The Five Vital Principals

 

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Introduction

Welcome to Day Game Dating. You have decided to download and read our eBook The Five Vital Principals. I hope you enjoy this book and get something out of it. Let’s begin.

If you have decided that you would like to go out and meet women during the day but have no idea where to start...This book is for you.

The biggest challenge and frustration that you may encounter about going out and meeting women during the day, is the so called un-naturalness. For some reason the majority of people in our society think that it’s wrong to go out and initiate conversations with strangers. We feel we would be interrupting that person and disturbing them (strange I know, but people believe this.)

What’s interesting is when the person that we want to meet happens to be a female. As a man, it seems 100 times worse!

The truth is that this is a learned response. In certain ‘Eastern countries’ it’s rude if you don’t greet and start up a conversation when you pass somebody on the street. In other countries, it’s as normal to pick up women in the street as it is in a club.

All of our behaviours and fears about talking to strangers are generally conditioned into us. If we can learn this behaviour in the first place. We can unlearn it and slowly internalise a new set of behaviours.

I know a lot of guys who always approach and begin conversations with girls they find attractive. If they missed the opportunity to start up an interaction, they would feel strange, like they were cheating themselves. This is how strong learned and internalised behaviour can be.

In order to go out and be successful during the day, you have to feel comfortable with the whole concept in the first place. I would make two suggestions if you want to immediately change your mind set.

1. Think about this. Where did you learn the idea that talking to random people during the day was wrong? Question that belief and challenge it. Understand that most of what you think (good and bad) may just be a set of conditioned beliefs and possibly what you so strongly believe may not even be reality. Question it and challenge it… Always!

2. The most effective way to change your thought patterns is to just do the desired behaviour. Take action! Just go and try it anyway. Get out there and meet people. I guarantee you… If you have no skill whatsoever in meeting women and you just show up, unrehearsed, regardless of the outcome… You will feel so great for just getting yourself to go out there and meet new people that you will begin to realise; it’s not so bad and actually fun. Just try it and have no outcome dependence. This is the best way to tackle this issue head on and be sure to win!

What next?
Ok… If you have gone out and interacted with a few women
during the day with no so called ‘game’, whatsoever… My friend, you
are already 10 times further ahead of the pack, both in learning this
skill and creating opportunities for yourself. Most importantly, you
probably realised that you are still alive and actually feel very good
that you did it. Good on you!

How many other men can go out and approach random women during the day and how will they ever learn this skill if they you don’t actually try it. Congratulations... You’re now in the elite club. Well done!

If you have not tried this yet, then before you continue reading, I suggest you put this book down and make some approaches! 3 to 5 women to just get into the swing of things. Do yourself that favour and give yourself that pleasure and release of frustration. You will feel great. I promise!

Ok... I will assume you got your act together and have made some cold approaches but haven’t had much luck. What next? Let’s go over some basic principles and training that will be sure to get you better responses and success.

 

Let’s go to school...

 

The Five Vital Principals

There are five principals that I believe are vital to understand if success with women during the day is your goal. In a minute we will cover those.

I want you to first realise the situation that you’re dealing with Try to understand that ‘Day Game’ is very much direct

Unlike a club environment where there is loud music and alcohol and friends and women are outgoing and expect to be approached. In the day time they can be very much in their own worlds. They are probably not expecting to be approached and they most likely have things on their minds other then socialising with strange men. Things like work or studies or even what they are going to cook for dinner etc. When you do walk over to her she can almost be caught off guard. It’s now your responsibility to understand the day time scenario and deal with it.

So this understanding naturally leads us to the first principal.

 

PRINCIPAL 1 - THEY DON’T EXPECT TO BE APPROACHED

When you go up to a girl on the street she does not expect to be approached as in a club environment. You have to focus very strongly on comfort and being as natural as possible.

You don’t want her to feel awkward, and wondering “why is this guy talking to me and what does he want”. She must feel somewhat ok, that a stranger has begun talking to her.
The best way to make things natural and to begin creating this comfort is to actually verbalise why you are talking to her. Saying something like

“Hey I wanted to meet you”

 

Works well. This releases the tension of why you’re talking to her and enables you to transition over to comfort

It also says to her that you are ok with approaching her. If you were embarrassed and were trying to hide what you are doing then you wouldn’t say it. Understand that trying to hide the obvious by being sneaky about it can freak her out. You’re obviously not comfortable in yourself and the fact that you’re awkward makes the interaction awkward, which makes her feel awkward and attraction, will not be created. You will most likely just get shut out.

The other approach option to transition smoothly is to just start talking about the environment. This wont work so well if you actually make the effort to go up and approach her. But... if you’re sitting or standing somewhere and she happens to walk over for whatever reason and is hovering around your space and you want to interact. Make a comment about the general environment with the goal of getting into a conversation.

You should automatically create comfort with the small talk and automatically begin to transition into attraction.

So the first step in any day time scenario is to create comfort. Understand that when she is comfortable then she can begin to be more open. Open to making more conversation where she is actually interacting with you by (adding to the conversation herself) and actually asking you questions.

This is just an on surface step to get some kind of communication happening, to get her to notice you and to create enough time for the more important steps.

PRINCIPAL 2 - ATTRACTION

 

Attraction needs to be created almost instantly from the very beginning of any interaction with a woman that you are interested in.

Attraction is what separates the interaction from just talking and having a general casual conversation to her having an emotional response to you.

Attraction is the feeling that she starts to get that begins making her feel attracted to you. Attraction is a vital step. If you were talking to her and having general chit chat and had comfort with each other but no attraction was created...She would not begin to feel attracted to you. You might as well be her brother or a friend. She doesn’t feel anything for you. You have got to get her to feel something for you and that is called attraction.

So let’s sum it up…

At this point in the day time pick up you should have approached, created comfort, and then through this comfort both through sub-communication and technique created attraction.

Generating this attraction

 

Attraction is a whole deep topic on its own, but to get you going. Here are a few pointers.

If you approach confidently. If you are comfortable interacting with her. If you can successfully add some humour into your interaction making her laugh. If you can maintain good eye contact and really get into a rapport with her.

You are already opening the doors for attraction, so just go with it. She will notice these aspects about you and in turn respond positively.

This can be a complex subject on its own, but these are the basics to get you started.

 

PRINCIPAL 3 - SO WHAT DO WE DO?

 

If you successfully approach, create comfort and generate some attraction.

 

You now need to make a choice.

Do you want to end the interaction knowing that you have a good rapport and that attraction was created and ask for a phone number or... Would you like to go on an instant mini date then and there? The instant mini date is no different from getting her phone number and dating another day. You’re just short tracking the process and doing it now. Time management at its best!

Generally you need to gauge this and the biggest challenges with continuing the interaction into a mini date right now are usually logistics.

If for example, she has to go back to work because she is on her lunch break. She is not going to be able to go on a two hour date with you. Any commitment that she has that she can’t or won’t cancel, will block you from moving forward. If you can discover early on where you stand with her in relation to her commitments. You will know early on if you’re going for a date or a phone number.

PRINCIPAL 4 - PHILOSOPHY ON STYLE OF GAME

Before, we progress to how to get the phone number or the mini date a few words should be said about this style of game. I don’t consider this a game. It’s just the name. This is to be thought of as how you are as a person and how you interact with people. I don’t believe in relying on actual techniques to get women into you. Techniques should only be thought of to spice interactions up and create chemistry. Let’s say you’re talking to a friend of yours and you decide to crack a few jokes. This is probably going to spice up the interaction and make things more fun and enjoyable. It’s the same in your interactions with women. You just want to spice up and already good interaction. It’s like adding chocolate topping to ice-cream. It’s already good, you know it’s good, but you just want to tweak it up a bit and make it a bit better. The techniques that achieve this are flirting, teasing and playing hard to get, should become a part of your personality. This is not something that you just do, but who you are. (Or become)

Always be real and natural and non outcome dependant!

You will be very attractive right from the start. You will create comfort and create attraction. After a few minutes of interacting with each other. Rapport will be established. Now you have the choice of going on a mini date or getting a genuine phone number.

Do you see how this works?

 

PRINCIPAL 5 - HOOKING UP

 

Asking for the phone number.

 

So how do we get the phone number? Well... it’s very simple you ask!

 

If you’re embarrassed about asking for a phone number, ask for an email. Best way I find to do it is to just say “Hey, it’s was great chatting to you, I’d love to meet up with you sometime”.

Don’t say you want to take her out or something like that, its lame and needy and sounds like you’re trying to impress her, buy her attention.
Just say

“It’s being great, I got to get going, I would like to meet up sometime, what’s your phone number?”

 

(Pure confidence and self belief).

 

If she won’t give it to you. just say, “it will be ok” and ask again.

 

Understand that when you do ask for phone numbers you usually do get a bit of resistance. Just don’t beg! (Here boy)

 

Proceeding to a mini date.

With the mini date option. The best way, once you have determined that this is the path you want to take is to casually ask again. Something like,

“Hey, it’s being great chatting to you, I’m actually in the mood for a coffee or a piece of cake. Come and join me.”

You’re asking in a way that says “I’m doing something now and giving you the option of joining me”.
Once again you may get some resistance. Usually you just need to ask again by saying

“Look, I’m going around the corner, it’s a public place”, “You never know, you’ve got nothing to lose, it’s only a coffee, c’mon.”

 

I have broken it down for you because this dialogue works beautifully.

If you have built comfort and attraction, she should comply. As mentioned before. The challenges that you may have with this are usually logistics. If she has to be back at work or has plans. This can block you from going on a mini date. Just back track and go for a phone number.

Side Note

With practice and experience you will learn to feel your way through interactions and when to apply certain things. Your social skills will increase and your confidence will sky rocket! This will become a natural part of your personality and you will come from a place of… “This is who I am and this is just what I do”. You will be great with women and have options and standards.

There are more beautiful women in the world than guys with options and standards. Trust me. You will be rare and become highly in demand and sought after. Women will begin chasing you. When they meet a guy like you, they will be like “finally I found one” Watch then as she does her best to impress you. This is when you know you have the power and are in touch with your true masculine self.

Conclusion

 

There is a lot more to Day Game and how to actually create attraction.

 

How to get yourself together so you automatically find yourself in situations where you are meeting women.

Important aspects on body language,
Deeper mindsets on the proper way to look at things and...

Truly understanding what it is that woman are looking for and how to project this for massive success.

 

How to get your life in order to naturally become highly attractive to the opposite sex without even thinking about it.

 

How to speak in a way that causes people and women to be drawn to you and listen to you.

 

What to do when you are actually on a date to be more effective. How to use your body to create a stronger connection between the two of you leading to intimacy.

 

How to flirt effectively.

Understanding that, there is other communication going on and how to interpret and use it to create a faster connection.
How to deal correctly with a women’s tests, (yes women test men and you should know this and how to pass)

Deeper insights into the whole mating-game as a whole and strategies to be above it all leading to intense clarity and freedom of choice. Power!!!

And about hundred other dating subjects that will insure you really know what your doing until you master this.

 

For now.

The fastest way to learn is to actually get out there and practice while absorbing newer and better understandings of human interactions and women “over time”.

Start off by using the information in this book and you will see the massive changes in your success immediately. Literally in a few weeks you can make outstanding progress. It’s totally up to you..

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Yes, we approach women together!!! Most importantly you will get evaluated in these live interactions with women yourself and showing exactly where you are making mistakes and how to implement this new information smoothly into your personality to sky rocket your success.

There are many success stories from men who have taking our training (read them on the website) and our goal is to make you another happy male who has this women part of his life handled… Forever!

Good luck in the meantime, I wrote this book just for you, so Use It! Best Regards
Written By Colin

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