Love is never found outside of yourself. The love, or lack of it, you
experience from others is always a reflection and meter of the amount of
love you have within yourself. You can only ever have what you are. If you
have love within, love shows up in al of your experiences. This also
greatly increases the likelihood of attracting a loving partner to your life.
If you love ‘you’, other people will too.
If you want more love in your life, then look for ways to love ‘yourself’
more. When you are full of self-‐love and self-‐value you become very
attractive to other people. People tend to do more loving things for you;
your internal love impacts on them in that way.
Real love is all about removing resistance to energy flow.
True love happens when we are living in a ful state of detached
allowance (unhindered energy movement). When we let all experiences
and energy move in and through our lives without restriction, we are
being loving to ourselves. This is true love.
The real meaning and understanding of love is all about energy flow; your
level of self-‐love is determined by how much you let go of whatever you
are holding onto.
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The less resistance you have, the more love you experience.
When you let go of what makes you feel uncomfortable or fear you love
yourself in that moment. This includes letting go of emotions, people,
momentary dependence, objects and jobs — anything at al you have an
attachment to. If it restricts or hinders your natural flow you are not being
loving to yourself.
If you restrict your divine self from unfolding in the way God intended
you are doing a great disservice to your life.
You are not valuing who you are — a sacred soul doing a sacred job.
Whenever you do this you burden or make harder some level of your
unfoldment.
If you are not doing your best to be in alignment to, and al ow, energetic
flow you are not doing your best to love yourself.
If this is the case, the question that needs answering here is: Why not?
Why don’t you feel worthy of love?
What is it that is stopping you from ful al owance and detachment?
Why do you choose to not be committed to having a loving and happy
life? Know that any restriction to your internal energy flow is an unloving
thing to do.
Is it because you do not feel worthy or you think you’re undeserving of
success?
If you do not feel you are worthy or deserving it is because you believe in
something from your past that is non-‐truthful and appearing as real in
your life, and you are taking it on as a Truth?
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Do you do this because to let go of something unloving would mean you
have to let go of something you hold as true and safe in your life? A lot of
what we base our lives on is non-‐truth and is therefore unloving. So, to let
go of these things makes us feel very uneasy and often scares us. The
irony here is what makes us feel uncomfortable is often what can be an
effective catalyst to creating self-‐love.
Past non-‐truthful perception of experiences prevents us from generating
self-‐love.
Your fears and perceptions of your value are often the result of past
emotional conditioning. Way back when you were younger, you most
likely had an experience that you perceived as validating you not being as
valuable or as important as other people. Ever since then, because of the
emotional imprint you created at the time, you are now continually
attracting to you experiences to validate what you vibrate within (lack of
value and importance).
It may have been as simple as an experience of your mum wanting to go
shopping and being in a hurry. Let’s say you are six years old and you
want to go shopping with her, but because your mum is running late to go
somewhere else later she tells you that you cannot come. She does this to
save time, not because she doesn’t love you. But as a six year old you
perceive that as “I am not good enough to go,” or “Mummy does not love
me anymore.” As a result, you believe something about the experience
that isn’t true. Of course, your mum loves you; she is just in a hurry.
From this moment on, because of the non-‐truthful belief you now have
about yourself, you keep attracting experiences to re-‐affirm you are not
good enough. This takes you further and further away from love and
value.
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As a result, you start repressing and restricting energy movement and
flow even more, in the hope you wil not have more experiences to shine
a light on your perceived lack of value. You do not want to ever see again
the flaws you ‘see’ in who and what you are. This just makes you feel less
loved and valuable.
As a result of this, you start living a life full of non-‐truthful self-‐beliefs, so
you continue to avoid at al costs your emotional issues. In a sense, you
are creating burden and hardship because you continue to believe a value
judgment you made way back then.
Many people continual y use past experiences to validate why they feel
bad, cannot succeed or are unhappy. In fact they wil continual y be given
new external experiences to support they are not good enough. Past
conditioned emotional cruxes are an easy way to validate ‘poor me’.
At some stage, however, we al need to take a stand and choose to not
burden ourselves; to make a stand and be brave enough to let go of our
entire negative past experiences and conditioning that are negatively
impacting on us right now.
This means no holding onto emotional issues, feelings of lack, worry,
stress, judgment of self and others, anger, being critical of people and
situations, no blaming or complaining and so on.
Until we learn to ful y express how and what we feel we wil never be free
from burden and emptiness. Happiness wil only be a dream. Love cannot
exist in a person that restricts internal energetic movement.
True love is all about energy flow — where there is flow there is love.
Truth is that when you are repressing or restricting flow in any way you
are not loving yourself.
What most people perceive love to be, it actually is not.
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Many people think they are in love, or being loving. But what most have
and create is what I call conditional love, which is not love at al . This
conditional love that we al create is based on our insecurities and fears,
which are non-‐truth. Love can never have a foundation of non-‐truth.
True love does not have conditions.
I have thought about love a lot over the years and have come to the
conclusion that until we can function in a continual state of detached
allowance, we as humans wil not be able to experience love in its purest
form.
Our past conditioning and the non-‐truthful perceptions that we al hold
about who and what we are prevent us from having a direct experience of
true love.
Until we ascend out of our fear-‐based reality and conditioning we wil
only experience the man-‐made version of love. Until we stop looking for
love externally, we will not be able to experience the truth of love. Until
we can al ow the unconditional love emanating from our hearts to rise to
the surface to dispel our non-‐truthful beliefs and perceptions, and then
detach from their burden, we wil not be able to truly experience what
love is.
True unconditional love can only be experienced in others as a reflection
of directly experiencing our true innate nature. It has to come from
within and then, and only then, can we grasp its real beauty.
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Key Practice
What are some of the ways I can develop more true love?
Some of this development can occur by understanding more of what love
is, valuing your place in the big scheme of things and knowing you are an
integral part of the whole.
It is being kind, supportive and loving towards yourself in every moment.
This also means not creating non-‐truthful negative energies.
Don’t hold onto emotions and issues. Always ful y communicate what you
think and feel, regardless of what people might say or think.
Communication creates energy movement, which is a loving thing to do.
Learn to take time out for you. Do something for yourself, not for others.
Value your time, especial y your ‘Quiet Me Time’.
Do your best to emulate what you see as loving and positive within
others.
Always be sincere and never consciously create in a negative way.
Never do anything with expectancy. Expectancy is always restrictive and
unloving.
The more love you have within, the less fear exists.
In each moment be what you actually are — a beautiful piece of God,
enriching all life through experience.
Never involve yourself in negative gossip or spread malicious things,
thoughts and judgments.
Always remember where your point of creation (attention) is — is it
truthful, supportive and loving or are you being un-‐loving?
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You are never alone in life and creation; you are always a part of a greater
whole. Al the support you ever need to be more loving to others and
yourself exists right in your heart — right now.
I have a saying that I love: “Everything we seek as humans dwells within
our hearts. The Heart is the abode of True Unconditional Love – GO
THERE…”
Always remember, God loves and honours you in every moment.
If you want to experience more love in your life, be more loving to others
— what you put out you get back (Law of Cause and Effect).
Don’t support others in non-‐truthful creation. In other words, if someone
is complaining about other people don’t get involved. Whenever you
recognise non-‐truth do your best to align and give energy to the truth
presenting within it.
Practice technique for connecting to a deeper level of love
I have a wonderful meditation practice I channelled from spirit that I
would like to share with you. It can have quite a profound impact if done
with the right motivation and intention.
Set a pure intent to directly connect to the heart and love of
God within your heart space. This intent needs to be sincere
and heartfelt. You need to have a great desire to be at one
with God’s heart and love.
Once this intent is set, bring your consciousness and focus into
the central energy channel (sometimes cal ed Sushumna ),
which is in the space between the two energy vortexes of the
heart chakra (that emanate out from both the front and back
of the heart chakra, like two funnels). There is a space
between the two, within the heart chakra, that appears like
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emptiness. You wil have to move your focus back and forth in
this space until you feel this energy gap. Once you find it, you
should notice a radiant light or a deep sense of stil ness, or
even a feeling of nothingness, come over you. Once you find it,
relax and just ‘be’ in this space without any effort. Just be
open and one with your desire to connect with God’s love and
heart. Al ow yourself to just ‘be’ within your heart space and
intention.
Sit for as long as you like…
There are many ways to support the love within you. The best thing is to
always look for the truth in all experiences. Be vigilant in re-‐aligning to
truth when you find yourself in non-‐truth.
Remember, truth feels uplifting as opposed to non-‐truth, which feels
heavy, negative and burdening. Quietly observe your emotional state to
gauge which energy you are creating, and always do your best to create
from love/Truth.
Don’t judge yourself in any way if you perceive you have done wrong.
Remember, your life is always unfolding in the perfect way and time in
accordance to Divine Plan. Judgment is the energy of non-‐truth and is
burdening.
Have acceptance for what people do in their lives, don’t restrict or control
— allow all experience. Remember, they are merely gathering experience,
just like you; no judgement is necessary.
Do your best always to create energy movement through the expression
of thoughts and feelings — in a loving way. Love and value your
divineness; contrary to what you may perceive about yourself, you are a
very special soul doing very special things.
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You are, and have always been, a divine fragment of God, and you should
always see yourself as the most wonderful, whole beautiful soul that you
are.
It’s all up to you … Be the love of who you are and bring benefit to al Life.
Right now you have this opportunity — embrace it.
I recommend you grab yourself a copy of my book, The Power of the
Heart. It contains great techniques to help you to be more loving to
yourself. Here are the links:
Digital download:
http://www.trevorgollagher.com/component/dms/view_category/1-‐e-‐
books.html
Paperback version:
http://www.trevorgollagher.com/webstore.html?page=shop.product_det
ails&flypage=flypage.tpl&product_id=19&category_id=6
E-‐book reader formats:
http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/trevorgollagher
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Key Eleven – Choices
The beautiful thing about being human is we each have the ability to
make choices. In any moment of life you can decide to make change and
bring new experiences. Your ability to choose wil never be taken from
you as long as you have a functioning brain. It does not matter where you
find yourself in life; if you do not like what you are experiencing, choose
to do something different.
This may come in the form of a shift in how you think and feel, or may be
a decision to move house, change jobs, leave your partner, dress
differently or change friends — anything at all. Every time you make a
choice to do something different you instigate internal energy movement,
which is a good thing to do.
The worst thing you can do in regards to choices and decision-‐making is
not making one. When you sit on the fence struggling over which way to
choose, you stagnate energy flow. This wil always bring burden and most
often wil make it harder to make the decision you are struggling with.
The longer you leave a decision the harder it gets.
A good thing to keep in mind about decisions is this: If you do not like the
outcome of your choice or decision it is easily fixed — make another one.
When we pul apart human life and real y look at the simplicity within
how it al works, we see that in any given moment we are actual y
presented with only two choices. That’s it. That’s how hard and
complicated your life real y is — two choices presenting in any given
moment.
“What are these two choices?” I hear you asking
1. Choose to perceive negatively (non-‐truth) and burden my life, or
2. Choose to perceive positively (Truth) and bring ease and joy to my life.
This is the choice that is presented to you in every given moment.
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Which decision you make in choosing either one way or the other will
shape and colour your life today, next week, next month and so on.
If you are continually experiencing hardship in your day-‐to-‐day life you
are choosing to create from non-‐truth that is resonating somewhere
within. You are allowing your non-‐truthful imprinting to dictate your
decision-‐making processes. This is the only way you can have negativity.
So, what happens when I choose to negatively react?
My mind perceives the experience as an attack (as negative). As a result, I
create an internal reactive energy that is experienced as a feeling in my
body. I have al owed the external experience to validate a non-‐truthful,
non-