Dear Dad,
I could be very difficult sometimes and this could make living with me difficult most times. Yet dad, you need me always around you. The truth many dads have failed to realize is that what they say about their wards matter a lot. How far I can go is partly a result of the kind of words you proclaim about me. I am invariably the substance of your words.
Dad, I deserve positive encouraging words from you. You need to develop a dictionary of some of the best words you would use on me. One truth you need realize dad, is that you are showing me how responsible you are and how responsive you are too. You do know that I am taking example from you and the types of words you hear me speak are a result of the words you have spoken.
There is power in spoken words dad. Our tongue is a very powerful tool for change. Whatever the tongue declares has massive impact and can create change. You are my greatest influence. Your words thus have a tremendous impact on how I will lead my life for the rest of my life.
Dads' tongues have positive have well as negative impact on their wards. As much as you want to be a blessing to me, your words should be positive and welcoming. Do not be tempted at any time to use negative derogatory words on me, because my action will be the result of the words you chose to use.
Many dads have laid curses on their wards for flimsy reasons. They fail to understand that every child has to grow and during the process of growing, they often will make mistakes. Some dads want absolute perfection, a state that is impossible in the world we find ourselves.
You must realize that I have all the time in the world to grow and make mistakes. As my dad, you are not perfect yourself, and you do sometimes make mistakes even though no one corrects you. The fact that you are not corrected does not mean you are always right. Probably, if you had people who were watching over you, perhaps you would have had some terrible lashes.
How would you feel if someone often uses negative words on you? You will feel bad. You would not like it. I too feel hurt when rather than correcting me in a positive manner, you choose to use swear words. Have you wondered, how life would have being if those words you used every time on me were to occur as you speak. You would be regretting your actions.
A story is told of a father and his son. The son had lost his cool over issues that are every day issues to the normal adolescent, but the dad felt embarrassed by his son's actions and reacted by laying a curse on his son. On hearing these words, the son left home in anger and never returned home for many years. Age was not on the father's side either. All attempts to contact the young man were unfruitful. Things went from bad to worse for this father that on a certain day while roaming the street for help, he met this son in a car.
The son offered a meager sum to his father not recognizing that he was his father. He was about driving away from his dad when he heard his name from his dad. His son did not recognize him. It turned out to be a reunion but this should never have happened if the dad had controlled his words.
Make it a habit to bless me through your words. Let your words be sources of encouragement and not discord. Let it build me up and not run me down. Let this be at the back of your mind that I have my pride to which I often will love to protect.
Build with your words dad, inspire me, encourage me and let your words be such that I can count on.
With Love
Your son