PART IV
SEX AFTER 60
SEXUAL PROBLEM IN AGEING PEOPLE
Every living being has to age sooner or later. One can defy age for some time, but the ageing process never stops, which brings about certain changes in human body; here, sexually, it lowers the testosterone/hormone level in the human body.
Loss of desire and the inability to perform sexually really hurts a person mentally and morally. They may find several excuses to avoid having sex with their partners. Men may even withdraw themselves from social gatherings in order to hide their sexual shortcomings. There is nothing to get disheartened about, therapists can find cure and eventually the person may be able to have sex regularly.
Ageing, in terms of years or deeds, is ageing. It is only a matter of time before the ageing process will catch up with the person. A man who may have kept himself free of diseases and lived a healthy live, may not age as much as another man, younger to him, who may have indulged in easy and unhealthy lifestyle.
As we age, our body gets weaker and weakened immunity becomes the cause of our ageing process. For sixty and above years we indulge in so many unhealthy activities, anger, stress, elated heartbeats, poor lifestyle, illnesses and diseases, anxiety and self-abuse. Most of us are unable to compensate these on slaughters to our body with meaningful compensation or antidote which may stop the ageing process. Ageing process therefore, in living beings becomes inevitable.
As we age, most of us can feel the weakening of our sex drive. This may not be only due to our failing physical conditions, but it could as well be due to the social and family problems accumulated in years, troubling the mind. Whatever it may be, it is time one rejuvenates oneself in order to lead almost a normal sex life till ripe old age.
Yes this is possible, definitely possible, provided the person has the will to reverse his ageing process. He may need to put in time, money, and effort in order to regain this quality in him.
Unfortunately, in most cases people above 60 find themselves with ailments, minor or major. Only those who led a healthy lifestyle may be blessed with a body and mind which could respond to age reversing process. Anyone can take advantage of the following guidelines which is common to old as well as young people, men or women:
Sleep well for at least 7-9 hours, every 24 hours.
Eat moderately on demand. Vegetarian diet with combination of cereals, pulses, legumes are equally healthy and cholesterol free.
Eat many times a day, but in small quantity.
Exercise for at least 30 to 45 minutes each day.
Cut down or avoid smoking, alcohol, rich food and unhealthy and junk foods and drinks.
Drink plenty of water to remain hydrated.
Take multivitamin supplements with zinc, selenium and other minerals. Avoid stress and anger.
Unfortunately, all these mean nothing to most people. People are used to sedentary habits and would always like to indulge in the game of glamour and excitement in life. Most people feel, adhering to do’s and don’ts makes life very boring and non-exiting. To the contrary, in the end, those who followed a regimen, and kept up with a healthy lifestyle, are able to enjoy life to the fullest even after 60s.
The following are the ways people above 60 may find helpful in recovering from a low sex drive, low libido, and sexual dysfunction:
For people with depression; psychotherapy with antidepressant may help improve their sexual condition.
If tests show low hormone level, hormone replacement therapy may help improve the condition.
Diabetics have low energy level, with medication and a healthy diet, this condition may improve, and the person may lead almost a normal sexual life.
Arthritics may take medication, which will prevent joint swellings and pain. This will ease their pain, allowing them an undisturbed sex.
Viagra are for those who are mentally exited but physically unable. This is a proven medicine and with the doctor’s advice one can take it as regularly as prescribed. However, it is not meant for women.
Another similar pill is called Cialis, unlike Viagra, battery life in human body is charged for 36 hours. Anytime during these 36 hours a man can maintain erection.
For women, estrogens pill helps get back her libido. Sometimes, testosterone level needs attention too.
Sometimes it is best to talk to your GP or a sex specialist, who may find the underlying cause of your problem and prescribe medications which may not be harsh but effective.
Just because you do not want to talk to anyone or your doctor about your sexual problem, does not mean you can pop down pills prescribed for another person or a friend of yours. The conditions may be different and remember the proverb, “One man’s medicine is another man’s poison”
It is very important for men over 60; clearly specify the kind of illnesses the person is suffering from as well as the medication he may be taking. Most medication for sexual illnesses may not be compatible with the prescription drugs the person is already having for other illnesses; in other words, it may turn out to be injurious.
With the advancement of science, men over 60 may have a normal or near normal sexual life, only if his approach and treatment are correct and systematic. Drugs and surgery are two ways things could be set right permanently.
Women above 60 can benefit from hormone replacement therapy as well as psychotherapy. Fortunately, for women, mostly the problems are superficial and mental. Year after of year of bringing up children, routine lifestyle, quarrel with her partner on different issues with depression, emotion and the onset of menopause makes women feel unwanted and unappreciated after years of contribution to her home and family.
Older women will do best to consult a psychologist, in serious cases, and try finding a solution to her otherwise healthy heart and physiological system.