Are you addicted to being a victim?
When things go wrong, how do you react?
Are you among the people who will look for a solution or are you going to whine?
I Just read a good post by Henrik Edberg - How to move away from the victim mentality. http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2013/05/15/victim-mentality/
Many years ago, I found out that I was in charge of my life. A good friend, the philosopher Andre Moreau (http://www.andremoreau.ca/) gave me the tools to understand that I was in charge.
It's OK to make mistake. We have to learn from them.
Please, stop thinking that others are in charge of your life. Start to take responsibility for what you have and what you get. Good or bad, you always have the choice of how you respond to what happen to you.
The victim mentality will make you a victim.