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As soon as one of you is right and the other one is wrong, you are separated people on two different sides of a great chasm. Your relationship is broken. You might very well be “right” and in your mind you are of course absolutely right. But you have a choice here. You can choose to claim victory as the one who is right or you can choose to preserve your relationship as two people who love and respect one another. More important than winning any argument should be preserving and nourishing your relationship. You should prefer to lose an argument in order to win another moment of joyful unity with the one you love. When you truly understand the importance of your relationship and the destructiveness of having to be right, you will no longer feel compelled to argue. Sometimes by letting go of something, you can gain something even better. When you let go of your desire to be right, you will gain a happy relationship.
Value 6) “Super Sight”
“If arguing is destructive, then by what means can we resolve our disagreements?” The biggest problem with arguing is that when arguing we typically use about 80% of our mind’s resources to get our point across to the other person and15
