The Transition And New Circumstance
"The transition and new circumstance - journeying down the path of the single parent
You are also growing and changing throughout this process. You will realize it, your kids will know and see it, as will others. This is another change you and everyone around you have to deal with as well, on top of everything else.
You might also feel anxious, lonely, and angry or evoke these emotions in your child/family. Again this is quite normal and natural behavior.
"Seeing things from the child's point of view
This is not only all about you either. Try and see things thought the eyes of your child sometime and whole new worlds of understanding and possibilities will open for you.
"A new path and survival plan for single parents - rewards and challenges
We have spoken a lot in theory about what happens to you when faced with these situations. Now we get to the more practical WHAT DO I DO NOW, NEXT, IN MY CASE TYPE OF QUESTIONS?
"SETTLING IN AS INDIVIDUALS AND A NEW FAMILY UNIT
Challenges:
There are so many, that it is probably possible to write one whole book on this topic alone. We are opting to take a little less 'negative' approach to this. Rather focusing on the process and outcome than the surrounding, complexities and factors, uphill battles and obstacles some and all of us might specifically face. Here are some examples:
Getting everything done, on time, being where you need to be, do what you have to do and stay sane through it all.
Finding the financial means (food, boarding/housing, transportation, food, clothing and providing necessities of life, safe place to stay, live and play) Baby-sitting and daycare, employment and income, support and other family-related challenges.
Emotionally supporting your kids, while and despite your world crumpling before your eyes. Being and providing the stability although you do not feel you can or have it in you.
Coping with loss and change and the new roles and responsibilities of being a sole custodian and major care-giver, provider and head of the family.
Rewards: Life does go on! You can do it!
Together with your kids you are embarking on reclaiming and building your life together. You are embracing your future with a positive attitude, hope and a plan of action.
Renewed connection, deepening love and caring relationship with your kids.