Being in a relationship is something that can be an incredible thing, but the possibility of your partner cheating is unfortunately never zero. Many people suspect their loves ones might not be fully into the relationship as they are. This raises an amazing amount of suspicion and the cheating partner, and how you can be your own personal investigator in the matter.
Relationships are one of the best things any one person can have, however there are moments when the faithfulness of a significant other does come into speculation. In cases of when cheating is suspected, then there are a few methods available to you in which would assist your quest to find out if this is really or actually a figment of your imagination. One of the first methods is to hire a private investigator. This, obviously, will cost money and, if the truth is not discovered quickly, it can cost you a lot of money. This is not one of the more desirable methods, however it is an affective method.
Another method is to conduct your own investigation and this only costs you time and emotional distress. Yes, by asking this question you must be prepared to find any answer. As long as you are willing to hear any answer, then you will be able to pursue this quest of finding the truth behind the suspicious behavior of your significant other.
Of course, if cheating is going on behind your back, then there must be a trail that could lead any prying eyes to the truth. One of the many ways to track this truth down is by checking on the balances of all credit and debit cards. This is easy if you both have a joint account, however if this is not the case, you can look at the many statements that are undoubtedly filed from their monthly mailings. Just the fact that you are spying on your loved one in order to find out whether or not that loved one is loving another person is already stressful. This process is something that might cause a significant amount of stress and pain, so take it slow. Look for any suspicious hotel fees or restaurant bills. Look at the dates and keep a log of when you and your significant other went out. Keep track of the receipts and their totals, as to make sure that the listing on the statements are, in fact, totals that did not involve you. Of course, the next possible things to look for are unfamiliar phone numbers on the cell or land line bill. This can be a number from a family member that changed their digits without your knowing, so be careful. This might end up just being a series of conversations between your significant other and your father! Be careful not to judge prematurely. Take a close look at these statements and then assess if these are evidence of something outside of your knowing, or just simply something that you were present to witness.
In a rapidly growing world, it is becoming more and more difficult to do anything without a significant amount of travel. This can work to your advantage. Every time your love leaves to go somewhere extensively, ask where they are going. Then write it down and mark down next to this note the current mileage of the car, the numbers you took note of earlier that morning. This would be an incredible method to catching your love in a lie as they tell you one thing and the mileage says something completely different. Be sure to be accurate with your mileage count and do your research while they are gone on the distance from your home to the site they say they are visiting. Be sure to also account for the round trip mileage, in order to avoid the embarrassing argument that reveals you forgot one important fact.
And then there are the more simplistic methods of catching people in their lies. One of them is to ask detailed questions as to where they are planning on going. After they leave, drive out there to see if their car is present. This may seem like elementary, however most people do not expect the people they have lied to check on them so quickly, leaving them without an alibi. It is good to give them some time in order to make room for a possible gas stop or a swing to a sandwich shop. These are the small things that might catch you in making a big mistake with the one you love. Leave them a five to ten minute window, and take note. Let this become a habit before you approach with your accusation.
With all this in mind, keep close attention on all of the little subtleties of their conversations with you. Take note of the things that do not make any sense to you, and try to compare situations when these things were brought up to you. By keeping note and trying to figure out what is going on based on their actions and reactions, this might give you a great advantage to find the truth behind this mystery.
Having said all of this, please understand that this is a very sad and painful experience, as you probably do not need me to tell you. Asking questions and seeking the answers can only lead to the unknown conclusion you desire, and that conclusion is sometimes something that you never wanted to hear. So bravo on asking the hard questions and be careful in your investigation! Do not cause a scene that could destroy a great thing between you and another person, who, as far as you know, is actually innocent