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CHAPTER FOUR

Out of nowhere, I heard arguing downstairs with my mom and my

grandfather. Mommy came storming into the house and pulling me

by my left arm through the front door with her. Instantly my

grandmother was pulling on my right arm. I felt like a rope in a tug of

war game, which my mother ultimately won by pulling on my hair. It

was like a scene out of a movie. I am standing there between the two

of them screaming each time she pulled my braid until she slapped

me upside the head for yelling out. I felt frightened, confused, and

hurt because this wasn’t the mom I knew, who even in her weirdness

let me know she loved me.

It was so totally out of character that I just got quiet. Things were

happening so fast. Mom pulled me all the way up the hill by my braid

and sat down at the bus stop to wait on the bus so we could go to

wherever she was staying on the western end of the island. All I kept

thinking was, I don’t have anywhere to sleep down there so where the hel is she

taking me? During this time, Mommy was talking to herself. Some of

her words were clear but most of the time I had not a clue what she

was uttering. I could just tell she was angry – at me! I felt it coming

through her pores but I didn’t know for sure what I had done to set

her off. For the next few moments, I reflected on the day’s events:

Mama’s concern for me earlier that morning, the look on my

mother’s face before she left the house, my grandmother demanding

that she not take me with her. I eventually came to the conclusion

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that it was a really bad idea for me to be in that apartment with my

mother so I started plotting my escape to get back uptown to my

grandmother’s house. This is a whole lot of drama for a soon to be thirteen

year old to deal with, but hey, as they say, God knows best.

When the bus finally came, I started putting my plan in motion to get

off at the most opportune time. I recalled that the bus would stop at

McDonald’s so I decided to make my move by telling her that I

needed to use the restroom. I really was praying that she would let

me go alone but that didn’t happen. I guess she didn’t trust me

because not only did she get off the bus with me; she came right into

that bathroom with me and fol owed me into the stall. I don’t know

about you, but it’s kind of hard to pee with someone staring at you,

so nothing happened. This only led to me getting another slap in the

head and being hurried to fix my clothes so we could leave. Mom

grabbed me so forcefully that I was actual y terrified that my mother

was actually going to harm me. I felt in my spirit like I was going to

die that day but something whispered to me that God was in control

of what was taking place. What happened next would alter the course

of my life – not just with my mother, but forever.

As we were exiting the restaurant, I kicked off my penny loafer shoe

so that when we boarded the next bus, I had a reason to go back into

McDonald’s. By this time she was extremely pissed at me for delaying

her plans so she threatened to beat the crap out of me when we got

to her place – or as she said, when we got home. That place was

NOT home for me, but I didn’t dare express that out loud. She was

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so annoyed at me that she let go of my hand just long enough for me

to get the hell off of that bus and make a run for it down the side

walk. All I was hearing in my head was “Run Yas, run!” I ran down

the street screaming for help; that my mother was going to hurt me

and she was running right behind of me picking up speed. I recall

seeing pedestrians trying to hold her back but she had this super

strength and was just pushing them down like bowling pins. I don’t

know what had gotten into her that day but I knew I was in trouble.

From behind I could hear her yelling, “Hold her, I am going to kill

her!” Wait just a second…Kil me? What did I do? I am the daughter she was

supposed to protect and cherish. Now she’s chasing me down the damn street like

some crazed lunatic and I’m the problem?

Now St. Thomas’s waterfront is barely one mile long so this kind of

madness is visible to every single person driving along the road.

Some summer this was shaping up to be. I began crying as I ran, and

all of a sudden I could no longer feel my legs touching the ground. It

was like I was flying in the air. For a minute I wondered if God had

sent his angels to protect me, and in a way he did. Just at that

moment, a gentleman in the back of a painter’s truck grabbed the

back of my collar and pulled me up into the bed of the truck and

drove me to their office suite so I could use the phone and call

someone. I called my grandmother and my Uncle Sam and my

“guardian angels” gave my mama directions to come and get me. Just

as I was doing so, I heard this commotion outside and ran to the

window to see what was going on. Just like in the movies, things were

moving in slow motion. I watched in horror as my mother fought

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these men as they tried to calm her down. I remember pressing my

face to the glass as the tears streamed down and just mumbling to

myself for her to stop. It was too much. I had seen too much,

experienced too much. I just wanted it to all go away. All I am

thinking is how is this my life? What did I do to deserve this? Why is

this happening to me? And how will I ever face anyone again?

Some moments later, three police cars pulled up followed by a man

dressed in all white who was carrying a white cloth in his hands. The

officers instructed the men to go inside but I was still standing there

watching through the front glass. I wish now that they had taken me

with them because I am forever traumatized, because the image of

seeing my mother tackled to the ground by the officers with her face

slammed into the street is burned into my memory for the rest of my

life. They had placed her hands behind her back and forced her to

stand. The man in all white, then walked up to her and placed this

white cloth with zippers around the top portion of her body – almost

like a life sized strip of gauze with zippers. I simply stared as they

shoved her into this van and whisked her away. I think I was in

shock. I didn’t cry nor did I speak. I just stood there. Everything that

happened next was a blur to me. I just shut down and became like a

mannequin. I vaguely remember Mama repeating a prayer of

protection over me and then in the days ahead we went to court for

them to figure out what to do with me.

All of this happened during my twelfth year of life and it left an

indelible mark on me that words cannot describe. I’m amazed that I

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didn’t just go stark raving mad my damn self and check out

altogether. It took everything I had within me to keep my pre-teen

mind in the right place, but it was not easy. I started acting out and

giving my grandmother a hard time because I felt rejected and

unlovable. Since the Virgin Islands didn’t have adequate facilities for

mentally ill patients, my mother was only kept for a couple of days;

however the damage had already been done. After witnessing all that

craziness – pun intended – I became terrified of my mother. I

honestly believe that my grandparents were afraid of her too, because

they essentially slept with one eye open.

After that horrific incident, I locked myself in an emotional bubble

where no one could get to me. Then, as if we hadn’t been through

enough, my grandfather Eric unexpectedly died from a heart attack

and it felt like the walls were just crumbling all around us. All I could

think was that I had lost everybody in one second and I was al alone.

Yes, my grandmother was there but she is not the most touchy-feely

individual, because she has had to be so strong for everyone else. I

just didn’t know how to deal with my own feelings and began to

lashing out and hating God. By my freshman year of high school I

had basically shut down and refused to speak anymore. I mean, what

was the point? My dad had basically done a disappearing act and my

mother was stone cold out of her mind. Can you believe she would

look me in the eye and just refer to me as ‘that girl?’ or ‘that child?’ I

am her flesh and blood for crying out loud! I felt so rejected and

abandoned, even though I had other family around me. My poor

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grandmother had no idea how to reach me and tried everything

during that time to engage me on a daily basis. I had disconnected

from my day to day, and was essentially failing the ninth grade.

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