see, as in the case of the author of _Almost

Fourteen_, that a

nominally civilized country, instead of loading with

honors a man

who has worked for its moral and physical welfare,

seeks so far

as it can to ruin him.

I may add that while it would usually be very

helpful to a mother

to be acquainted with a few of the booklets I have

named, she

would do well, in actually talking to her children,

to rely

mainly on her own knowledge and inspiration.

The sexual education which it is the mother's duty and privilege to

initiate during her child's early years cannot and ought not to be

technical. It is not of the nature of formal instruction but is a private

and intimate initiation. No doubt the mother must

herself be taught.[24]

But the education she needs is mainly an education in

love and insight.

The actual facts which she requires to use at this early stage are very

simple. Her main task is to make clear the child's own intimate relations

to herself and to show that all young things have a

similar intimate

relation to their mothers; in generalizing on this point the egg is the

simplest and most fundamental type to explain the origin of the individual

life, for the idea of the egg--in its widest sense as

the seed--not only

has its truth for the human creature but may be applied throughout the

animal and vegetable world. In this explanation the

child's physical

relationship to his father is not necessarily at first involved; it may be

left to a further stage or until the child's questions lead up to it.

Apart from his interest in his origin, the child is also interested in his

sexual, or as they seem to him exclusively, his

excretory organs, and in

those of other people, his sisters and parents. On these points, at this

age, his mother may simply and naturally satisfy his

simple and natural

curiosity, calling things by precise names, whether the names used are

common or uncommon being a matter in regard to which she may exercise her

judgment and taste. In this manner the mother will,

indirectly, be able to

safeguard her child at the outset against the prudish

and prurient notions

alike which he will encounter later. She will also

without unnatural

stress be able to lead the child into a reverential

attitude towards his

own organs and so exert an influence against any

undesirable tampering

with them. In talking with him about the origin of life and about his own

body and functions, in however elementary a fashion, she will have

initiated him both in sexual knowledge and in sexual

hygiene.

The mother who establishes a relationship of confidence with her child

during these first years will probably, if she possesses any measure of

wisdom and tact, be able to preserve it even after the epoch of puberty

into the difficult years of adolescence. But as an

educator in the

narrower sense her functions will, in most cases, end at or before

puberty. A somewhat more technical and completely

impersonal acquaintance

with the essential facts of sex then becomes desirable, and this would

usually be supplied by the school.

The great though capricious educator, Basedow, to

some extent a

pupil of Rousseau, was an early pioneer in both the

theory and

the practice of giving school children instruction

in the facts

of the sexual life, from the age of ten onwards. He

insists much

on this subject in his great treatise, the

_Elementarwerk_

(1770-1774). The questions of children are to be

answered

truthfully, he states, and they must be taught never

to jest at

anything so sacred and serious as the sexual

relations. They are

to be shown pictures of childbirth, and the dangers

of sexual

irregularities are to be clearly expounded to them

at the outset.

Boys are to be taken to hospitals to see the results

of venereal

disease. Basedow is aware that many parents and

teachers will be

shocked at his insistence on these things in his

books and in his

practical pedagogic work, but such people, he

declares, ought to

be shocked at the Bible (see, e.g., Pinloche, _La

Rèforme de

l'Education en Allemagne au dixhuitième siècle:

Basedow et le

Philanthropinisme_, pp. 125, 256, 260, 272). Basedow

was too far

ahead of his own time, and even of ours, to exert

much influence

in this matter, and he had few immediate imitators.

Somewhat later than Basedow, a distinguished English

physician,

Thomas Beddoes, worked on somewhat the same lines,

seeking to

promote sexual knowledge by lectures and

demonstrations. In his

remarkable book, _Hygeia_, published in 1802 (vol.

i, Essay IV)

he sets forth the absurdity of the conventional

requirement that

"discretion and ignorance should lodge in the same bosom," and

deals at length with the question of masturbation

and the need of

sexual education. He insists on the great importance

of lectures

on natural history which, he had found, could be

given with

perfect propriety to a mixed audience. His

experiences had shown

that botany, the amphibia, the hen and her eggs,

human anatomy,

even disease and sometimes the sight of it, are

salutary from

this point of view. He thinks it is a happy thing

for a child to

gain his first knowledge of sexual difference from

anatomical

subjects, the dignity of death being a noble prelude

to the

knowledge of sex and depriving it forever of morbid

prurience.

It is scarcely necessary to remark that this method

of teaching

children the elements of sexual anatomy in the

_post-mortem_ room

has not found many advocates or followers; it is

undesirable, for

it fails to take into account the sensitiveness of

children to

such impressions, and it is unnecessary, for it is

just as easy

to teach the dignity of life as the dignity of

death.

The duty of the school to impart education in

matters of sex to

children has in recent years been vigorously and

ably advocated

by Maria Lischnewska (op. cit.), who speaks with

thirty years'

experience as a teacher and an intimate acquaintance

with

children and their home life. She argues that among

the mass of

the population to-day, while in the home-life there

is every

opportunity for coarse familiarity with sexual

matters, there is

no opportunity for a pure and enlightened

introduction to them,

parents being for the most part both morally and

intellectually

incapable of aiding their children here. That the

school should

assume the leading part in this task is, she

believes, in

accordance with the whole tendency of modern

civilized life. She

would have the instruction graduated in such a

manner that during

the fifth or sixth year of school life the pupil

would receive

instruction, with the aid of diagrams, concerning

the sexual

organs and functions of the higher mammals, the bull

and cow

being selected by preference. The facts of gestation

would of

course be included. When this stage was reached it

would be easy

to pass on to the human species with the statement:

"Just in the

same way as the calf develops in the cow so the

child develops in

the mother's body."

It is difficult not to recognize the force of Maria

Lischnewska's

argument, and it seems highly probable that, as she

asserts, the

instruction proposed lies in the course of our

present path of

progress. Such instruction would be formal,

unemotional, and

impersonal; it would be given not as specific

instruction in

matters of sex, but simply as a part of natural

history. It would

supplement, so far as mere knowledge is concerned,

the

information the child had already received from its

mother. But

it would by no means supplant or replace the

personal and

intimate relationship of confidence between mother

and child.

That is always to be aimed at, and though it may not

be possible

among the ill-educated masses of to-day, nothing

else will

adequately take its place.

There can be no doubt, however, that while in the future the school will

most probably be regarded as the proper place in which to teach the

elements of physiology--and not as at present a merely emasculated and

effeminated physiology--the introduction of such

reformed teaching is as

yet impracticable in many communities. A coarse and ill-bred community

moves in a vicious circle. Its members are brought up to believe that sex

matters are filthy, and when they become adults they

protest violently

against their children being taught this filthy

knowledge. The teacher's

task is thus rendered at the best difficult, and under democratic

conditions impossible. We cannot, therefore, hope for

any immediate

introduction of sexual physiology into schools, even in the unobtrusive

form in which alone it could properly be introduced,

that is to say as a

natural and inevitable part of general physiology.

This objection to animal physiology by no means applies, however, to

botany. There can be little doubt that botany is of all the natural

sciences that which best admits of this incidental

instruction in the

fundamental facts of sex, when we are concerned with

children below the

age of puberty. There are at least two reasons why this should be so. In

the first place botany really presents the beginnings of sex, in their

most naked and essential forms; it makes clear the

nature, origin, and

significance of sex. In the second place, in dealing

with plants the facts

of sex can be stated to children of either sex or any

age quite plainly

and nakedly without any reserve, for no one nowadays

regards the botanical

facts of sex as in any way offensive. The expounder of sex in plants also

has on his side the advantage of being able to assert, without question,

the entire beauty of the sexual process. He is not

confronted by the

ignorance, bad education, and false associations which have made it so

difficult either to see or to show the beauty of sex in animals. From the

sex-life of plants to the sex-life of the lower animals there is, however,

but a step which the teacher, according to his

discretion, may take.

An early educational authority, Salzmann, in 1785

advocated the

sexual enlightenment of children by first teaching

them botany,

to be followed by zoölogy. In modern times the

method of

imparting sex knowledge to children by means, in the

first place,

of botany, has been generally advocated, and from

the most

various quarters. Thus Marro (_La Pubertà_, p. 300)

recommends

this plan. J. Hudrey-Menos ("La Question du Sexe

dans

l'Education," _Revue Socialiste_, June, 1895), gives the same

advice. Rudolf Sommer, in a paper entitled

"Mädchenerziehung oder

Menschenbildung?" (_Geschlecht und Gesellschaft_, Jahrgang I,

Heft 3) recommends that the first introduction of

sex knowledge

to children should be made by talking to them on

simple natural

history subjects; "there are endless opportunities,"

he remarks,

"over a fairy-tale, or a walk, or a fruit, or an

egg, the sowing

of seed or the nest-building of birds." Canon

Lyttelton

(_Training of the Young in Laws of Sex_, pp. 74 et

seq.) advises

a somewhat similar method, though laying chief

stress on personal

confidence between the child and his mother;

"reference is made

to the animal world just so far as the child's

knowledge extends,

so as to prevent the new facts from being viewed in

isolation,

but the main emphasis is laid on his feeling for his

mother and

the instinct which exists in nearly all children of

reverence due

to the maternal relation;" he adds that, however

difficult the

subject may seem, the essential facts of paternity

must also be

explained to boys and girls alike. Keyes, again

(_New York

Medical Journal_, Feb. 10, 1906), advocates teaching

children

from an early age the sexual facts of plant life and

also

concerning insects and other lower animals, and so

gradually

leading up to human beings, the matter being thus

robbed of its

unwholesome mystery. Mrs. Ennis Richmond (_Boyhood_,

p. 62)

recommends that children should be sent to spend

some of their

time upon a farm, so that they may not only become

acquainted

with the general facts of the natural world, but

also with the

sexual lives of animals, learning things which it is

difficult to

teach verbally. Karina Karin ("Wie erzieht man ein Kind zür

wissenden Keuschheit?" _Geschlecht und

Gesellschaft_, Jahrgang I,

Heft 4), reproducing some of her talks with her

nine-year old

son, from the time that he first asked her where

children came

from, shows how she began with telling him about

flowers, to pass

on to fish and birds, and finally to the facts of

human

pregnancy, showing him pictures from an obstetrical

manual of the

child in its mother's body. It may be added that the

advisability

of beginning the sex teaching of children with the

facts of

botany was repeatedly emphasized by various speakers

at the

special meeting of the German Congress for Combating

Venereal

Disease devoted to the subject of sexual instruction

(_Sexualpädagogik_, especially pp. 36, 47, 76).

The transition from botany to the elementary zoölogy of the lower animals,

to human anatomy and physiology, and to the science of anthropology based

on these, is simple and natural. It is not likely to be taken in detail

until the age of puberty. Sex enters into all these

subjects and should

not be artificially excluded from them in the education of either boys or

girls. The text-books from which the sexual system is

entirely omitted

ought no longer to be tolerated. The nature and

secretion of the

testicles, the meaning of the ovaries and of

menstruation, as well as the

significance of metabolism and the urinary excretion,

should be clear in

their main lines to all boys and girls who have reached the age of

puberty.

At puberty there arises a new and powerful reason why

boys and girls

should receive definite instruction in matters of sex.

Before that age it

is possible for the foolish parent to imagine that a

child may be

preserved in ignorant innocence.[25] At puberty that

belief is obviously

no longer possible. The efflorescence of puberty with

the development of

the sexual organs, the appearance of hair in unfamiliar places, the

general related organic changes, the spontaneous and

perhaps alarming

occurrence in boys of seminal emissions, and in girls of menstruation, the

unaccustomed and sometimes acute recognition of sexual desire accompanied

by new sensations in the sexual organs and leading

perhaps to

masturbation; all these arouse, as we cannot fail to

realize, a new

anxiety in the boy's or girl's mind, and a new

curiosity, all the more

acute in many cases because it is carefully concealed as too private, and

even too shameful, to speak of to anyone. In boys,

especially if of

sensitive temperament, the suffering thus caused may be keen and

prolonged.

A doctor of philosophy, prominent in his profession,

wrote to

Stanley Hall (_Adolescence_, vol. i, p. 452): "My entire youth,

from six to eighteen, was made miserable from lack

of knowledge

that any one who knew anything of the nature of

puberty might

have given; this long sense of defect, dread of

operation, shame

and worry, has left an indelible mark." There are certainly many

men who could say the same. Lancaster ("Psychology and Pedagogy

of Adolescence," _Pedagogical Seminary_, July, 1897, pp. 123-5)

speaks strongly regarding the evils of ignorance of

sexual

hygiene, and the terrible fact that millions of

youths are always

in the hands of quacks who dupe them into the belief

that they

are on the road to an awful destiny merely because

they have

occasional emissions during sleep. "This is not a light matter,"

Lancaster declares. "It strikes at the very

foundation of our

inmost life. It deals with the reproductory part of

our natures,

and must have a deep hereditary influence. It is a

natural result

of the foolish false modesty shown regarding all sex

instruction.

Every boy should be taught the simple physiological

facts before

his life is forever blighted by this cause."

Lancaster has had in

his hands one thousand letters, mostly written by

young people,

who were usually normal, and addressed to quacks who

were duping

them. From time to time the suicides of youths from

this cause

are reported, and in many mysterious suicides this

has

undoubtedly been the real cause. "Week after week,"

writes the

_British Medical Journal_ in an editorial

("Dangerous Quack

Literature: The Moral of a Recent Suicide," Oct. 1, 1892), "we

receive despairing letters from those victims of

foul birds of

prey who have obtained their first hold on those

they rob,

torture and often ruin, by advertisements inserted

by newspapers

of a respectable, nay, even of a valuable and

respected,

character." It is added that the wealthy proprietors of such

newspapers, often enjoying a reputation for

benevolence, even

when the matter is brought before them, refuse to

interfere as

they would thereby lose a source of income, and a

censorship of

advertisements is proposed. This, however, is

difficult, and

would be quite unnecessary if youths received proper

enlightenment from their natural guardians.

Masturbation, and the fear that by an occasional and

perhaps

outgrown practice of masturbation they have

sometimes done

themselves irreparable injury, is a common source of

anxiety to

boys. It has long been a question whether a boy

should be warned

against masturbation. At a meeting of the Section of

Psychology

of the British Medical Association some years ago,

four speakers,

including the President (Dr. Blandford), were

decidedly in favor

of parents warning their children against

masturbation, while

three speakers were decidedly against that course,

mainly on the

ground that it was possible to pass through even a

public school

life without hearing of masturbation, and also that

the warning

against masturbation might encourage the practice.

It is,

however, becoming more and more clearly realized

that ignorance,

even if it can be maintained, is a perilous

possession, while the

teaching that consists, as it should, in a loving

mother's

counsel to the child from his earliest years to

treat his sexual

parts with care and respect, can only lead to

masturbation in the

child who is already irresistibly impell