Take Your Free Will Back: Energy Attacks and Defending Yourself
Me: Ivo, we need to discuss my interesting hour on Facebook. Yes, I wandered back for an hour and it was enlightening. I put up a post the other day saying that I am using apple juice with apple cider vinegar to deal with a gallstone problem. So far it's been doing pretty good.
As usual, my posts are intended to help others, not to get advice from others. If I want advice from someone, I'll ask for it. That's a respectful exchange between people. You ask for help and it's offered when asked for. Nothing less than. Otherwise it's a violation of my free will.
Then one person comes along and starts telling me what to do. I'm supposed to heal my past trauma, family issues, past life stuff, etc etc etc. Like I haven't been doing that for the last 20 years. I just haven't mentioned that. When I told her to cut it out, she said she considers herself a healer and goes around Facebook, trying to trigger off everyone's egos.
I was enraged. Now on top of being defensive, which I hate, now my face is so red I look like a tomato.
Ivo: Blood pressure. But you are enraged at the lack of boundaries and disrespect of your free will. If you wish to heal, that is up to you. You have much self respect and it annoys you when you are not treated in kind. I keep telling you my love, you are one of us. You think like we do. My dear, you are versed in higher consciousness ways of dealing with other beings. My love, you are a mediator between warring races in the galaxy – you are certainly cognizant of respectful means of dealing with others because, as you are doing now on earth, you have taught them out in the galaxy. Between warring factions, no less.
Me: So you thought I was up for this, did you?
Ivo: No, you did.
Me: So I want to repeat, for the sakes of the few people who actually bother to listen to what we say: Everyone is entitled to free will. That's god given. This planet is supposed to be a free will zone but because of the Matrix, it's not. And people have been taught to mistreat others by interfering with their free will all the time and continuing to be unaware of it.
Ivo: So forgiveness is necessary.
Me: I know. But first the lesson.
Ivo: Yes.
Me: When you try to control, as this person was, not even attempting to control me to my face, but doing it surreptitiously, behind my back in order to elicit a reaction....
Ivo: Yes, an energy vampire. A ruse. She wanders around thinking herself a healer when in fact she triggers negative reactions to elicit the energy from the target. Hence her superior ego.
Me: Yeah, they always piss me off.
Ivo: Because they are draining your energy. But they are often self-deluded as she is, thinking themselves spiritual when in fact they are vampiring energy from others. The worst kind of delusion is self delusion because it is the hardest to overcome.
Me: Well, it's going to be hard to overcome for her because her focus is on other people, not her own healing.
Ivo: Yes. You told her as much.
Me: I doubt it'll make a difference.
Ivo: Which is not your problem. You blocked her. And now you have cut cords so she cannot receive any more energy from you.
Me: Okay, so where was I? Clearly the lesson here is the vampire will use any means to gain your energy. But a sign would be that they're focused on you, not on themselves. Most people offered advice in stating what they have done to overcome the problem, which is acceptable because they're not telling me what to do. Those who respond by focusing on you, not themselves, are the vampires.
Ivo: Yes.
Me: That's the other point. People go around telling others what to do. Can you imagine how frustrated I'd be if I expected that everyone was going to do whatever I said? What's more. I don't want that responsibility. You can take what I say or leave it. But if you're on my timeline, I expect to be treated with respect and will accept nothing less. If you have lax boundaries and try to vampire my energy, I will evict you.
Telling others what to do. Finding fault with others. Trying to change others without their consent. Trying to vampire their energy, also of course without their consent. Thinking yourself superior to others. Going into conversations with an agenda – being the best, vampiring energy.... just chill. Learn from what others say and enjoy the conversation.
Now there was the question of my becoming defensive. I become defensive when someone violates my free will and right to self autonomy. I'm doubting that's the correct response, Ivo.
Ivo: You become defensive when someone is attempting to vampire your energy. And this one can be put on the growing list of our new e-course. There is no need to defend oneself. You have not done anything wrong. But there is always an insinuation by these superior vampires that you are faulty and lacking in some way.
Yes, my love that is a conditioned response in you from your childhood days and it needs to be healed. She was showing you that much so you can be thankful for that, however, you know this already. Your narcissistic father and histrionic mother had you on the defensive all the time, attempting to defend your energy which is actually what being defensive is.
You can use being defensive as a means of realizing that your energy is under attack and the best move to make is to shield from the attack of the vampire.
That is all it is. The person is attempting to call your integrity into question and this puts you in the correct posture to remove your energy because it is an attack. It is simply energy vampiring.
You are looking at it from a psychological perspective but in this example, there is no psychology to be considered. It is an energy attack using words, of course. Words have energy. Your normal response to being attacked is to become defensive, but this is folly. Put up a shield and do not allow it to penetrate your being. Understand that nobody can attack you without your attacking yourself as well. Yes, you call this personalizing. It is the fish biting the hook. You took the bait she put out. Energy vampires bait others.
Me: Oh yeah. Advice giving. An attempt to control. An attempt to make me feel unworthy or guilty for failing myself. As if.
Ivo: She also called it an ego reaction. I do not think that defending your energy from being removed without your consent is an ego reaction although she made it appear to be. Your being defensive is a question of being defensive of your life energy and vitality and you must put up shields at this time to ward off the attack. The vampire will throw the word “ego” at you implying again, that you are deficient in some way, however you are defending your energy. Best to shield up and walk away. Also forgive those who attempt these things. That is the best way to deal with it.
Me: So you're saying that defending your life energy is not egotistical which makes sense. It's a defense of the soul's energy, I guess. However when your energy is taken, then you react egotistically because now your energy is lower and you're coming from the manipulated ego. And then you just think this is who you are and how you react because your energy has been taken but we're not ego – we've been led to believe we are.
Ivo: Fronting a counter-attack as you did today is folly, my love. You are not seeing the vampiring in these episodes so clearly and you must. You are always targeted for your Light.
It is best to shield up when you become defensive and not to counter attack. Because the counter attack is providing the energy that the vampire desires.
Me: Okay, thank you, Ivo.
Ivo: My love, you must learn what is truly negative ego and what is not. When a vampire takes your energy, of course you fall into the lower dimensions and your reaction appears egotistical. But it is not. You are defending your life energy, however you lost in this instance. In the instances when you win, you will retain a higher vibration and forgiveness will be easier. A good lesson for all who deal with energy vampires and you all do.
All the things that you take offense to, stop taking offense to. Why? Because then you will stop defending which is the posture the vampire needs you in to take your energy. Then you will not defend and the energy cannot be taken. A posture of loving all is the best way.
The fact is, everything you learn to do in your Matrix world is energy vampiring – it is all done for the sake of draining each other's energy. All of these things we speak of, such as manipulating and controlling behaviours, and your reactions to them – all about energy vampiring. All of it. Bearing in mind the biggest energy vampires are the parasitic beings who use you for loosh – your energy.
Me: I'll work on it. Thank you, Ivo.
Ivo: You learned to take offense at both your parents' behaviours because this was modelled for you. It was possible to love them both as they were and to maintain your own energy but yes, difficult for a child who was under constant assault.
Me: They would've had no use for me because they were both a couple vampires. I probably would've suffered even more. My father was gunning to kill me as it was.
Ivo: I understand. So you mimicked your mother's behaviour as a means of saving yourself. It does not work for you now. Do not take offense because then there will be no need to defend. You will stay in the higher chakras and continue to feel love.
My love, you will navigate this world of yours well when you understand the cosmic reality of energetic transaction.
Almost as if to finalize this lesson, I went out for a drive to the park, and on my way a man I have no idea who he is, rolled down his window and flipped me the bird! I started laughing and drove on, laughing at the incident. Ivo said that all people should be treated in this same way – take no offense and do not defend against their attack and you'll have it perfect.