Setting Boundaries
As you start your new life together, there will probably be family members and
other people who try to interfere and overstep their place in your life. Parents
can be especially bad about this. And it is understandable. After all, they were in
charge of your life for quite some time and now one or more of your parents
may continue to attempt to be in charge of your life in some way or another.
When this happens many couples find themselves feeling frustrated and angry.
What you need to do is explain to the person that their actions are troublesome.
Let them know what you deem to be appropriate. Just as two people need to
learn how to get along in their marriage, the newlywed couple needs to learn
how to also get along with both sets of parents. Sometimes, you will have to
help one of your parents understand your expectations.
As a couple, you need to decide how you want your parents to interact with you.
Once you know what you want, you can talk with your parents about it.
It might take your parents some time to change. Give them a chance to adjust
their behavior. It might take a few get-togethers with them before you start
seeing the changes you were looking for.
Sometimes, a parent will not respect your wishes or they will not take you
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