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Chapter 9:
Learn the Difference between Desire and Detachment

Synopsis

A lot of people, armed with the very best intentions and abilities, still fail to obtain what they wish simply because of their misconceptions about these two things: desire and detachment.

The very first thing you should know about the two is that they are not polar opposites of each other. However, they are intertwined with each other because they can either cause the Law of Attractions to work in your favor---or not.

Most people think of this as a state synonymous to wanting or needing something. However, where the Law of Attractions is concerned, desire is more than that. In fact, the best way to  appreciate how important desire is in a person’s life is to see it as the outcome of having personal preferences.

What is Desire?

Knowing what you do not prefer in your life can help you figure out what you do want in it. As such, knowing that you do not like sour- tasting food may eventually lead you to discovering that you like sweets or perhaps spicy food instead. These preferences can be seen as desires. In other words, you simply desire to eat spicy food rather than sour-tasting dishes.

Desire is also often mistakenly considered immoral. Some people see desires as “wrong” because it may lead to greed, selfishness, envy, and many other negative emotions. However, that is where they are wrong once more.

Consider the prior example. Is it sinful, immoral, or wrong if you desire spicy food over sour-tasting food?

Also, there are many desires that one would be hard pressed to describe as wrong or – worse – evil. Some people merely desire to be healthy. Others may desire to be in a position to help those in need.

Detachment

Desire can, however, backfire and become your downfall when it is accompanied with feelings of attachment…or detachment.

• Attachment – Your desire is exceptionally strong, to the point that you feel negative emotions because of it. You feel pressured about your ability to achieve your goal. You are worried and fearful of the consequences if you do not obtain what you desire.
• Detachment – Desire is the only thing you are concerned about. You do not feel anything else. You are unable to empathize or sympathize over other people’s feelings because everything in you is completely focused in obtaining what you desire.

Consider for instance a student with the desire to obtain good grades. Feelings of attachment may cause the student to worry endlessly about test results that he starts to suffer from nervous breakdowns and insomnia. On the other hand, a student with the same desire may use detachment as a coping mechanism. In this case, the student devotes his time studying to the point of excluding everything else, such as eating and sleeping regularly or treating loved ones with indifference.

Desire and detachment are obviously two different things but you can experience them at the same time. Ultimately, it is nonattachment that you should aim for if you wish your desires to be fulfilled. Feelings of nonattachment free you from negative thoughts and emotions while at the same time motivating you to do and think better to achieve your goal.