4. Inhale deeply and slowly through your nose and then exhale slowly through your mouth. With your eyes still rolled up, begin to focus on your breathing.
5. Continue to take deep breaths in and out for up to a minute (or more if needed) until you notice your body becoming very relaxed and settled.
(Breathing in this way, with your eyes rolled up, will quickly put you into the
"alpha state" of consciousness - a state that is ideal for creative visualization.) 6. Next, think of a time/incident from your past where you were extremely happy. It could be a time when your peers praised you, when you received an award of some sort, or even a time when you fell in love. Next, relive this memory as vividly as you can, using all your senses. Try to get in touch with that feeling again. Hear what you heard. See what you saw. FEEL what you felt.
Remember the voices that were around you and what they were saying. Recall anything else that your senses were taking in - the smell, touch, etc. Make your vision as clear, vivid, crisp as possible. (If you're not able to do it very clearly at first, it's all right. Each time you relive that memory it will become easier, and clearer and more alive.)
NOTE: It is extremely important that you DO NOT pull out a memory that will trigger a negative emotion. If you can't think of a happy memory, you may want to skip this step. Although I strongly recommend that you try really hard to find a happy memory to recall. Here's why...
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The point of Step 6 is to get your mind and your body into a 'happy' state.
Because, once you're in a truly happy place in your mind, we are going to "link"
your visualization to that emotion. This will energize your visualization beyond belief and cause it to manifest more powerfully and quickly. The more strongly you can relive your past happy memory, the more energized your vision will become.
7. Once you're in touch with that happy experience from the past and are able to strongly feel joy and happiness, now is the time to start creating the vision of what you want to happen in the future. Something you would like to have, do, or be in the future.
This is where most people lose it because they have not been taught how to visualize correctly. Please pay attention to the following...
When you're visualizing your future, you have to see it as being real "right now"
- in the "present," as if you already have it right now. Imagine that your vision is real and that it has already happened. See yourself enjoying whatever it is that you want created.
The next important aspect of visualization that most people do incorrectly is...they don't put themselves "in the picture." Instead, they see themselves doing/enjoying the vision as if they're watching a movie of themselves. This is not the best way to visualize. Instead of watching a 'movie' of yourself enjoying what you want, put yourself in the picture. You're not an outsider or an observer anymore. Instead, you're experiencing the vision with your whole body and your senses.
For example, if you want a new car, don't visualize a movie of yourself in the new car. Instead, put yourself "inside" the car so that you can see the steering wheel in front of you and feel the seat on your back. Be in the picture! Breathe in the "new car smell." Feel the grip of the steering wheel in your hands.
If it's a new house that you want, imagine that you're inside that new house right now. See yourself lying in the new bed of your new house instead of where you're laying right now. Really get in touch with the feeling and imagine what it would be like to actually have it "right now." Be in the moment. Live it right now, as if it has already happened.
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If it's money that you want, imagine piles and piles of currency all over the bed, all over your body, maybe even falling to the ground from the edges of the bed.
Imagine the weight of the money on top of your body. Remember to get all of your senses involved. Imagine yourself touching the money with your hands and feeling how it feels against your fingers. Smell what that newly printed money smells like.
And, remember to feel really happy and grateful - just as you would feel if you really had this money in your hands right now.
That's the key to effective visualization. See it in the present, as if it has already happened. And be in the picture - involve all your senses as vividly as you can.
8. This next step may seem a little weird to some people, especially if they haven't studied success and mind power before. But, do it anyway since it is a very important step and should not be missed.
After you have enjoyed being in the vision that you want to create, open your eyes and say the following words...
"I now allow myself to have (fill in what you want here)! It is done! And so it is."
This may seem silly at first but is VERY important, because it allows you to
"release" your vision out to the universe to get created.
If you don't release your vision as outlined above, you'll be attached to it and that will interfere with the creative process. As you say those words, let go of all worry, fear, doubt, disbelief, and concern. Don't worry about when or how it will get created. Just trust in the creative force of the universe and release your vision to it. And then, go on about your daily activities and don't think about your vision much.
Be sure to end your visualization each time with this step.
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This step is similar to planting a seed in the ground and then walking away. If you keep digging up the seed to see if it germinated yet, you'll kill it. Which is why you have to release it and allow the soil to do its job.
If you continue to wonder or worry or doubt the visualization as you go about your day, you will send the wrong message to your subconscious mind...that you don't really believe that it is possible. This will negate the creative process, and you don't want that.
That's it!
Do your visualization as described in the above steps at least once a day. Twice would be ideal. First thing in the morning, as soon as you get up, and last thing at night right before you go to bed are the best times to do this since your mind is already in a very receptive state.
Doing it before you go to bed will ensure that your subconscious continues to work on it all throughout the night. If you wake up in the middle of the night, you can always try to get in touch with that same feeling again if you want. It's not necessary but it won't hurt.
One last thing...
The key to creative visualization is consistency. Do this process daily, if at all possible.
People often ask me how long they should continue to do this process. My answer? Until you get the result!
Some people get results in as little as a few weeks. For others, it takes longer.
The more consistent you are and the more emotionally charged you can make the visualization (with positive feelings,) the better it will work.
And, please, don't give up after a week or two, or even a month or two, ok? It only requires a few minutes of your time and the results can be life changing. So, do use this power that you have inside of you to change your life for the better.
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Very few people are happy with their lives, very few people have all the things that they'd like to have. And it's no coincidence that very few people use this power that they have at their disposal; fewer even know that it exists.
You have this creative power at your fingertips now. Take full advantage of it.
May all your great visions turn into your daily living, breathing reality!
Sincerely,
Bryan Kumar
Bryan is the author of several books. His latest, at this writing, is called:
“Money and Power an Interview with Allen Says”
It is an absolutely awesome interview with Allen Says, the man who created the Internet Warriors and has made millions from believing that he can.
Remember, earlier what I said about having your dream car?
You have the power. Visualize it, smell it, feel the upholstery, picture getting into it. See the admiration in the eyes of someone watching you park the car. Put the key in the lock. Imagine the color, and how you feel when you know it is yours.
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Chapter 15 Inspirational Quotes
"People are like stained-glass windows.
They sparkle and shine when the sun is out.
But, when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within."
Elizabeth Kübler-Ross
"I keep my ideals, because in spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart. "
Anne Frank
"There are two lasting bequests we can give our children: One is roots. The other is wings.
Hodding Carter, Jr."
"The important thing is not to stop questioning."
Albert Einstein
"Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference."
Author Unknown
“We do not stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing!”
Benjamin Franklin
“Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.”
Henry Ford
“Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell 'em, "Certainly I can!" and get busy and find out how to do it.”
Theodore Roosevelt
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”Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you too, can become great.”
Mark Twain
“If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten.”
Jim Rohn
“If you really want to do something, you'll find a way; if you don't, you'll find an excuse.”
Author Unknown
"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody." Bill Cosby
"The past does not equal the future." Anthony Robbins
"Be not afraid of greatness; some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them."
William Shakespeare
"Show me a person who has never made a mistake and I'll show you somebody who has never achieved much."
Joan Collins
"If you really want something, you can figure out how to make it happen."
Cher
"There is no sense in being pessimistic. It would not work anyway."
Anonymous
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There are no such things as limits to growth, because there are no limits on the human capacity for intelligence, imagination and wonder."
Ronald Reagan
"Let no one come to you without leaving better and happier."
Mother Teresa
"Examine what you believe to be impossible, then change your belief."
Dr. Wayne Dyer
"Sometimes when I get up in the morning, I feel very peculiar. I feel like I've just got to bite a cat! I feel like if I don't bite a cat before sundown, I'll go crazy! But then I just take a deep breath and forget about it. That's what is known as real maturity." Snoopy
You can use inspirational quotes and put them on your wall, bulletin board, or your refrigerator to keep your mind with positive thoughts.
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Chapter 16 How to Get What You Want
out of Life
This is simply a lot that I have gathered into this book and now you can see how it all can unfold for you.
HOW TO ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING YOU WANT IN LIFE
Take a look at yourself - inside and out. Where do you live, what job do you have, how do you relate to your friends and family? What interests do you pursue, what adventures do you have?
What do you truly want from life? Do you want wealth and success, happiness and peace of mind? Do you want a family and a yard, a yacht or a sports car?
Where are you going? Do you have a particular goal or are you just wandering through life?
You can accomplish anything you want in life - that's true. Once you have a particular goal, you can fulfill that desire by straightforward commitment and total conviction.
But what if you don't know what you want? Maybe your goals are small ones -
like losing some weight, or buying a new car. Maybe it is getting a promotion of finding a mate. Whether you want a bigger apartment or want to be a corporation president, any avenue of prosperity and achievement is open to you if it is truly what you want.
No goal is too small; no dream is too big. Even if you aren't clear on your desires, you can tap into your subconscious mind to get the answers and to find the paths to success.
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Can you change your life - do you want to? Can you picture yourself as your most perfect image of accomplishment? How does it feel? If you have the desire to attain goals, the commitment to follow through and the ability to creatively imagine yourself in the position you dream of, you are more than halfway there.
The most successful leaders and artists throughout history have followed specific paths and attained their hearts' desires. Keep an open mind and a hopeful outlook - then change your thinking. Put on the clothes of success. Act as though you already have accomplished your desires - then let the reality catch up.
WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Take a choice: money, health, physical energy, beauty, creativity, recognition, power, adventure, contentment, achievement, self-expression, authority, love, peace of mind, or enlightenment. Would you like any of these? If you are like most people today, you probably want ALL of these.
But if you search your true desires, you might find that there are a few things you want more than others, and, if you keep going in your search, you'll find one desire that has been with you your whole lifetime and is the one path you need to follow.
Although money is the obvious desire, it is usually not the final goal. Indeed, money can, and does buy happiness - up to a point. Once you have enough money to be financially secure or to purchase the material objects you want, the true desire might be something else.
Love is the goal of every person's heart. Whether it is love of a mate, or a family, or respect and recognition from peers and fellow workers, love is the ageless pursuit. The mystics say that love is the sole purpose of life- to give love and to find it.
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attained until they complete some creative tasks or achieve certain heights in business.
Many people seek the authority that comes with a good position in a job. Along with that can come recognition and fame. Although you may want the money that is associated with high management levels, many people simply seek that satisfaction of working from the inner circles.
The goal of every person regardless of background and material desires is health.
A sound body is the gift that will get you to the other goals. Even a new diet and exercise plan can give you more energy - the energy you'll need to accomplish success.
Adventure and travel is a driving force for many people. They may seek jobs that involve travel, or they may be looking forward to taking time off to visit the exotic ports and see the other side of the world. If you don't want a long journey, perhaps you'd just like a few weeks in a sunny resort or the luxury of a summer and winter vacation each year.
Then there is creativity and self-expression. What about the book you're going to write or the watercolor class you'd like to take? Creative expression is a wonderful inner release that boosts confidence and gives you something to accomplish. Finally, regardless of wealth and health, expression and love, everyone is looking for peace of mind. That's not to say emptiness of mind, but to be rid of petty worries and confusion, to be finished with fears and live in total awareness. It surely is the ultimate lifetime goal.
CATCH UP WITH YOURSELF
Now is the time to evaluate your life and your desires. Go ahead and test yourself - nobody's looking. Try to find out what your inner desires really are.
Once you know, you can formulate a plan of action, and then achieve your goals.
Right now, write down three things you want. Don't spend time thinking about them - just write them down. You may be surprised at what you want. Can you see any relation to the types of desires most sought for?
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What accomplishment are you most proud of? What makes you happy - happy enough to be content, to feel totally relaxed, and to slide back with a smile on your face?
Without dwelling on failures, mistakes, or past ill feelings, quickly list the important accomplishments or your life. Think about the places you went to, the relationships you encountered, and the education you received. Consider your job changes and positions, and the achievements related to work.
Put a star next to the most important accomplishments of your life. Is there any correlation with the list of the three things you want most?
MAKE PLANS
Before you go any further with your life, make a list for your future. Write it down - don't just think it. What would you like to accomplish in the next ten years? Would it be a new house, a high-paying position, a home in a new city, or a trip around the world?
Break your list down into those things you'd like to accomplish in the next five years. Then make one further division into the next six months. What can you do in the next few months to further you towards your long-term goals?
GOAL SHEET
My most important desires are:
In my lifetime, the most important things I've accomplished: If I looked back on my lifetime in 20 years, I'd like to have accomplished: Within 10 years, I'd like to achieve:
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Within 5 years, I'd like to achieve:
In the next six months to a year, these are the things I'm going to do to work towards by goals:
Regardless of your family commitments or your personal relationships and regardless of your business enterprises or any false sense of achievement, what do you really want?
Give yourself credit for past accomplishments, and give yourself credit for your future achievements. You can and will attain all your goals, both long-term and short-term if you approach them in a step-by-step fashion and if you believe that they are worthwhile for you.
YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE.
Although you can be considerate of your environment and all the people in it, first consider yourself. You must consider your well-being, your happiness, your success. Make a pact with yourself right now that you will achieve your goals, and make them realistic to reach. Then, one by one, make your ow