Inordinate competition when found in sexual, social and spiritual spheres of life is a sign of arrogance and pride on the one hand or jealousy, conspiracy and sneakiness on the other.
The bible always condemns inordinate competition. It is sin and loss of manliness or femininity or other desirable characteristics. Again there is legitimate competition in life and inordinate unrestrained competition in life. The person who does not compete behind your back is a relaxed person and reliable with capacity for great friendship but any person getting into sexual, social or spiritual competition destroys capacity for love in all categories involved and especially Love toward God. One of the big problems being a Pastor Teacher or anyone with authority is when there is an invisible or unknown person competing with you. This inordinate competition comes in many forms and preforms many adverse functions in life. These people very often have a facade of sweetness, flattery or of pseudo spirituality. Behind the facade is an arrogant, jealous, insecure, hypocritical person waiting to strike. The inordinately competitive person likes to play games like spiritual king of the mountain asking questions and then telling you answers or using violence to impress in front of his friends or the muscle flexor or the man who brags about conquests of females or about outwitting other males. An inordinate competitor always tries to impress with the wrong things and is never low key or relaxed when among others always trying to put someone down. He is insecure socially, sexually and spiritually. He is motivated by pride and jealousy and is very emotional and often a believer involved in the tongues movement or perhaps saturated with arrogance and Self Righteousness like the legalist. He is always anti-authority and at times conspiratorial seeking always to put down the authority in his periphery.
When a woman is competitive in social life or sexual life it destroys her femininity and when a man is competitive in social life and sexual life it destroys his masculinity. The greatest men to know in the field of friendship and stability and who have loyalty and capacity for love and life are people who never compete in social or sexual life. These people are a pleasure to be around as they are not trying to prove anything or divisively put someone down to show their supposed superiority. On the other hand, the worst people are always sneaky with their competitiveness. Great men will have no desire to compete in social, sexual or spiritual life but may in fact be extremely aggressive in other areas of life. There is a place for being competitive and a place not to be and the ones who cannot discern the differences are unstable and a pain to be around. These ones are embarrassing to have in friendship and it is tragic that doctrine does not straighten them out quickly, however, given enough time, it can.
Many men are very susceptible to flattery. A man who might be very strong may be very weak when it comes to being the object of flattery. Any woman who knows this vulnerability can take this man and lead him around by the nose. Flattery is of no interest to real men and real men do not compete in the social realm nor spiritual realm. Flattery is nice from the right person and when it is provided in a meaningful relationship. When it comes to women who use this to control men and even other women it only works with those who are weak. One of the greatest blessings to the male of the species is his not being vulnerable to flattery and therefore he is not socially competitive. A person who is not susceptible to flattery allows people very quickly to discover they do not have him on a leash and when a woman pulls his nonexistent leash he does not come along quietly. This is true also for the men in relationship to the ladies who also can be very vulnerable to flattery. The man who is built up in his soul by flattery is the type of man who is easily promiscuous but the man who is not in any way interested in flattery is not the one generally involved in promiscuity.
With regard to pregnancy and child bearing, one woman’s reproductive system, her womb, is not superior to another woman’s and no woman is superior to another because she has one which is functional for reproduction as opposed to one which is sterile. There is always a tendency, especially among believers, to look down on women who have no children. In fact if there is any actual superiority among women it is the ones who have NO children who are superior at least with regard to common sense. This idiotic concept the having children makes a woman superior to another, is a hold over from romanism and is one idea which has never been separated from romanism in the reformation. Human Viewpoint is not ever Divine Viewpoint and sloppy and silly thinking is not ever reality. Any woman can become pregnant all she has to do is to have a reproductive system into which sperm can find their way.
Pregnancy does not promote nor make a woman superior to other women. What a woman, and in fact anyone is, is what is in the Stream of Consciousness of the Soul not the reproductive system. There is nothing magnificently great about having children. Having children is not all that great in reality and there are many times when the woman who is bearing children and has children at home all the time would gladly trade places with those who do not have children. There is nothing abnormal about getting pregnant and having children and loving children but to go along with that and say that the one who has 13 or more children is remarkable and superior to other women is idiotic and the fact that she is in fact still alive is the only remarkable thing. Too many times a normal thing is amplified by evil or reversionism way out of perspective.