Some couples will talk for several hours per day. That isn’t
right for everyone, in fact, that is quite extreme. But
communicating once every couple of weeks is also extreme.
If you can help it, try to communicate on a daily basis, and
then figure out a reasonable amount of time you can each
spend on the phone. Some people’s lives may be busier
than others, so the amount of communication in
relationship can vary. There is not set magical amount of
time that everyone should spend. For Frank and I we
spend up to 2 hours a day either on the phone, online,
usually a combination of the two. Some days only 20
minutes or sometimes even just a call to say “goodnight.”
Other days (usually special days we can’t spend together like our anniversary), we might actually spend a few hours, but we obviously plan ahead for that. Consider not just your own schedule, but also your partner’s. Respect that they may be very busy on day that you might have completely free. At least call each day to say “goodnight.” I believe that is something most people should be able to do without too much difficulty if they have a phone.
If you’re worried about phone bills, I think it’s time to purchase cell phones with providers that allow free calling within the network, even if it means having to switch phone companies or get plans with enough minutes so you won’t run out and get charged more if you go over your limit. If you live in different countries, or you can’t afford to switch cell phone providers right away, try free internet calls through services such as Skype and Ekko.