What you have learned so far is that instead of 'fight or flight', face worry. When you practice facing worry continuously, you desensitize yourself from worry. You can start facing worry by being on a worry fast for one hour in a day as explained in the previous chapter. Gradually increase your worry fast to twice a day for an hour each.
Remember you are on a war against worry. Every hour is a battle. Win every battle and you win the war. Proceed to be on a worry fast for one-and-ahalf hours twice a day every day. Gradually continue to increase the time limit. Increase it from one to two… to three… to four… until you are firmly convinced that whatever may be the incident, you will not be worried. Until you can confidently face worry. Until you can be worriless the whole day. Until you are completely desensitized from worry.
To be desensitized from anything, you need to carry out that activity several times, not just once. To site the same example again, the soles of your feet or the palms of your hands are desensitized. Once upon a time, they were very sensitive. But through repeated use on the floor, over stones, on rocks – they have become very strong. This is the same principle you need to apply against worry. Then facing worry becomes a game.
Desensitize your way to selfconfidenceThe easiest way to self-confidence is by desensitizing yourself against whatever you are not confident about. If you are not a confident public speaker, find all the opportunities you can to speak on stage. The more you speak, the more you are desensitized from stage fear and the more your confidence improves. Train yourself to accept challenges. If you are not confident about meeting people, then challenge your fear and go and talk to someone who is unknown. The key is to do this every day. Initially, the mind will find this uncomfortable. But that is the whole point. Challenging yourself and desensitizing yourself from what you are not confident about will magnify your confidence by leaps and bounds.