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Part Two: Reprogramming your Filters – Using LOA for Your Success

So you have discovered how your “backsliding” is actually the “Law of Attraction” in action. You have learned the science behind why your mind seems to be “working against you.”

 

And this is great news!

If you can use the Law of Attraction to program your mind to create failure, and you can see and understand how that is working, you also understand how you can use this process to create success in your life. The very same process you have been inadvertently using to sabotage your success can be consciously created to produce a program for success.

You can not only eliminate “backsliding” forever, you can actually draw yourself, almost effortlessly, toward your success.

 

The process is basically the same as the way you “backslide,” except you are moving to a positive goal, a goal you actually want, and this is intentional.

 

Step One: Find Your Focus Point

When you were backsliding, your focus was on “backsliding.” “Not backsliding” and “backsliding” are the same when it comes to programming your filters. So your focus was on failure.

Now you will find one thing, one positive, helpful thing, that you want in your life. Make this something that is tangible and something you can accomplish yourself. Make it positive and in the present tense.

So come up with that one specific, positive goal. Maybe a new habit or something tangible you want to accomplish. Maybe it’s a way of being – maybe you want a carefree feeling, or to connect with people in certain situation.

Step Two: Associate an Image and Feeling

You have your positive intention, now give it depth. What would it look and sound and feel like to successfully have that in your life? What feelings would be going on in your body? What thoughts would be going on in your mind? Get as clear as possible. Really feel yourself having this success.

Step Three: Create an Emotional Charge Around What You Want

Now, imagine a time of intense happiness and elation. Maybe you had some success. Maybe your favorite sports team won a big game. Maybe you fell in love. Whatever it is, go back to that intense feeling, feel everything about that emotion.

It doesn’t even have to be a positive emotion, it could be anger, which certainly is the charge around a lot of thought filters, but I would advise using a positive emotional association, and make sure there is no “hidden hurt,” like the feeling of falling in love which resulted in a painful breakup. Make sure it is a “pure joy” feeling.

After a few minutes, bring up the image and feelings of the success image you want while feeling this emotion. Fully link the image and feeling of having this success you want with this awesome, positive, intense emotional experience.

Step Four: Begin Moving Toward That Goal

Every day, throughout your day, keep revisiting that image, those sensations, that intense emotion. And keep asking yourself “How am I getting closer to this?” “How can I being even more of this into my life?” “What can I be doing differently that will bring me closer to this reality?”

That’s it.

It is that simple, but it is not easy. Your focus is on you achieving that thing you want for yourself, what you can do to embody more of that quality, and in what ways you are getting closer to that vision of success you have created.

It will take some retraining for your mind to focus on the positive goal, without slipping into old negative habits, so learning this process is like learning a new skill. You will have to give yourself time and space to allow the new thought pattern to take hold.

And initially it will take work to “re-train” your mind. You will have to access that image many times during the day, and re-tweak it to make sure it is a positive image and you are asking yourself the forward-focused questions.

Also, since these thought patterns are tied up with emotions, you’re going to be going up against some emotionally-charged limiting beliefs and habits. So from time to time you will have to release these emotions and allow yourself to heal. This is a critical part of the process – clearing out the old emotions and healing old wounds.

And perhaps the most important overriding mindset in all of this is that what you are doing, what you are adding or changing in your life, is not who you are. Whatever level of success you are achieving, and whatever level of success you desire, are not reflections on you as a person. You are already perfect as you are – a perfect, amazing, immortal being. Your desire for more success in certain aspects of your life is you wanting to give yourself more of the things that bring you satisfaction and joy. But whether you have the success you want now or not, you are perfect and amazing as you are right now.

Two key parts of self-acceptance are first, taking time to get in touch with that amazing person you are and second, keeping your skills – and whatever you are learning or desiring is essentially a skill – separate from your self-worth. You are infinitely valuable. When you take the time to access that inner core, you’ll be blown away by how amazing you are. Next to that, your skills, or perceived lack of skills (and it’s all relative) have no bearing on your worth.

So whether you are a master at something or not, you can accept where you are at right now while still thinking the world of yourself. And you can observe yourself moving closer and closer to your goal without making it mean something about you as a person.

And that is a huge relief. It is a lot easier to change and have success when you approach it from the attitude that you are learning a new task, like riding a bike or learning the alphabet, instead of something that affects your worth as a human being.

When it comes to things like women and dating, there is so much emotion and perceived selfworth tied up in this, as well as deep biological urges, it feels to a lot of men that having success, or not having success, with women and dating is a reflection of their self-worth. The great news is it is not. It is just another mindset to learn, another skill. And when you are able to recognize the difference, it takes the pressure off and allows you to be very clear about where you are now and where you want to be, while at the same time fully appreciating your value as a man and as a human being.

And the really interesting thing about discovering this distinction when it comes to something as emotional and important as dating and relationships is that once you do find that distinction and begin fully loving yourself as you are and simply treat the process as a learning process, regardless of your currently level of “success,” you become a lot more attractive. Sometimes that shift alone can be enough to actually “solve” your “dating problems.”