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same degree, although I have, upon several occasions, enjoyed

myself fairly well by their use. Nude women repel me, and I find

no pleasure in seeing a woman in tights. I am not averse to

normal sexual connection and occasionally employ it.

To me,

however, the pleasure is far inferior to that of being trampled

upon. I also derive keen pleasure--and usually have a strong

erection--from seeing a woman, dressed as I have described, tread

upon anything which yields under her foot--such as the seat of a

carriage, the cushions of a punt, a footstool, etc., and I enjoy

seeing her crush flowers by treading upon them. I have often

strolled along in the wake of some handsome lady at a picnic or

garden party, for the pleasure of seeing the grass upon which she

has trodden rise slowly again after her foot has pressed it. I

delight also to see a carriage sway as a woman leaves or enters

it--anything which needs the pressure of the foot.

"To pass now to the origin of this direction of my feelings.

"Even in early childhood I admired pretty feminine foot-gear, and

in the contemplation of it experienced vague sensations which I

now recognize as sexual. When a lad of 14 or so, I stayed a good

deal at the house of some intimate friends of my parents, the

daughter of the house--an only child--a beautiful and powerful

girl, about six years my senior, being my special chum. This girl

was always daintily dressed, and having most lovely feet and

ankles not unnaturally knew it. Whenever possible she dressed so

as to show off their beauty to the best advantage--

rather short

skirts and usually little high-heeled slippers--and was not

averse to showing them in a most distractingly coquettish manner.

She seemed to have a passion for treading upon things which would

scrunch or yield under her foot, such as flowers, little

windfallen apples and pears, acorns, etc., or heaps of hay, straw

or cut grass. As we wandered about the gardens--for we were left

to do exactly as we liked--I got quite accustomed to seeing her

hunt out and tread upon such things, and used to chaff her about

it. At that time I was--as I am still--fond of lying at full

length on a thick hearthrug before a good fire. One evening as I

was lying in this way and we were alone, A. crossed the room to

reach a bangle from the mantelpiece. Instead of reaching over me,

she playfully stepped upon my body, saying that she would show me

how the hay and straw felt. Naturally I fell in with the joke and

laughed. After standing upon me a few moments she raised her

skirt slightly and, holding on to the mantelpiece for support,

stretched out one dainty foot in its brown silk stocking and

high-heeled slipper to the blaze to warm, while looking down and

laughing at my scarlet, excited face. She was a perfectly frank

and charming girl, and I feel pretty certain that, although she

evidently enjoyed my excitement and the feeling of my body

yielding under her feet, she did not on this first occasion

clearly understand my condition; nor can I remember that, though

the desire for sexual gratification drove me nearly mad, it

appeared to awaken in her any reciprocal feeling. I took hold of

her raised foot and, after kissing it, guided it by an absolutely

irresistible impulse on to my penis, which was as hard as wood

and seemed almost bursting. Almost at the moment that her weight

was thrown upon it, orgasm took place for the first time in my

life thoroughly and effectively. No description can give any idea

of what I felt--I only know that from that moment my distorted

sexual focus was fixed forever. Numberless times, after that

evening, I felt the weight of her dainty slippers, and nothing

will ever cause the memory of the pleasure she thus gave me to

fade. I know that A. came to enjoy treading upon me, as much as I

enjoyed having her do it. She had a liberal dress allowance and,

seeing the pleasure they gave me, she was always buying pretty

stockings and ravishing slippers with the highest and most

slender Louis heels she could find and would show them to me with

the greatest glee, urging me to lie down that she might try them

on me. She confessed that she loved to see and feel them sink

into my body as she trod upon me and enjoyed the crunch of the

muscles under her heel as she moved about. After some minutes of

this, I always guided her slipper on to my penis, and she would

tread carefully, but with her whole weight--probably about 9

stone--and watch me with flashing eyes, flushed cheeks, and

quivering lips, as she felt--as she must have done plainly--the

throbbing and swelling of my penis under her foot as emission

took place. I have not the smallest doubt that orgasm took place

simultaneously with her, though we never at any time spoke openly

of it. This went on for several years on almost every favorable

opportunity we had, and after a month or two of separation

sometimes four or five times during a single day.

Several times

during A.'s absence I masturbated by getting her slipper and

pressing it with all my strength against the penis while

imagining that she was treading upon me. The pleasure was, of

course, very inferior to her attentions. There was never at any

time between us any question of normal sexual intercourse, and we

were both well content to let things drift as they were.

"A little after 20 I went abroad, and on my return about three

years later I found her married. Although we met often, the

subject was never alluded to, though we remained firm friends. I

confess I often, when I could do so without being seen, looked

longingly at her feet and would have gladly accepted the pleasure

she could have given me by an occasional resumption of our

strange practice--but it never came.

"I went abroad again, and now neither she nor her husband are

alive and leave no issue. From time to time I have had occasional

relations with prostitutes, but always in this manner, though I

much prefer to find some lady of or above my own social position

who will do the treading for me. This is, however, interestingly

difficult.

"Out of say a hundred women (which at home and abroad is what I

should estimate must have stood upon my body) I should say quite

80 or 85 were _not_ prostitutes. Certainly not more than 10 to 12

shared any _sexual_ excitement, but while they were evidently

excited they were not gratified. A. alone, so far as I know, had

complete sexual satisfaction of it. I have never asked a woman in

so many words to tread upon me for the purpose of gratifying my

sexual desires (prostitutes excepted), but have always tempted

them to do it in a jocular or teasing manner, and it is very

doubtful if more than a few (married) women really understood,

even after they had given me the extreme pleasure, that they had

done so, because any flushing and movement on my part under their

feet was not unnaturally put down to the trampling to which they

were subjecting me, and it was easy for me to guide the foot as

often as was necessary on to the penis till orgasm took place,

and even to keep it there by laying hold of the other one to kiss

it or on some other pretext during emission. Of course many

understood after once doing it (most have done it only once) what

I was at, and, although they did not ever discuss it nor did I,

they were not unwilling to give me as many treadings as I cared

to playfully suggest. I don't think they got any pleasure

sexually out of it themselves, though they could see plainly that

I did, and they did not object to give it me. I have spent as

long as twelve months with some women working gradually nearer

and nearer to my desire--often getting what I want in the end,

but more often failing. I _never_ risk it till I am certain it

would be safe to ask it, and have never had a serious rebuff. In

very many cases I should say the doing of what I want has simply

been regarded by the woman as gratifying a silly and perhaps

amusing whim, in which, beyond the novelty of treading on a man's

body, she has taken but little interest.

"As in normal seduction, the endeavor to win the woman over to do

what I want without arousing her antagonism is a great part of

the charm to me, and naturally the better her social position the

more difficult this becomes--and the more attractive. I have

found that in three instances prostitutes have performed the same

office for other men and knew all about it. It is not

uninteresting to note that these three women were all of fine,

massive build--one standing about 5 feet 10 inches and weighing

nearly 14 stone--but with comparatively uninteresting faces. The

weight, build and clothing count for a good deal in exciting me.

I find that a sudden check to a man at the supreme moment of

sexual pleasure tends to heighten and prolong the pleasure. My

physical satisfaction is due to the fact that by getting the lady

to stand with all her weight upon my penis (as it lies between

her foot and the soft bed of my own body into which it is deeply

pressed) the act of emission is enormously prolonged, with

corresponding enjoyment. For this reason also I prefer a very

high-heeled slipper. The seminal fluid has to be forced past two

separate obstacles--the pressure of the heel close at the root of

the penis and afterwards the ball of the foot which compresses

the outer half, leaving a free portion between them under the

arched sole of the slipper. I may add that the pleasure is

greatly increased by the retention of the urine, and I always try

to retain as much water as I dare. I have an unconquerable

aversion to red in slippers or stockings; it will even cause

impotence. Why, I know not. Strange as it may seem, although pain

and bruising are often inflicted by a severe treading, I have

never been in any way injured by the practice, and my pleasure in

it seems not to diminish by constant repetition. The comparative

difficulty of obtaining the pleasure from just the woman I want

has a never-ending, if inexplicable, charm for me."

It will be observed that in this case special importance is

attached to shoes with high heels, and the subject considers that

the pressure of such shoes is for mechanical reasons most

favorable for procuring ejaculation. Nearly all heterosexual

shoe-fetichists seem, however, to be equally attracted by high

heels. Restif de la Bretonne frequently referred to this point,

and he gave a number of reasons for the attractiveness of high

heels: (1) They are unlike men's boots and, therefore, have a

sexual fascination; (2) they make the leg and foot look more

charming; (3) they give a less bold and more sylph-like character

to the walk; (4) they keep the feet clean. (Restif de la

Bretonne, _Nuits de Paris_, vol. v, quoted in Preface to his _Mes

Inscriptions_, p. ciii.) It is doubtless the first reason--the

fact that high heels are a kind of secondary sexual character--which is most generally potent in this attraction.

The foregoing history, while it very distinctly brings before us a case of

erotic symbolism, is not strictly an example of shoe-fetichism. The

symbolism is more complex. The focus of beauty in a desirable woman is

transferred and concentrated in the region below the knee; in that sense

we have foot-fetichism. But the act of coitus itself is also symbolically

transferred. Not only has the foot become the symbol of the vulva, but

trampling has become the symbol of coitus; intercourse takes place

symbolically _per pedem_. It is a result of this symbolization of the foot

and of trampling that all acts of treading take on a new and symbolical

sexual charm. The element of masochism--of pleasure in being a woman's

slave--is a parasitic growth; that is to say, it is not founded in the

subject's constitution, but chances to have found a favorable soil in the

special circumstances under which his sexual life developed. It is not

primary, but secondary, and remains an unimportant and merely occasional

element.

It may be instructive to bring forward for comparison a case in which also

we have a symbolism involving boot-fetichism, but extending beyond it. In

this case there is a basis of inversion (as is not infrequent in erotic

symbolisms), but from the present point of view the psychological

significance of the case remains the same.

A.N., aged 29, unmarried, healthy, though not robust, and without

any known hereditary taint. Has followed various avocations

without taking great interest in them, but has shown some

literary ability.

"I am an Englishman," his own narrative runs, "the third of three

children. At my birth my father was 41 and my mother 34. My

mother died of cancer when I was 15. My father is still alive, a

reserved man, who still nurses his sorrow for his wife's death. I

have no reason to believe my parents anything but normal and

useful members of society. My sister is normal and happily

married. My brother I have reason to believe to be an invert.

"A horoscope cast for me describes me in a way I think correct,

and so do my friends: 'A mild, obliging, gentle, amiable person,

with many fine traits of character; timid in nature, fond of

society, loving peace and quietude, delighting in warm and close

friendships. There is much that is firm, steadfast and

industrious, some self-love, a good deal of diplomacy, a little

that is subtle, or what is called finesse. You are reserved with

those you dislike. There is a serious and sad side to your

character; you are very thoughtful and contemplative when in

these moods. But you are not pessimistic. You have superior

abilities, for they are intuitively intellectual.

There is a cold

reticence which restrains generous impulses and which inclines to

acquisitiveness; it will make you deliberate, inventive, adding

self-esteem, some vanity.'

"At an early age I was left much alone in the nursery and there

contracted the habit of masturbation long before the age of

puberty. I use the word 'masturbation' for want of a better,

though it may not quite describe my case. I have never used my

hand to the penis. As far back as I can remember I have had what

a Frenchman has described as 'le fetichisme de la chaussure,' and

in those early days, before I was 6 years old, I would put on my

father's boots, taken from a cupboard at hand, and then tying or

strapping my legs together would produce an erection, and all the

pleasurable feelings experienced, I suppose, by means of

masturbation. I always did this secretly, but couldn't tell why.

I continued this practice on and off all my boyhood and youth.

When I discovered the first emission I was much surprised. I

always did this thing without loosening my trousers.

As to how

these feelings arose I am totally unable to say. I can't remember

being without such feelings, and they seem to me perfectly

normal. The sight, or even thought, of high boots, or leggings,

especially if well polished or in patent leather, would set all

my sexual passions aflame, and does yet. As a boy my great desire

was to wear these things. A soldier in boots and spurs, a groom

in tops, or even an errand-boy in patent leather leggings,

fascinated me, and to this day, despite reason and everything

else. The sight of such things produced an erection.

An emission

I could always produce by tightly tying my legs together, but

only when wearing boots, and preferably leggings, which when I

had pocket money I bought for this purpose. (At the present

moment I have five pairs in the house and two pairs of high

boots, quite unjustified by ordinary use.) This habit I lapse

into yet at times. The smell of leather affects me, but I never

know how far this may be due to association with boots; the smell

suggests the image. Restraint by a leather strap is more exciting

than by cords. Erotic dreams always take the form of restraint on

the limbs when booted.

"Uniforms and liveries have a great temptation for me, but only

when of a tight-fitting nature and smart, as soldiers', grooms',

etc., but not sailors'; most powerfully when the person is in

boots or leggings and breeches.

"I was a quiet, sensitive boy, taking no part in games or sports.

Have always been indifferent to them. I made few friends, but

didn't want them. The craving for friendship came much later,

after I was 21. I was a day boy at a private school, and never

had any conversation with any boy on sexual matters, though I was

dimly aware of much 'nastiness' about the school. I knew nothing

of sodomy. But all these things were repulsive to me,

notwithstanding my secret practices. I was a 'good boy.'

"Up to the age of 21 I was perfectly satisfied with my own

society, something of a prig, fond of books and reading, etc. I

was and ever have been absolutely insensible to the influence of

the other sex. I am not a woman hater, and take intellectual

pleasure in the society of certain ladies, but they are nearly

all much older than myself. I have a strong repulsion from sexual

relations with women. I should not mind being married for the

sake of companionship and for the sake of having boys of my own.

But the sexual act would frighten me. I could not in my present

frame of mind go to bed with a woman. Yet I feel an immense envy

of my married friends in that they are able to give out, and find

satisfaction for, their affection in a way that is quite

impossible for me. I picture certain boys in the place of the

wife.

"I am now only happy in the society of men younger than myself,

age 17 to (say) 23 or 24, youths with smooth faces, or first sign

of hair on lip, well groomed, slightly effeminate in feature, of

sympathetic, perhaps weak nature. I feel I want to help them, do

something for them, devote myself entirely to their welfare.

"With such there is no fixed line between friendship and love. I

yearn for intimacy with particular friends, but never dare

express it. I find so many people object to any strong expression

of feeling that I dare not run the risk of appearing ridiculous

in the eyes of these desired intimates.

"I have no desire for _pædicatio_, but the idea itself does not

repulse me or seem unnatural, though personally it repels me a

little. But I think this to be mere prejudice on my part, which

might be broken down if the loved person showed a willingness to

act a passive part. I should never dare to make an advance,

however.

"I am restrained by moral and religious considerations from

making my real feelings known, and I feel I should sink in my own

estimation if I gave way, though my natural desire is to do so.

In the face of opportunities (not I mean of _pædicatio_, but of

expression of excessive affection, etc.), or what might be such,

I always fail to speak lest I should forfeit the esteem of the

other person. I have a feeling of surprise when any one I like

evinces a liking for me. I feel that those I love are

immeasurably my superiors, though my reason may tell me it is not

so. I would grovel at their feet, do anything to win a smile from

them, or to make them give me their company.

"Ordinary bodily contact with the boy I love gives me most

exquisite pleasure, and I never lose an opportunity of bringing

such contact about when it can be done naturally. I feel an

immense desire to embrace, kiss, squeeze, etc., the person, to

generally maul him, and say nice things--the kind of things a man

usually says to a woman. A handshake, the mere presence of the

person, makes me happy and content.

"I can say with the Albanian: 'If I find myself in the presence

of the beloved, I rest absorbed in gazing on him.

Absent, I think

of nought but him. If the beloved unexpectedly appears I fall

into confusion. My heart beats faster. I have eyes and ears only

for the beloved.'

"I feel that my capacity of affection is finer and more spiritual

than that which commonly subsists between persons of different

sexes. And so, while trying to fight my instincts by religion, I

find my natural feeling to be part of my religion, and its

highest expression. In this sense I can speak from experience in

my own case, and more especially in that of my brother, that what

you have said about philanthropic activity resulting from

repressed homosexuality is very true indeed. I can say with one

of your female cases: 'Love is to me a religion. The very nature

of my affection for my friends precludes the possibility of any

element entering into it which is not absolutely pure and

sacred.' I am, however, madly jealous. I want entire possession,

and I can't bear for a moment that any one I do not care for

should know the person I love.

"I am never attracted by men older than myself. The youths who

attract me may be of any class, though preferably, I think, of a

class a little lower than myself. I am not quite sure of this,

however, as circumstances may have contributed more than

deliberate choice to bring certain youths under my notice. Those

who have exercised the most powerful influence on me have been an

Oxford undergraduate, a barber's assistant, and a plumber's

apprentice. Though naturally fond of intellectual society, I do

not ask for intellect in those I love. It goes for nothing. I

always prefer their company to that of the most educated persons.

This preference has alienated me to some extent from more refined

and educated circles that formerly I was intimate with.

"I have been led entirely out of my old habits by association

with younger friends, and now do things which before I should

never have dreamed of doing. My thoughts now are always with

certain youths, and if they speak of leaving the town, or in any

way talk of a future that I cannot share, I suffer horrid

sinkings of the heart and depression of spirits."

This case, while it concerns a person of quite different temperament, with

a more innate predisposition to specific perversions, is yet in many

respects analogous to the previous case. There is boot-fetichism; nothing

is felt to be so attractive as the foot-gear, and there is also at the

same time more than this; there is the attraction of repression and

constraint developed into a sexual symbol. In C.P.'s case that symbolism

arises from the experience of an abnormal heterosexual relationship; in

A.N.'s case it is founded on auto-erotic experiences associated with

inversion; in both alike the entire symbolism has become diffused and

generalized.

In the two cases just brought forward we have an erotic symbolism of act

founded on, and closely associated with, an erotic symbolism of object. It

may be instructive to bring forward another case in which no fetichistic

feeling toward an object can be traced, but an erotic symbolism still

clearly exists. In this case pain, even when self-inflicted, has acquire