Women can smell a pick-up line a mile away and they don’t really respond all that well. The problem is that while you might be a genuine guy who has been religiously studying his dating guide on how to pick up women, she will simply think that you are either a player or weak.
Smooth pick-up lines usually turn on the alarm bells for most women because they think they are being played. Plus, the fact that she has probably already been told by fifty other guys how beautiful her eyes are won’t help the situation much either. So, the key is to stand out from the crowd.
The first thing you shouldn’t do is presume they have no idea what you are doing. Let me tell you that it’s a game you will fail at. Women are like predators when it comes to smelling your weaknesses and your intentions. They can smell what you want from a mile away because they are masters at reading body language. You will give yourself away before you utter the first syllable and then you are doomed to fail.
On the other hand, rather than trying to hide that you are attempting to pick her up, get great at it and you won’t have to hide anymore.
Remember, cocky confidence and humor are a powerful combination that you can use to your advantage.
One of the biggest problems with pick up lines is that they are a clear sign of the fact that you are nervous. You see, the delivery is much more important than what you actually say. If you are cool, confident and collected you could recite the telephone book and she would still find you attractive. On the other hand if you stutter over a pre-rehearsed pick up line then you are clearly showing that you are nervous, which is not going to win you any points.
Again, rather than starting off with some cheesy pick-up line, your chances increase tenfold if you engage her in an interesting topic, asking her opinion. This works really well if you ask her to offer her opinion on a controversial subject you are debating with a friend. One, she will be more likely to answer because women don’t like to be rude for the sake of it and two, it’s a great way to draw her into a lengthier conversation which will allow her to see who you really are.
If you simply ask whether you can buy her a drink or not, she can say “No, thanks,” and leave. However, if you ask her opinion on whether or not women earn less in the workplace than men doing the same job because you have been debating it with your friend, you will spark her interest and she is more likely to stick around and argue her point.
The Phone Number or Email Address
For some strange reason, most women are more comfortable giving out their email address, than they are their phone number. And, in fact, email is a much better way to start off the conversation because they also tend to become a little distant on the phone.
By using email she will be more comfortable with you as she will gain a little insight into how you think. She will also be pleased that you took the time to think about what you are going to say to her. Another great thing about email is that she will be more likely to answer an email because you are more likely to reach her than by calling her. And, she can answer at any time, unlike if you call her and she is at work or in the middle of a meeting.
The secret to asking for a phone number or an email address is to use a little humor and confidence. For example, a great way to get an email address is to ask her whether she has email or not. When she answers yes, simply take out a piece of paper and pen and pass them to her, essentially taking her yes as an acceptance to give it to you.
Then, while she is writing you can try to get her to write down her number as well, or, wait to get her number via email. Since women see little risk in giving out their email because being harassed by email is quite unlikely, you are usually better off exchanging a few emails first and then asking for her number.
Yes, you still need to appear confident when asking for her email, so, to build up your confidence, simply practice getting phone numbers and emails from women. You can go to the mall every day and practice so you can get over your fear of rejection. The more rejections you receive, the less they will affect you.