(How to Keep that Honeymoon Feeling)
the same problem.
When Lisa and I have a disagreement, my job is to use my Super Sight to
understand how Lisa sees the problem and how she believes her idea would
solve the problem.
She, at the same time, is trying to really understand how I see the problem and
how I think the problem could be solved.
We don’t realize it but we see the problem from different sides and have
different ideas about how to fix the problem. By carefully listening to one
another talk about the problem and one another’s ideas for fixing the problem
and by asking questions to better understand what the other person is seeing,
we begin to see a new, bigger picture of the problem. When this new, bigger,
fuller view of the problem snaps into focus, we can both agree on the perfect
way to fix the problem. In fact, after seeing our unified vision of the problem, we
often see a third solution to the problem that we both agree is better than either
of the ideas we had before when we only saw part of the picture.
This is Super Sight working for us. An analogy would be two blind people in a
room with a giant, stuffed mammoth. The two blind people could eventually
figure out what it is by feeling their way around the mammoth.
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