Just like the dragon in the path of a hero's journey to achieve glory, there are a few monsters in the path of a heroine's journey to acquire her sensuality! Let's see what these monsters are and how to get rid of them ASAP:
The Monster Called “Neediness”Have you ever found yourself in the following scenario?
When things are going well and the man pays a lot of attention to you, everything is perfect! You are energetic, happy, and bubbling. As soon as the man starts to show less affection, call less, and fail to remind you how much he adores you, you start to wonder …
Has he lost interest?Was that something I did?
What is he thinking?
Why hasn't he called for two days?
Is there someone else? After having these doubts in your mind for a few days, you decide to confront him and ask him what is going on.
If you want to keep this man in your life, confronting him about this is a strategic mistake you can't afford. Let me show you what exactly goes through a man's mind when you confront him about this:
Gee, she really needs my attention 24/7.This will be a lot of work, I can see that!
If she couldn't even deal with this, how would she deal with big problems if we ever end up together?
As you can see, it doesn't lead to anywhere good. When a woman shows her neediness during the early stages of a relationship, it turns men off in a big way. This is because being needy signals to a man two things about a woman:
• First, a man will interpret it as her not having control over her emotions. This shows emotional weakness.• Second, a man will think that she is insecure. He then concludes that he will have to give her a lot of validation and reassurance to make things work.
This “neediness” is like a man repellent and you have to get rid of it fast. The good news is that it can be eradicated, and I will show you exactly how to do this.
The feeling of “neediness” arises from a woman's belief that her intrinsic worth is determined by a man's approval of her. When you sit down and think about this belief, it doesn't really make sense to you, does it?
It doesn't make sense that a man who has only known you briefly should get the power to determine your worth, does it?
You are absolutely right! You and you alone are the judge of your character and intrinsic worth. You have to fight every single step to resist the tendency of seeking external validation.
The Monster from The PastWell, if you ask me about my experience with the good, the bad, and the ugly, I can tell you that I have had them all as my ex-lovers or ex-boyfriends. We all have had our share of heart breakers. When we look back on them, we can still feel the cracks in our hearts from those days. But these bad memories are best kept in a secret box that you never need to open again. Because looking back at them brings back nothing but painful memories, and worse, it may even affect how you behave in your current relationships.
The best weapon to use against this monster is to absolutely and firmly believe that there's no connection whatsoever between past failures in relationships and future possibilities of repeating them. In fact, because of past mistakes, you are more likely a wiser woman now, who has a clearer view of what you want from a man and from your life.
If you stop seeking a man's approval and stop letting the toxic men from the past haunt you, you will get rid of the monsters on your journey of realizing your sensuality. However, you still need to labor through the journey, crossing mountains and rivers to win that final prize. A winning mindset is the key to getting through the rest of the challenges …