If you’re into the online dating scene chances are that you’ll eventually meet some of the people who you meet online. But what do you do if you meet for that first date and it feels wrong? What do you do if you’re uncomfortable with the meeting? You need to be prepared to be honest with yourself and with your date about how things are going so that you don’t agree to a second date that you really don’t want.
There can be several reasons why you don’t feel comfortable on your date. Perhaps the chemistry is missing or perhaps you are feeling vulnerable. Maybe your self esteem is taking a beating and you just know that things won’t work out between you. Perhaps the most important thing that you can do is be polite, thank them for the date, and ask that the date end early. You should never feel obligated to stay on a date if you are feeling uncomfortable or threatened.
Make sure that you carry your cell phone with you on your first date and that you also let someone know where it is that you’re going. You want to keep safety at the forefront of your mind in case you need to leave in a hurry. Online dating requires that you feel in control of a situation that you really want. And when you lose this control you have the right to say “no”.