Do You Remember Your Newlywed Feeling? Do You Long for It Again? by Gerard Willis - HTML preview

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Every marriage needs a healthy dose of on-going romance to add spice, delight, and fun to the relationship. It's not enough to just start out with a sizzling romance. You have to find a way to keep the romance alive as the months and years accumulate.

One of the marital challenges many couples face is how to live together without losing that special romantic spark. It's all-too-easy to lose the role of lover along the way.

When this happens, spouses often start relating to each other as they would to a friend or a sibling. Parents can begin to feel they are only "business partners" joined together to raise their children and keep the household running.

There are certain things in every relationship that should remain sacred. You must trust each other, you must nurture each other, and you must show each other that you care about what the other person feels.

If there is a conflict, disagreement or challenge that comes up, to resolve that you will have to talk to each other instead of venting your frustrations with a friend or co- worker. This should be a sacred agreement with each other.

This means telling the other person what you are thinking as soon as you have sorted it out yourselves. Don't feel like you have to hide or sugar-coat the truth about a situation or unload on a friend how you are truly feeling without first telling each other.

This doesn't mean you should never talk to friends and other family members about your thoughts or what's happening in our lives; actually, it’s quite the contrary.

What is important is that you agree to tell each other first, things that are personal and feelings that come up about the other person.

If you find that you have been complaining to other people about your partner or someone close to you and you are not telling your partner how you are feeling, stop.

By talking to others first about your issues instead of the person involved, you will continue to erode the safety and trust in your relationship. By talking to others about your issues instead of the person your conflict is with, you could be playing the role of the victim or martyr.

Believe it or not, you may actually be enjoying the sympathy and attention from other people that you are getting from complaining about the situation with your partner.

If you want to build trust and create a close, connected relationship, this kind of behavior has to stop. Choosing to let your partner know where you stand and what is going on inside you is not only a way to build trust but also a way to deepen your connection as well.

When men and women enter into a relationship, what they are really looking for is a best friend; someone they know will love them no matter what. Deep inside of you there are powers that if discovered and used would allow you to achieve all that you ever dreamed or imagined you could become.

If only relationships could be as exciting and romantic as they were when you first met. You know, all that intensity, enthusiasm, excitement and, of course, sex. I'm sure you've felt it: hating being apart, even for a short time; being unable to concentrate on anything else for very long; and waiting to be together again.

When you are together, you hang onto every word, marvel at every part of your lover's body, and feel so wonderful, you smile all the time.

Does this all have to end? Are relationships doomed to predictable and boring routines of shopping, preparing meals, doing the dishes, laundry, watching T.V., talking about work, taking care of the kids, fighting, and sleeping? Definitely not!

In fact, long term lovers can become even more enchanted with each other, since their passion grows from a deeper knowledge and fondness for each other. But time alone does not help a relationship to flourish-it requires a willingness to take risks, and special, persistent attention.

The fact is, all marriages get bogged down with dull duties and routine responsibilities. Day after day, we get up in the morning, go about our business, and retire to sleep at night — and usually fail to recognize our marriage's desperate need for attention.

We need romance. We need to snuggle in front of a roaring fire, linger over a delicious meal, and take time to find out what's going on in our partner’s life. We need to hear these miraculous words whispered over and over: "I love you — and I will for as long as I live." If you're ready to fortify your love life, then begin by improving your love life for the better.

There is every reason to expect that your romance rating can soar to new heights. An extra dose of passion and affection can heal a hundred hurts and spark new hope for two worn-out lovers. Reviving romance puts you back in touch with each other's best qualities — and reminds you why you fell in love in the first place.

Take each other to new places in your relationship. Use these suggestions to make your marriage better than you ever thought it could ever be!

It might seem foreign and odd at first, but give it a chance! If you’re willing try then you will find out that there is a way to bring back that feeling you had when you were newlyweds!

Remember back to your wedding day, and feel that way again – every day of your lives together as man and wife!

Gerard Willis.

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