Chapter 2:
Understand What Is Holding You Back
Synopsis
Everyone should ideally desire to live life to the fullest and with as much zest as they can muster. However for most this is not the common everyday scenario as there are probably many things that hold them back from taking the step towards total fulfillment.
Perhaps understating the reasons for the reservation or the holding back instinct will help the individual better understand the choices made and make the necessary changes and adjustments to really go all out.
The following are some possibilities that could be contributing to the mindset that often holds back instead of being adventurous:
Understand It
Not really knowing what the individual wants out of life could be contributing to the reluctance to try new things or to venture outside the safety of familiarity. For most people venturing forth into the unknown is only seen as madness and possible exposure to danger, thus the unwillingness to step out. If this is the case the individual should embark on a simple exercise to help identify some of the things that would most likely interest him or her.
Upon doing so, the next step would be to categorize these into groups of elements that would be within the individual's control and dictatorship and elements that are not controllable by the individual. Once this has been done the individual can then focus on trying out some of the items listed in the first category which by now would perhaps not seem so daunting after all.
For some, making excuses seems to be the cover they use to avoid committing to trying new things or to completing things already underway. Making excuses seems to be the ideal way to buffer themselves against possible disappointment and rejection. This is also a destructive and constricting attitude to adopt, however if this is clearly indentified then step can be taken to discourage this sort of attitude form manifesting further.