Losing control very often, creates a sense of desperation or the fear that there will not be enough time available. It also develops when panic arises, surrounding a particular situation. There are many times in life when we find ourselves in unpleasant situations. They will pass, and while these situations progress, there is the further option to learn from them. Should you find yourself in a place of intense desperation; that is a time to stop, and hold yourself together as best you can. It is very important at this stage, not to let desperation take over completely; as it can be a very overpowering and a self-destructive feeling.