Introduction:
The Rules of Magnetic Attraction
Deep inside, we all want to be “people-magnets”.
Let’s face it: it’s wonderful to have people fall in love with you. Having a lot of love and goodwill from other people makes life is so much easier.
We also assume that the ultimate prize that everyone wants to have—the one true love—is more easily obtained when you’re a person-magnet. Instead of chasing hard after someone, that dream mate can just come to you.
But it’s not all that it seems.
First of all, we’re not all born full-fledged people- magnets. Most of us need to at least polish the seeds of these instincts and abilities in order to successfully attract.
Secondly, you can’t outwardly appear to be trying so hard attracting people you want towards you. The ability to attract should always look like a natural internal ability. Otherwise, it backfires. People see you as “fake” or trying too hard!
So before we go into the details on how to become a natural “people-magnet”, you must first understand what I call “the rules of magnetic attraction”.
Rule #1. You must be magnetic in your own unique way.
No matter how hard you try, you can’t be who you’re not. When you transform yourself into a “people-magnet”, you’re actually rediscovering and bringing out a more polished and attractive version of your true self. If you skip the self– discovery, and go straight to copying the looks and behavior of a particular person you admire (i.e. a celebrity or a personal hero), you’ll ultimately be unhappy with who you make yourself up to be. Besides, other people will also see right through you. They can actually feel when you’re not being true to yourself— that something about you is “fake”!
To succeed in attracting the sort of true love you want, you have to know yourself first. You must look within yourself, and examine your own physical attributes, to see how you can create a person-magnet that’s uniquely you.
Rule #2. You can only be magnetic to the sort of people you want.
Unless you’re some supernatural prophet (doubtful!), you can’t be all things to everyone. To paraphrase an old saying attributed to Abraham Lincoln: you can attract some kind of personalities all of the time or a wide range of people sometimes, but you can never attract everybody every single time.
It’s also being realistic. You wouldn’t want to attract all people. In truth, we each just want the right kind of people in our lives—that is, the people we are attracted to, and would be happy to spend time and energy on.
Your one true love will naturally gravitate towards you— provided that you transform yourself into an open, magnetic character, within easy access to that particular person.
Rule #3. The feeling must be mutual.
Magnetic attraction between people is always a two-way tango. The people you can attract are those who already have it within them the tendency to like someone like you. (Ditto for the people you’re attracted to.)
So it makes no sense for you to fret and work your way into everyone’s hearts. (They don’t even do this in show business.) After all, you only need to find one true love, and true friends.
If you spend your energy chasing and seducing “dream mates” who don’t quite take to you, pretty soon you’ll get tired of one-sided situations and run out of steam. You might even become depressed with yourself for having failed at love, and lose your joie de vivre. A magnetic personality requires that kind of joyous energy to run for years on end—it’s energy you can’t afford to run out of!
Rule #4. It’s not about you.
Being a people-magnet means you have self-confidence, but not the narcissism. Too much ego or focus on self tends to distract you from noticing the needs of other people, including the person you wish would become your one true love.
An attractive person isn’t just someone who’s pretty or handsome. That person genuinely values the dignity and feelings of other people; he or she empathizes with others enough to balance out any “me-first” tendencies. A people- magnet will, without having to really think about it, listen to others just as much as he or she will talk, simply because it’s a pleasant and human thing to do.
The last thing a truly attractive person will do is to swagger into a room (in effect), and talk about how sexy, rich or smart he or she is (which turns off a lot of people)! The same effect happens when a would-be “magnet” tries to manipulate events in order to falsely impress others with his or her so- called abilities or character attributes. He or she may fool a few people for a time, but eventually the act wears thin.
If you want to attract the one you want, just remember: it’s not always about you. You must be clear-headed and perceptive enough to understand what makes other people tick (especially your dream mate). You have to respect them as human beings, with your every thought, act or word. When you have this empathy and understanding, it becomes very easy for you to know precisely what will get certain people to like you. More specifically, you will know what it is about your true self that will make your dream mate fall for you.
These four rules of magnetic attraction form the basis of how you’ll transform yourself into a more “magnetic” you. As I go through the entire process, bear these rules in mind!
Let’s rock!
Tracy Montgomery