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Making Meaning

There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy. -Shakespeare Hamlet, I, v

Many of the systems for understanding ourselves and our worlds are currently balanced precariously on the edge of a paradigm shift. This shift involves acknowledging the interconnectedness and reciprocalinfluence of the observer and the observed, mind and nature, and the impossibility of objectivity or control of all variables deemed irrelevant in an experiment. The Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle and the sciences of complexity represent this perspective in the field of physics, as does psychoneuroimmunology in the fields of psychology, neurology, and immunology.

Feminist thought has been a crucial part of this intellectual revolution. In the last two decades, feminist thought and analysis have been able to breathe new life into many traditional academic and professional disciplines, from the humanities to the sciences to the social sciences, to name them in the ways that they are currently and artificially divided. Many feminist writers have demonstrated and documented the patriarchal nature of our society and the variety of ways in which patriarchal values serve masculine needs (de Beauvoir I968; Friedan I963; Millett I970), even in such arenas as science (Bleier I984; Keller I985) and the clinical practice of psychology (Broverman, l. K., et al. I970; Chesler I972; Miller I976; lrigaray I985), previously believed to ,be, or at least presented as, evaluatively neutral and apolitical. In the most seemingly diverse fields, women's per- spectives and ideas have been shown to be  absent or buried or credited to men. It is always difficult, if not paradoxical, to take note of what is invisible, but it is precisely this paradoxical quest-to make the invisible female perspective visible--that has been undertaken by feminist scholarship.

A FEMINIST CRITIQUE OF MASCULINIST EPISTEMOLOGY

Scrutiny with a feminist eye has led to the development of a psychology that, for the first  time,  includes  women's  experiences  and  women's  perspectives.  The  various prefeminist  psychologies  have  spoken  eloquently  about  how  men  socially  construct and  experience  a  unidimensional  category  named  "woman,"  but  have  said  little,  if anything, about women's diverse experiences, about how women perceive themselves or others, about who women are, and especially about who and what women can be. While many  of these theorists  and practitioners have simply assumed that what they knew  about  men  and  mankind  extended  to  women,  others  have  filled  volumes discussing and analyzing the construct "woman," but have failed to explain how they developed that construct or to acknowledge that it ís a construct rather than an absolute reality, which would not need further explanation.

Epistemology  is  formally  defined  as  the  study  of  how  knowledge  is  possible  and how knowing is done (Bateson and Bateson I987, p. 20). Prefeminist epistemologies were  not  only  not  objective  or  value-free  but  were  based  upon  the  world  views  and experiences of men, which appeared to them to be objective, evaluatively neutral, and universally  applicable.  Included  among  these  so-called  objective  observations  were men's experiences of women, along with a variety of androcentric psychological stan- dards  against  which  women  were,  and  all  too  often  still  are,  measured.  Such  biases could perhaps have been challenged sooner had the perspectives upon which they are based been explicitly acknowledged, that is, made visible. But the epistemology of a dominant  group  can  be  made  to  appear  neutral,  and  its  value  base  invisible,  since  it coincides perfectly  with what appears to be society  in some generic,  universal form. Justas  many  sensory  experiences  depend  upon  the  perception  of  contrast-so  that,  for example,  a  visual  image  that  is  made  to  move  in  unison  with  the  eye's  scanning movement cannot be seen by that eye--masculinist epistemology in a patriarchal society may seem to define epistemology itself. A contrast had to develop first in the mind's eye of a few women, and then of many, before they could collectively make their perspectives visible. In this way, the feminist critique began.

Thus feminist psychology had, as its first task, to expose this masculinist epistemology and  challenge  its  use  as  the  foundation  of  traditional  psychological  thought.  By masculinist  epistemology,  I  mean  systems  of  knowledge  that  take  the  masculine perspective  unself-consciously,  as  if  it  were  truly  universal  and  objective.  Despite claims to the contrary, masculinist epistemologies are built upon values that promote masculine needs and  desires,  making all  others invisible.  It  is important to  note that feminist thought sees its task not as promoting the needs and experiences of women as  normative or universal but as making visible the varying experiences and perspectives that  masculinist thought denies. Many examples of this distinction will be considered in this and subsequent chapters.

PREFEMINIST CLINICAL THEORIES AND METHODS

Over the last two decades, feminist psychology has moved through various stages of development.  During  its  first  decade,  feminist  scholars  carefully  considered  and criticized  clinical  psychology  and  other  related  psy-  chotherapeutic  practices.  Rather than undertaking a comprehensive review of the substantial body of feminist criticism in this area, I will consider some of the most basic and glaring epistemological blind spots  of  prefeminist  thought  and  their  impact  on  the  psychological  and  psychiatric professions.

The  roots  of  many  seemingly  discrepant  schools  of  thought  and  practice  are  deeply embedded  in  the  soil  of  masculinist  thought,  including  those  schools  that  have  most influenced  clinical  psychology  and  psycho-therapeutic  practice  in  the  United  States: behavior therapy, psychoanalytic or psychodynamic therapy, and family therapy. I will consider each of these approaches from the perspective of their shared epistemological assumptions.

Behaviorisrn

Behaviorism  has  been  presented  as  a  scientifically  based  approach  to  an  objective psychology. Derived from the logical positivist school of philosophy, it was translated into a uniquely American (pragmatic, control-oriented) form of empiricism originally by John Watson and B. P. Skinner, and eventually by a multitude of researchers and practitioners. lt makes direct application of the same principles originally developed in controlled  laboratory  settings  with  animal  subjects.  Skinner's  best-known  work  was conducted  with  pigeons  and  rats,  Watson's  with  a  white  rat  in  the  famous  classical conditioning  case  of  Albert,  which  he  conducted  with  a  little-known  female  co- investigator   (Raynor   and   Watson   I92I).   The   classical   conditioning   paradigm associated  with  Watson,  involving  the  pairing  of  mutually  exclusive  responses,  has been   applied   by   Wolpe   (I958)   and   other   practitioners   of   behavior   therapy   or desensitization, in particular for the treatment of phobias (Wolpe I970; Podor I974). For example, an individual who is afraid of open spaces will first be taught relaxation techniques  and  will  then  be  asked  to  visualize  an  increasingly  fearful  series  of situations  involving  open  spaces.  Each  treatment  will  continue  only  as  long  as  the client is able to remain relaxed. As soon as she signals that she is becoming anxious, the  session  is  terminated.  Eventually  the  individual  passes  through  all  the  imaginary situations in a relaxed state and is ready to confront the actual feared situation.

The  paradigm  based  upon  the  work  of  Skinner  and  many  others  with  operant  conditioning  is  known  as  behavior  modification  and  has  been  applied  extensively  to work  with  children  in  school  settings  and  with  severely  disturbed  hospitalized  or institutionalized  patients.  In these  situations,  contingent reinforcement is applied to increase  or  decrease  the  frequency·  of  a  desired  or  target  behavior.  For  example,  a child who does ten minutes of homework may immediately be rewarded with a period of  play  or  may  accrue  tokens  that  can  be  exchanged  for  a  desired  activity  or  other reward. In its simplest form, this is a quid pro quo arrangement.

Most  applications  of  these  methods  involve  a  mixture  of  both  the  classical  and operant models. For example, an approach that grew directly from the early feminist therapy  movement,  assertiveness  training,  is  based  upon  desensitization  followed  by active  modification  of  behavior  in  the  actual  feared  situation.  That  is,  the  individual may begin by visualizing a series of imagined situations in which she is able to behave assertively. The second step may involve rehearsal of these behaviors in the artificial setting of the therapy or training, followed by performing the desired behaviors in the actual  settings  that  had  previously  been  problematic  for  her.  Epistemologically, behaviorism  is  based  upon  the  premise  that  every  valid  and  interesting  bit  of information  about  persons  is  and  must  be,  at  least  in  principle,  empirically knowable or verifiable. Universal behavioral principles, which apply not only to all   people   but   across   species,   are   sought   and   considered   discoverable   by controlled,  objective,  scientific  observation,  by  identifying  and  manipulating  the smallest  possible  separate  or  linked  units  of  behavior.  From  this  perspective, complex  human  psychology  can  be  reduced  to  a  set  of  fully  knowable  and determinate  behavioral  principles.  Change  occurs  through  the  identification  and manipulation   of   the   smallest   possible   separate   or   linked   units   of   behavior according  to  the  same  principles.  Who  and  what  is  changed  is  considered  a decision outside the boundaries of this method.

The  feminist  scholar  Evelyn  Fox  Keller  (I985)  has  noted  that  objectivity,  control, individuality,  and  the  advancement  of  science  through  competing  and  rising  above ordinary  life  are  the  hallmarks  of  Western  masculinity  and  Western  masculinist science.   The   philosophical   school   of   logical   positivism   translated   to   scientific empiricism  within  psychology  falls  squarely  within  this  tradition.  Adherents  have claimed that this method defines both objectivity and the science of human behavior itself, by means of which one can learn to "understand, predict and control behavior" (Hassett I984)

The method of this sort of science involves drawing rigid boundaries around minutiae, which  can  then  be  carefully  controlled,  observed,  and  manipulated,  presumably without any undesired influence from the controller, observer, and manipulator or from the  larger  environment.  This  approach  is  obviously  reductionist.  It  purports  to  be absent  of  values  but  in  fact  has  its  foundation  in  the  value-based  principles  of objectivity,  dispassionate  and  uninvolved  rationality,  control  and  manipulation,  and separation of fact from value, experimenter from subject, and context from subject and experimenter.  The  psychological  world,  from  this  perspective,  is  both  knowable  and conquerable as an aspect of the material world.

Yet  one  achieves  objectivity  by  ignoring  a  multiplicity  of  important,  if  not  crucial, influences  on  the  experiment  that  lie  outside  its  narrow  boundary  as  drawn.  These include aspects of the physical context such as the experimental design and the setting in which it occurs, the time of day, the state of readiness of the subject, and whether participation   is   required   for   credit   in   an   undergraduate   psychology   course. Additionally, aspects of the social context such as the effect of various qualities of the experimenter/  behavior  modifier  (RosenthalI968,  including  race,  gender,  and  even disposition,  are  "controlled  for"  or  ignored.  Not  only  are  results  in  laboratories generalized  to  the  natural  environment  but  laboratory  subjects  are  considered  to  be under the influence only of those variables the experimenter wishes to study, the rest being "controlled." The gender, class, race, and personal history of the subject, along with the very effect of being an experimental or a therapeutic subject, are all too often considered extraneous variables unless they are the object of study.

The behavioral approach tends to be individually or, at best, dyadically focused. For example,   in   working   with   a   child   who   is   having   problems,   the   reinforcement contingent  upon  the  child's  behavior  and  applied  by  the  mother  or  teacher  may  be altered.   Contingencies   maintaining   the   mother's  or   teacher's  behavior   are  rarely considered.  Mothers  are  given  responsibility  for  their  children's  contingencies  much more often in this so-called value-free literature than are children for their mothers' or are  fathers  for  anyone's.  Yet  implicit  in  the  very  principle  of  reinforcement  is  its universality.  The  behaviorist   model  considers  it  possible,  both  in  principle  and certainly in practice, to ascertain, manipulate, and control the multiplicity of influences that affect a child at any given time.

Imagine  a  female  child  who  perceives  her  father's  hostile  feelings  toward  his  own mother. Additionally, she is aware of her mother's despair over a difficult marriage and an interrupted career at a time when women are gaining access to better jobs. Do these complex experiences affect the child only in observable and manipulable ways? What if we then add to the picture the meanings that the child attributes to these factors, in particular,  her  own  diminished  sense  of  self-worth?  Are  these  aspects  reducible  to fragments of observable behavior whose combination is only quantitative and does not create a qualitatively different psychological constellation? Indeed, new, complex, and subjectively  organized  meanings  will  come  to  permeate  this  child's  psychological experiences in an untold variety of situations.

The psychoanalytic approach has already been the subject of serious criticism (Millett I970;  Chesler  I972;  Koedt  I976;  Lerman  I986)  as  well  as  attempts  at  revision (Mitchell  I974;  Alpert  I986;  Bernay  and  Cantor  I986)  by  feminist  scholars.  Its development  has  not  proceeded  according  to  the  tenets  of  logical  positivism;  rather, this approach is based upon introspection and the analysis of intrapsychic events, such as transference and countertransference,  manifested interpersonally in the therapeutic relationship.  Nevertheless,  Freud  and  various  psychoanalytic  theorists  who  have  followed him have sought to discover natural psychological laws that are objective and universal.  Psychological  phenomena  are  divided  into  two  realms  of  experience,  the conscious and the unconscious, movement from the latter to the former being a primary goal  within  the  process  of  analytic  therapy,  along  with  the  recapitulation  of  early experience in the therapeutic relationship. The approach is reductionist in that it traces all  human  behav  ior  to  a  few  basic  drives  and/or  early  childhood  experiences.  It  is deterministic in believing that all mental functioning is caused by identifiable factors already in existence. It is materialist in that it explains "higher" levels of functioning in terms of "lower" ones.

Inherent  in  the  analytic  perspective  is  a  gender  analysis  based  upon  unalterable anatomical and biological differences between the sexes. As the behaviorists' approach has  been  judged  as  too  narrow,  so  the  Freudian  approach  has  been  criticized  by feminists  for  being  phallocentric.  lts  epistemology  takes  male  experience  as  the universal  norm,  considering  possession  or  lack  of  a  penis  the  central  element  in  the psychological  makeup  of  all  people  (Cixous  I980;  Kristeva  I982;  Irigaray  I985). Those  without  penises  are  forever  relegated,  by  definition,  to  inferior  status  and  are unable fully to resolve important developmental tasks. Even women's essential role in childbirth is viewed, in part or fully, as a consolation prize, a substitute for the coveted first  prize.  Psychological  makeup  is  determined  by  biology  and  by  early  childhood experience  in  the  oedipal  triangle  formed  by  the  child  and  parents.  Woman  is considered   an   homme   manqué   to   be   understood   primarily   and   throughout   her psychological  development  (or  lack  thereof  by  her  lack  of  a  penis.*  Unlike  the behaviorist  approach,  the  psychoanalytic  clearly  distinguishes  between  two  types  of people, the haves and the have-nots, the latter being forever  doomed to second-class status.

According to the Freudian  psychoanalytic perspective, all individuals pass through predictable and definable stages of psychosexual development, which must be successfully negotiated to become mature adults. All human experience is reducible to and explained by these stages of development, which are all completed in childhood and early adolescence and in relation primarily to the parents.

The same client I mentioned  in the behavioral example, the woman afraid of open spaces, would be approached very differently by the analytically oriented therapist. The etiology of this fear, diagnosed as agoraphobia, would be sought in early childhood memories, dreams, associations, and transference in the therapeutic relationship. Undoubtedly it would be A male student once explained to me that he thought it is men who have penis envy: he admitted that he himself certainly envied his penis. This comment speaks of some men's relationship with their sexual organ, which they apparently believe has a life of its own sought in the psychosexual history in general and the oedipal or family drama in particular. Undoubtedly penis envy and castration anxiety would figure prominently. Only through uncovering the memory of the early traumatic event(s) that led to this fear, along with the accompanying affects, can a catharsis be accomplished and the anxiety discharged: that is, the underlying intrapsychic conflict must come to awareness and be resolved in the therapeutic relationship.

The analyst is viewed not as a particular person of a particular gender, class, or race with its concomitant values and perspectives but as a relatively dispassionate, neutral figure upon whom projection can occur. The analyst thereby becomes the current representation of the parent(s) of early child-hood and is, in this sense, both decontextualized and disembodied. Although more modern approaches, such as that of Harold Searles (I979), make explicit use of countertransference, it is still considered to be uniquely developed in response to the analysand. This takes place, most importantly, through the defense of projective identification, whereby the analyst is included in the picture but as a finely tuned instrument for receiving and interpreting the patient's projections and distortions and, second, through intrusion of the analyst's unresolved  intrapsychic and familial conflicts stripped of any cultural meanings.

I will not, at this point, undertake a criticism from a feminist perspective of all the latter-day revisions, adaptations, and schools of psychotherapy derived from the original Freudian school, which can be broadly subsumed under the aegis of analytically oriented approaches, those emphasizing ego functioning being most prominent. Some of this work has already been begun (Westkott I986), as have attempts to revise or adapt the original Freudian approach 'in a manner relevant to women's psychology (Miller I973; Alpert I986; Bernay and Cantor I986). The object- relations approach, adapted to feminist psychology by Nancy Chodorow (I978) and  others, will be considered at length in later chapters.

Family Therapy

The third school of therapy to be considered, the family systems approach, also reflects masculinist perspective and values in its inception and outlook. Introduced as an objective, meta mathematical approach (WatzlawickI967) that closely approximates technological systems thinking, it deals with observable behavior or communication based on a presumably neutral cybernetic model-that is, families function according to the same principles as do computers. Yet the major theorists have clearly interjected their own world views. Of the founders of famíly systems therapy, all but Virginia Satir were men, and they have typically approached families as regulated, rule- governed systems, like computers, or as hierarchical, executive-run systems, like businesses. Satir neither endorsed nor made use of either of these models.

The male theorists have also viewed parenting by mothers and fathers as necessaríly differing, just as the culture at large does, without questioning this assumption. They trace the source of problems all too frequently to the overinvolvement, or enmeshment, of the mother with her children, neither acknowledging the bias inherent in the use of these terms nor understanding the patriarchal basis for this circumstance, but locating the problem within individual women (Hare-Mustin I978, I987). They blame women for being just what the culture prescribes: intensely involved with their families and children. The family systems approach was introduced in the I950s, the decade that saw the rise of the  modero, white, middle-class, nuclear  family, and took the familia!configuration of the father in the executive role and the mother in the affective role as the norm and the normal--objectively, of course. In fact, these families were "more nuclear, more socially isolated, and more gender dichotomized than any in previous hístory" (Goldner I985, p. 44). Although Jay Haley (I969) and others have recognized power maneuvers as a factor in developing symptoms, the basic power inequity of gender difference and the influence of larger social systems such as gender arrangements have been deemed irrelevant and thus steadfastly ignored by mainstream family systems theorists.

The systems approach, as a result, turns out to be a closed system that does not provide a means to assess differential power orto attribute responsibility to different parts of a system or to allow for external influences. For example, if a woman is being battered  by her husband, the systems theorist is required to look at how this behavior is both serving and being maintained equally by both partners. Far from being value-free, this approach ís misogynist and victim blaming (Bograd I984). lt also values the family more highly than any of its individual members and, in practice, often sacrifices the welfare of the individual to that of the group. For example, in a well-known, typical intervention by Salvador Minuchin, a family member, usually the adolescent daughter, is anorectic. Minuchin's strategy involves introducing the distant father into parenting as an expert who can teach the "overly enmeshed" mother a few things about parenting an adolescent. An outcome is considered successful when the anorectíc symptoms are removed. I have yet to hear what happens to the mothers, who have implicitly been informed by an expert not only that they have not done their jobs correctly but that their relatively uninvolved husbands have the necessary expertise to correct the situation. How many of these mothers wind up quietly depressed after this "successful" family outcome?

The client fearful of open spaces would be approached with her partner or spouse and perhaps her whole family. Were she not currently in a partner or family relationship, her family of origin would be the focus of the therapy. The function of her symptom would be sought within these relationships. A typical analysis would consider her fear as  a  means  to  exercise  power  in  a  primary  relationship,  for  example,  to  keep  her husband or partner by her side. The couple relationship would be more 6nely calibrated so  that  closeness  could  be  achieved  more  openly  and  the  symptom would  no  longer need  to  serve  the  function  of  creating  closeness.  This  might  occur  through    open negotiation or by manipulating the situation so that the woman would back off and her husband or partner would then presumably come forward in a well-calibrated dance. She would see that she had actually been participating in preventing closeness by the very act of seeking it. The work of the therapist is to recalibrate the cybernetic system, all parts being assumed to exercise equal power. As in behavioral therapy, removal of the  symptom  would  be  the  goal  and  an  indication  of  a  successful  out-  come.  The meaning or sources of this fear in other spheres of her life as a woman would not be considered, nor would its relationship to other fears, feelings, or experiences.

Ironically, this approach was developed in order to consider the larger system in which an individual functions, namely, the family. However, the leaders in the field, as well as the multitude of other nonfeminist practitioners, have, by and large, chosen to ignore both the historical roots of the patriarchal family and its relationship with larger social systems, and in-stead to focus narrowly on the current organization of the family as the best and only means of understanding it. Feminist critics have insisted that competent  and  consistent  application  of  systems  theory  must  necessarily  include  formulations about  the  effect  of  larger  systems  such  as  class,  race,  ethnicity,  and  gender  on  the family and its members (Goldner I985; Luep-nitz I988; Kaschak I990). lt rtlust   also include  acknowledgment  of  the  values,  perspective,  and  gender  of  the  theorist  or therapist. Only after the development of a feminist critique of the 6eld have feminist critics been able to begin to develop a perspective that is consistent with and explicit about feminist principles (McGoldrick, Anderson, and Walsh I989; Walters et al.I988; Luepnitz I988). These are certainly not widely accepted among more traditional family therapists;  they  are  passionately  repudiated  by  some  and  dispassionately  ignored  by others  who  persist  in  applying  misogynist  and  ethnocentric  principles  to  their  work with families.