eyes and how they speak alone the
ultimate truth, and can never lie even if
you try.
Try this game yourself:
- Sit down with a friend of yours face
to face.
- Keep a pen and a paper.
- Let him choose 10 different topics
to talk about each for a minute or
two; telling the truth sometimes and
lying other times randomly while
looking directly in your eyes.
- In your paper check true or false for
each topic as you think they could
be.
- After you're through review your
speculations with your friend. If you were focusing enough you will
find that almost all of your speculations were right.
that while he was speaking to you, his
eyes were independently talking telling
only the truth.
So your friend had experienced two
different states:
1-In case of truth: the eyes were on
the same track with the speech and
consequently completely stable and comfortable, looking directly at you
openly.
2-In case of lies: the eyes were
absolutely troubled during the
false speech, like a very honest
person who hates to lie or even to
watch someone lying, once a lie
has been told they start to blink, to
flick and roam around
uncomfortably as they want to get
caught! And then you know that
the words you’re hearing are false.
But be careful, lying is not the only
explanation for eye disturbance, it could indicate many other things like:
shyness, low self esteem, fear or even
an eye disease!
So what exactly is the movement that
indicates lying?
When a direct question is being
asked, the eyes perform an instant
movement immediately after hearing
the question; there are five main
cases:
1- Eyes upEyes uprightright towards the sky:
mostly indicates bore or lack of
patience. 2-Eyes straight downEyes straight down towards the
ground: mostly indicates shyness
or modesty, and can also indicate
hiding the truth.
3- Eyes up rightEyes up right: usually indicates
Eyes up right
lying because in that moment they
are seeking the right lobe of the
brain which is responsible for
creativity and imagination, which
means that the speaker is trying to
fabricate an answer.
4-Eyes up leftEyes up left: usually indicates an
honest answer because the speaker
is seeking the left brain lobe which is responsible for logic and
memory, which means that they are
trying to remember something or
find the real answer to your
question.
5- Troubled left and rightTroubled left and right movement:
usually indicates embarrassment,
the speaker feels trapped and wants
to find a way out, maybe they don’t
know the answer or they know it but
don’t want to tell.
When you communicate with a new
person eye contact during the conversation is very important; they
state honesty as well as confidence, but
on top of which they posses an
overwhelming power over people and
even animals!
Eye contact is the most powerful part of
the body language - which consists 55%
of the communication process with any
body like we said before - just try to get
a waiters attention without making eye
contact and you'll see how strong the
impact of not making eye contact can
be. Even in the children's world; the
ultimate rule when disciplining children
is to get close to them and maintain eye
contact, or else they will walk all over
you!
The only critical point here is how long
should you keep the contact?
Research proved that communicating
people usually share looks for 30 to 60%
of their whole communication period;
less than that indicates lack of interest,
and more than that indicates a personal interest in the person himself not the
subject of the conversation. This
interest can be either peaceful or
hostile. So you should be careful not to
stare in a first meeting with anybody,
until of course you want to express
personal interest!
Generally staring is offensive and
invasive for people's FC, you don't want
to give the idea that you are challenging
or harassing! First Impressions – How to win them all !ChapterVIII
