Adama of Telos: Make Forgiveness a Habit
Me: Hi Adama, I'm hearing what you're telling me while doing this meditation.... this is a new way of looking at forgiveness. I'm used to thinking of forgiveness as something you dispense towards others for your own sake, but now you have a different angle on it....
A: Yes, the angle you speak of is when you are in a situation where you are annoyed, angry, irritated, upset in any way by another person's comment or action, to forgive yourself.
Me: Interesting... so why should I forgive myself if I haven't done anything wrong?
A: But in effect you have done something wrong – you condemned the other person's behaviour as being unfit in some way. Whereas they are simply being themselves.
Me: I think this is a new way, a completely new way of looking at things.
A: It would be, yes.
Me: So when someone says something offensive, why do I have to forgive myself?
A: For labelling it as offensive. For taking offense. For not being loving towards that person. For reacting as if that person were at fault in some way.
Me: Wow. Mind blown.
A: Your ego is the one who takes offense. You are accustomed to certain social parameters you must work within and the expectation is that all must fit these parameters. What if you dropped all of these parameters and simply allowed each person to be them self? What if you saw the flaw within yourself for not allowing the person to be them self? Yes, all beings are divine beings, no matter how they should express that.
All interactions are interactions of love, no matter what they should be.
Forgive yourself for forgetting that and returning to your old standard of expectation. Your egotistical earth rules.
Your social parameters say that X will behave in a certain way in order to show me the respect I deserve. There are socially acceptable ways of showing respect and there are people who do not abide by them for one reason or another.
You so often say that the only thing you can change is yourself. So focus on that. See the fault as lying with yourself, not the other. See the fault, the shortsightedness as being your own, not the other.
Me: There are still people I wouldn't want around me because of their need to create chaos. So does that mean I'm unforgiving by your terms?
A: Yes.
Me: I don't want them creating chaos and negativity.
A: So could you reach a compromise then?
Me: I'm not having toxic, chaotic people around me. If that were the case I would have to live with my parents again and I'm not doing that.
A: So you have not forgiven yourself for not accepting your parents as they were.
Me: Are you saying that forgiveness is a double edged sword? There are two sides to it?
A: You can forgive your parents for wronging you. But you have not forgiven yourself for not being able to love your parents. When you forgive yourself for not being able to love your parents, you will become loving towards them.
Me: So complete acceptance of them as they were.
A: Yes.
Me: I'll have to think about this.
A: Begin by asking yourself, “What if I were to forgive myself for not accepting this person as they are?”
Me: I would become self-loving.
A: And what if you were to forgive that person for being that way?
Me: Mmmm. Doesn't make sense now.
A: There is nothing to forgive. People are simply the way that they are. It is that you react that needs to be forgiven. It is that you react without love that needs to be forgiven.
Me: Interesting....
A: When you try to forgive others for what they have done when in fact they were simply being themselves. It is your label of offensive or obnoxious that needs to be forgiven.
Me: But they did compromise my life to a terrible standard. They created a lot of pain in me.
A: And what have you done with this pain then?
Me: I healed it. True. Without their having done this I wouldn't be where I am today......
A: So it was all for the greater good in the end. All of life is. When you don't see the greater good in suffering, then you don't understand life. You certainly don't understand the life of Jesus.
Me: No. Never studied that much.
A: There are also expectations. There is an expectation that all parents will do everything possible to ensure their child's happiness. When in fact this isn't true. So expectations must change as well. It is all for the learning.
Me: I can feel some fear because then I think that it'll be like the grave scene in Michael Jackson's thriller video. All the worst offenders will come out to get me.
A: You have dealt with many offenders in your lifetime. When you forgive yourself for seeing their action as offensive, all rancour is dropped. The lesson of loving all no matter what – unconditional love – is learned.
Me: Can I still set a boundary?
A: Based on what? There was no offense.
Me: ummmmm....
A: You are learning to become a fifth dimensional. That is what fifth dimensionals behave like – they love all.
Me: Okay. I'm pretty sure me and Ivo discussed forgiveness before and we talked about either forgiving them or forgiving both them and myself.
A: Forgiveness is necessary for you as you are in the public eye and you're very aware that people either deliberately or not deliberately offend you. When you take offense and forgive yourself for taking the offense then nothing is wrong. All is still love.
You are afraid because you think that with no boundaries that everyone will come out to offend you. But in not putting up boundaries you are stepping into a greater awareness of the being a whole consciousness with others. Boundaries are a way of learning who you are, how you prefer to be treated and as a defense mechanism. Not having boundaries means to stop taking offense or to forgive yourself when offense was taken. To continue to be part of the one.
Me: I'll have to think about it.
A: You said that 2019 was “your year,” the year you step even closer to your divinity. You have all the books you think you will need to study. You have the Law of One. You have books on every subject you feel you need to study to understand yourself as a consciousness, an energy being and you are also working on the Course in Miracles now.
Me: Which is a miracle because I've put it off for a long time!
A: You weren't ready. You now are. Wait till you hear of the surprises Sananda has in store for you.
Me: Okay. It's good he's broken it into 365 segments because it's not something you could do in a month even, I feel.
A: It's very important. But remember what I said in this video. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
Me: You always make me teary-eyed!
A: Love does that. The truth does that. For someone who has longed for the truth for so long, it is emotional when you finally hear it.
Me: Ivo tells me the truth and I'm forgiving myself right now for finding offense at your words.
A: You said yesterday to stop personalizing people's statements. You are thinking that I am saying that Ivo does not tell you the truth. He does. He tells you the next truth you need to hear to build your process. There are levels of awareness and you are all opening to higher consciousness now. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
Forgive yourself for not understanding. It is you that is ignorant and I do not mean that in a slanderous way. You do not know. Forgive yourself for not knowing and take the time to learn. We will be with you to remind you.
Me: True. There is no offense. There is only learning. There is only love.
A: Ivo has told you that those you take offense at are your teachers and you have paid lip service to this. Now jump in to the lesson feet first. LOL
Me: Got it! Thank you Adama, my man of love.
A: You are very welcome. Adieu.
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Me: LOL Adama, you're not getting off this lightly.
A: I'm here for you, as always.
Me: So, I put up the first video to this series and then you referred to the Course in Miracles (as channeled by Jesus) which I'm doing. Then I listened to lesson 46 today and Jesus' comment (through channeler Tina Spalding) talked about forgiveness and the first thing it said is that, “God does not forgive because God never condemns,” which I believe is what you were getting at.
Then Jesus said that we have to work on forgiving as a way of living, and he said that he forgives us for being overweight.. he loves us as we are. LOL I know a lot of people who worry about being less than because they're overweight. I got over that. I think it'd be healthier but in this world of hormone imbalanced people, who wouldn't be overweight? It's not our fault, I believe. This is part of the unhealthiness the Matrix likes to keep us in and overweight is just a sign.
A: Yes, earthlings are suffering and this goes back to my first point: when you forgive yourself for taking offense at others' behaviour, when you stop seeing their behaviour as offensive you'll have less reason to dislike living. Less reason to fear. And for those who are inclined, less reason to overeat or over imbibe to cope with your stress. Your stress is created by your thoughts, and your thoughts are largely of condemnation.
Many point fingers at others seeing them as the problem, where the finger should be pointed at the one doing the condemning and forgiveness taken immediately. Align with your soul, who sees through the eyes of love, not with the ego which sees through the eyes of separation, hate and fear.
Me: So in the case of someone who, say, has come to my apartment and not that I even have any, taken my jewellery. What do you do then? Do I condemn? Can I set a boundary?
A: In that case you would restrict that person's access to your apartment. You would have to forgive them their act and perhaps speak to them about retrieving the jewellery. Boundaries would be necessary but no rancour held.
But in the cases where no physical manifestation was required in order to complete the lesson, where nothing was stolen, hurt, raped, injured, taken in any way, then this is much simpler to practice. Those who accost you for your views, those who seek to argue with you, simply forgive yourself for not being able to love them as they are, because this is your shortsightedness. This is what you've learned, so now unlearn it.
Me: I get that. In theory, yes, but the next time I forget and get pissed off at someone....
A: Then you need to remember and work on forgiving yourself for forgetting and then for continuing to behave in the old unloving ways that are so painful to you and so many others upon our planet.
Many of you are seeking to live in ways of higher vibration and to love all as they are regardless of what they have said to you, and on a planet of such imbalance as your outer earth, forgiveness is necessary.
You learned as a child that others commit transgressions against you. You've seen on TV that certain behaviours merit punishment, that others should be judged as insufficient because of who they are and what they do, when in fact to allow oneself to be loving towards all despite what they do is the key to freedom. It truly is. You hold no malice or fear within your being towards others who are unaware of the love that surrounds them and who behave in less than loving ways. They're in pain. And when you condemn them, you are in pain.
So forgive yourself for not being as loving as would be optimal for your own happiness – because your focus on externals for your own happiness is seeing it the wrong way. When you allow others to affect your happiness then you balance on a scary precipice indeed! Your day is fine until Joe does something at the office that you find offensive, and then your day is ruined. When you don't take offense, your day is still fine and life goes well.
In your case, you started to ask the right questions in order to advance to this. You asked, “This is what I'm doing and it's still painful. Isn't there a better way? What can I do differently?” And there is. This is the better way. To love all including yourself, and refuse to see all around you as transgressions of your boundaries. See all around you in a way that is intended to allow you to learn to love, to heal yourself so that you too, can become completely loving towards others.
Me: I see that. That makes it so clear.
A: Yes, you need to set boundaries when physical transgressions are made, however when you live your life from a loving, forgiving stance, you don't attract those who transgress against you – you attract people of like mind as you have learned the lesson all the offenders were sent to teach you – stop condemning and learn to love all as they are.
Me: I see that.
A: When you defend yourself from the transgressor, you put up resistance. The energy stops with you because your seeing it as offensive slows down its frequency. It was being released and on its way to becoming part of the ethers when you caught it by slowing its frequency down. You trapped it within your light body because you charged this energy with a low frequency. Now it's yours to deal with. Rather than free flowing around the universe, it's now stuck in your light body and your problem to transmute and release it. This is alchemy and you're all alchemists.
When you see all as love, despite what you've been taught, the energy continues to flow around you. It's as if you're playing baseball and the ball comes to you. Do you catch the ball and throw it back or do you let it fly past you?
Me: I don't think you'd win the game doing that, LOL.
A: And this is how you've been taught. To win the game. Winning this game of love is different – your life becomes a lot easier when you let things flow through you rather than catching the energy and making blocks for yourself. And like I said, these blocks are made by your resisting them with fear-based responses.
When you say, “Oh! Hold on there!” you're catching the energy. You're holding onto the energy. You engage in alchemy all the time without realizing it.
Me: Yes, we do.
A: So, when you understand that all is one and all is love, you need to develop a different perspective on day to day transactions. Seeing everything as love is definitely a lot easier than seeing everything as fear.
Me: True.
A: You've all been taught to see through fear. Now change that. Make life easier for yourself. You asked the questions the other day. You've got them written on one of your sticky notes.
Me: Yes, I'm a sticky note fanatic.
A: The question says that you're sick of having negative interactions with others – you deal with the public who malign you, try to argue with you, bait you, try to manipulate you, and now you're tired of it. When you see all through loving eyes, none of this will bother you. When you see yourselves all as One who are helping each other on the road to wholeness, yes, like the “Holy” one you call God, it is actually Wholly with a W that you mean. Nonetheless, you're all taking the road back to wholeness and every one is helping the other. It might not appear to be that but it is. Your interpretation of what's happening prevents you from seeing the purpose behind all actions.
The key to this is understanding that it's your reaction that keeps the ball moving. When you throw the ball back to the pitcher in your baseball game, you're keeping the ball moving. Your lack of a negative reaction will release the doer to find another subject. You can be aware; you don't have to be oblivious. Just be loving, and if not, then forgiving of yourself for not being loving.
Me: Thank you Adama
A: I'm always here to be of assistance to you. You're all on an important journey of the self. Adieu.