First Impressions: How to win Them All by Asmaa Kadry - HTML preview

Rule number 3:
Respect territories!

Another component of body language is

 

territories; where to stand or sit exactly?

 

How far is too far and how close is too

 

close?

 

Just like almost all animals people too

 

have territories; about four territories vary in their distance according to

 

whom you're around.

 

T1 T2

 

T3

 

T4

 

T1: the intimate territoryterritory –––– is the

 

nearest one, it's between 15 and 46 cm

 

far from you. Only your major trusties are allowed

 

into this territory; your spouse, your

 

children, parents or best friends.

 

T2: the personal territory –––– this one

 

runs between 46 and 122 cm, within

 

this one you can allow the rest of your

 

friends or family, your colleagues at

 

school or work, etc. T3: the social territory: this is between

 

122 and 300 cm, this is suitable for

 

strangers you meet in parties, neighbors

 

or new colleagues.

TTTT4: the public territory: 4: the public territory: ---- more than 3 meters as the least
distance that allows you to
feel comfortable in public
speaking; as in
conferences, seminars or
any other speech.

Now, when you meet someone for the

 

first time you're still a "stranger" to

 

them but still you need to grab their attention; therefore you must be aware

 

of two important things:

 

Firstofall:Keepyourdistance…

 

- Your distance as a stranger should not

 

be closer than 122 cm from your

 

speaker and should not exceed 3 meters

 

away; if you get nearer you're entering

 

their personal territory causing

 

immediate negative physical

 

interference results in an immediate

 

discomfort.

 

And if you stand any farther you'll be

 

entering their public territory and starts losing their attention completely not to

 

mention that they will start wondering

 

why are you keeping that distance:

 

((DoIhaveabadbreath?DoIlooksick
or something?! Is there a B.O and they
thinksit'scomingfromme??!))

 

You don't want to cause this kind of

 

confusion because you will take away all

 

the comfort and ease and of course take

 

along your chances of a good first

 

impression.

 

Secondofall:Don'ttouchplease:

 

Any physical contact with a new person

 

is actually a physical interference not to

 

mention that it involves entering this

 

person's intimate territory which is not

 

allowed for strangers; so a friendly tap

 

on the arm could leave a negative

 

impression destroys any hope for

 

further communication with that person!

 

So the rule is as simple as this:

 

“Keep yourself within youreep yourself within your speaker's

 

social territory, and avoid any

 

unnecessary physical contact””””.... First Impressions – How to win them all !ChapterIX