Pattern… Lost Performatives are simply added to a conversation that have left out where the judgment was being made from. So someone may say something
like, “the beach is good” but they didn’t say who thought the beach was good, or
“being slim is sexy” when they didn’t refer to who said being slim is sexy.
Response… When presented with a Lost Performative you want to ask a question that that finds out more information about where the particular judgment came
from. So a response to the above could be, “who say’s the beach is good?” and
“how do you know being slim is sexy?” There are so many variations of these
responses you could apply here, such as, “what made you decide the beach is
good?” and “who decided being slim is sexy?” And a very generic question that
you’ve probably heard someone use in response to a Lost Performative in the
past may have been, “according to whom?”
Outcome… The cool thing about asking these types of questions about a Lost Performative is that many times the listener has no idea where the judgment has
come from, and in digging in and finding that out, is in many cases enough to
dissolve the problem altogether, due to their finding out new information that
they may have not consciously thought of before.
BOOST YOUR BODY-IMAGE WITH NLP – NICKRITCHIELIVE.COM
43