interference is always a bad thing,
something people try so carefully to avoid
but still get inescapable share of it.
Fortunately that’s not true!
Interference could be positive or negative
of various extents according to the sort of
people and the kind of relationship.
Sometimes it is crucial, even asked for, sometimes it’s essential for psychological
and physical well being and stability or
even for existence.
Generally interference can be categorized
into:
I. Positive interference.
II. Negative interference.
And each of these are subcategorized into
three types:
three types:
Vocal interference.
Vocal interference.
Physical interference. Physical interference. Interference by actions
same preferences (like in case of best
friends), or when the interference happens
to be to one’s favor, that makes the
interference positive.
Advice, medical procedures, surgery or
even teaching and tutoring, and any other
kind of intruding scenario are all kinds of
interference that we can never shut off or try to live without.
vocally, i.e, through speech.
Picture this:
- It's almost your midterm and you're
not paying much attention to your
studies because you’re so busy
practicing your hobby, so your
mother starts to ask you about school
and encourage you to spend more
time with your books and leave your
hobby to the vacation. It still is interference, but if she didn't
interfere you could be failing your exams,
so it's actually a blessing that she did!
Or this::::
- One day you seem to be so sad at
work, your colleagues notice that
your fiancé who's working in the
same department is not so well too,
so they start talking to her about you
and how disturbed you look today like
there isn’t enough air in the room or
something, they tell her how eager
and scared you were when you
proposed to her, and how happy and relieved you’ve become once she said
yes, and they just kept going on and
on until you suddenly found her
standing in front of your desk smiling
and willing to make up.
Was that interfering? Sure it was, but it
came to your favor therefore it is a positive interference.
sort of physical contact.
- Hugging your child, kissing your
sister or tapping on a friend's
shoulder and every other act of love
between intimately related people are
all examples for positive physical
interference.
- To be examined by a doctor or treated by a dentist is another form of positive interference (many people will disagree now!) but it is still an act of care done for our own good. After all we did ask for it!
contact, but it happens when the actions of
someone interferes with your freedom.
- Jack was a bachelor for quite a long
time, he used to cook and house keep
for himself, but he wasn't so good at
it, he had this annoying habit of
losing important things because he
never puts anything in its place. This
year he’s got married to Sally and
ever since nothing is lost again! She has a great sense of tidiness; a
place for every thing that never
changes. Sally has imposed her style
upon Jack’s life, he doesn't lose his
keychain or flash memory any more
for instance.. He doesn’t need to start
cooking after an exhausting day at
work or eat just anything. These
habits have changed for good. This is
in fact interference by action but it's a
positive one, and Jack is so
appreciative.
- Billy is a young poet but he's never
published any thing until he met Tulip the writer. She edited his book
and gave it a publishing opportunity.
This is another form of positive interference by action.
interference that results in damage, unease
or inconvenience, whether it’s physical,
materialistic or intangible.
And just as well as the positive
interference, the negative is also
categorized into the same three
subdivisions:
subdivisions:
Negative vocal interference.
Negative vocal interference.
Negative physical interference. Negative physical interference. Negative interference by action.
personal question or making an
embarrassing comment like:
- Are you pregnant or something?
Because you look so fat!
- Congratulations for the new job! How
much do you make now?
- Why are you dressed like this? Would
you actually leave home in your
pajamas?!
or any other kind of stupid awkward comment that result in embarrassment and unease.
It can even get more violent like yelling, insulting or calling names.pushing, pinching, manhandling, harassing
and raping are considered negative
physical interference.
But it doesn't have to be this aggressive;
sometimes just touching, shaking hands or
even standing too close can make a
negative effect when it comes from a total stranger.
- You're downtown in a very hot day
desperately looking for a parking
spot for your car. You would love to
just leave it in the middle of the
street and go to do whatever you
need to do, the stream gets
unbelievably strangled and when you
finally pass by the point that caused
all that you discover that someone
did actually park their car in the
middle of the street causing all that
trouble! This is too bad!
--- Adam is a work addict, he used to
spend all weekends even holydays at
work and be happy about it until he
got married. Suddenly he can’t work
holidays because there are always
stuff to be done, errands to be run,
family quality time to be spent. Of
course he needs that but he still feels
obliged to do so because not doing it
will certainly diminish his family’s
freedom.
--- Mr. Crane likes to read his paper in
the morning and put it on his disk so
he can find it and refer to it again in the afternoon. But since his daughter
Anna moved in back with him after
she was divorced, he can't find his
paper in the afternoon because Anna
likes to read it after lunch!
Anna didn’t mean any harm, she’s
just trying to read the paper, it’s
completely innocent and rightful act
but it still interfered with her father’s
freedom.
--- Susie shares a dorm room with her
colleague Tina, Susie likes to keep
the AC higher than 25 even at
summer, or else she stars getting uncomfortable, while Tina gets
terribly hot during summer days (can
you blame her?) and adjusts the AC
thermostat to 19 to get her comfort
which makes Susie so mad and tense.
This is two ways interference! I really
don’t know how to fix this situation,
do you?!
- Mr. Lang likes to stay up really late at
night and wakes up by 10 or 11 in
the morning, he just feels more
productive and creative at night when
every body is sleeping, while his
partner Mr. Smith wants to see every body at work by 9 am or he gets
really cranky. I don't see them
working together for long!
Also steeling, stalking, monitoring,
unauthorized photographing or even
watching TV while others trying to nap are
all negative interference by action, I can just
go on and on, there are millions of examples
happening to us every day forcing us to
change our plans or compromise our
desires, and choose who to give away our
freedom for and still be happy about it,
while trying to keep a certain area of our FC
clean. You can control who, how and to what
extent, but you can never forbid this
interference at all if it was somehow
benign and could be bared, unless you
spend your whole life absolutely alone on a
deserted island!
But at least you’d rather not experience
this interference with total strangers,
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